Girl name

[Fly2188]

Before my most recent therapist appointment I sent her a note to ask if she could try calling me Jessica during our appointment. 
 

While it made me so happy to hear someone call my by my girl name, it also make me feel a bit uncomfortable since I was dressed in my mens business casual. 

I’m thinking of making the name change more permanent for my therapy appointments. 

 

Just wanted to share.

[Zelaire]

I've been very interested in finding out how it feels to be called by a female name and pronouns, but as it sounds with both of you at various points, I'm not out to most so it would be hard to accomplish. My therapist asked in an early session whether I'd picked another name for myself--which I had--and although she hasn't addressed me by it, she has recalled it several times. Usually when we talk about small explorations I'm trying, to ask me whether I "see her" in the mirror, etc. 

@Fly2188, if you're comfortable continuing to share, I'd love to hear how this goes for you over multiple sessions. To see if it gets as comfortable as @Hannah Renee's name did for her. 😊

[Zelaire]

I want to give your reply a big heart, @Hannah Renee. ❤️😊 If I try this, I'll try to report back, too. In the meantime, congrats on the impending legal name change!

[miz miranda]

I'm not sure where I came across this method. When I was first confronting my gender, I made a list of about 10 names that I liked. I watched myself in the mirror while saying each name. I selected Miranda because I simply was beaming whenever I said it. It clearly made me fool good. I actually took the top 3 from the list and recorded me saying them and listened to how I sounded. Again, I felt that little bit happier when I heard Miranda.

[Fly2188]

On 7/17/2022 at 2:01 PM, Hannah Renee said:

I started using Hannah at therapy within my first few sessions. It was virtually impossible for me to dress other than male (wife and kids at home) unless I took a clothes with me to be change into and out of in the car. Minimal, of course, and awkward. It was a year before I could dress appropriately for my sessions, and that was because my wife and I separated. It was a bit of a struggle emotionally that first year, but that was tempered by the knowledge that I finally and truly knew myself, and was continuing to take small steps. And that includes being called Hannah by someone one day a week at therapy and every two weeks for electrolysis.

 

I think you'll get used to it and embrace it regardless of how you're dressed.😉

I’m doing my sessions via zoom in the middle of the work-day with a therapist who’’s office is an hour drive away. While I’d love to dress for the appointment. It isn’t realistic at all. 
 

I keep replaying her calling me Jessica in my head. And it’s so euphoric. 
 

How were you able to admit it all to your wife. My therapist is trying to get me to sepRate my internal wants/needs/desires from my wife’s. But the two are so intertwined that it’s hard. I guess in reality I am a woman. But I don’t know how to move down that path when so many of my hopes/dreams/etc. are tied to my wife.