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I know this isn't something critical, but it has been on my mind.

 

Since better understanding my gender identity, I feel like there are certain aspects of myself or what I like that I need to change in order to be "man enough". One example, ever since I was a child I've loved stuffed animals and I currently own around 20. (Some are on my bed or the sofa, some are on my work desk.) I feel like when I come out fully, people won't take me seriously because I enjoy a lot of non-masculine things. 

 

I know that this is a bit silly of a problem to have.  I've been working hard to rewire my brain away from the gendered biases I was raised with, because everyone should be able to enjoy whatever they like. Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do to help change your thinking? 

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I can understand and sympathise.  As I am approaching this from the opposite perspective, I have often felt like a fraud because my interests are "too masculine".  These include such things as collecting classic cars and motorcycles.

 

People are always going on about social constructs and gender stereotyping, but I think that there is truth in the fact that children are conditioned to portray a certain image.  Boys must appear to be fearless warriors, and girls must be good housekeepers and mothers.

 

The problem is due to the fact that humans have evolved beyond the level where they only worry about basic survival and reproduction.  None of the complex activities that people are capable of really need to be gendered, it is just tradition.

 

The answer should be that, if you like something, that is you business, and it doesn't matter what other people think. Trans people are often extremely anxious to fit into a particular social group, and not to give anyone cause to question or reject them. If one is not careful, this can lead to going from playing one character that is not really you to another.

 

Robin.

 

P.S. I have got lots of stuffed animals and have always loved them.

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Hello   Learningwho i am I am a mtf just was able to come out a year ago i really like being girly but i also like to go out and run my saw mill with my tractor. for me I just try to be who i am.most of the time it works good. sometimes i have to give myself a kick in the back side

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6 hours ago, Robin said:

The answer should be that, if you like something, that is you business, and it doesn't matter what other people think. Trans people are often extremely anxious to fit into a particular social group, and not to give anyone cause to question or reject them. If one is not careful, this can lead to going from playing one character that is not really you to another.

 

Robin.

 

P.S. I have got lots of stuffed animals and have always loved them.

Thank you Robin. I do agree it seems much harder for trans people because so much emphasis is placed on passing in other's eyes. (And I'm glad I'm not the only one!)

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4 hours ago, rachel w said:

Hello   Learningwho i am I am a mtf just was able to come out a year ago i really like being girly but i also like to go out and run my saw mill with my tractor. for me I just try to be who i am.most of the time it works good. sometimes i have to give myself a kick in the back side

Thats great! We should all be allowed to enjoy whatever we want. 

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