What's In A Name

[Guest angie]

As i was growing up,my most secret name was,Amme.

This was the name that no one was aware of,to all i was just"D...."

Ahh but i have been many names over all of the years of my gender confusion.

I have been Jenny,Tami or Tammy,Jennifer,Donna too many to list here.

My coming out name was Missy,but my family,counselors,therapist, shoot everyone...

Gave me an infatic NOOOOO!Choose something anything else but that name...please.

My therapist at the time suggested a play on my birth name...UHhhhhh no.

I was trying to escape the past and all that i was in that past life.

It took months trying on names,suggesting them to my wife,and she didn't like a one.

It so happened that one night while watching a movie...

I heard the name that i have to this day.

Angelique..."That's IT That Is My Name!",

Scared the bjeezes out of my wife,cause i shouted it out when i heard it.

For the few months that my marriage lasted after coming out,i was called by that name.

It was right before i moved out for good,that my family as a whole.

Decided that Angelique ,was too big a mouthful for them to call me by.

Therefore,my ex came up with Angie,

How prophetic that i would find myself using the name that she suggested.

She Is Me...I am the happiest i have ever been in my life bar none.

And then to have people tell me that i look like an Angie too....

Ahh spiritual harmony at last.

Soooo pray tell,how did you chose your real name?

Hugs My Sisters,

Love Angie

[Guest Seren]

Even though i know nobody with such a name i always liked the name Sarah, but i now much more prefer Seren which is a welsh name meaning Star.

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora Angie, Are you really 'Angel like' ?

My cyber name Jendar was originally Jen Dar [no points for guessing where it derives from]...BUt my real name means 'Generosity' according to an ancient language spoken a couple of thousand years ago. In modern times it's a 'bi-gendered' androgynous name and can be spelt in a number of different ways. Because this was my first time in any type of forum I was under the impression [going by the registration info] that cyber names were the norm...besides I think 'Jendar' as grown on me now.

Metta Jendar

[Guest Cassandra_s]

I was growing up (from about 6 on) my name was Heather (despite everyone calling me by my icky given male name). Unfortunately, no one knew my real name but me.

Then, an explosion happened, and it seemed everyone was called Heather. A few years later I had several friends named Heather. I changed my name at that point to Cassandra, but really think of myself as Cass or Cassy.

[Guest phebe09]

For the last 16 years, as well as the foreseeable future, I've been known by my given name Edward to all off line people. I like that it's unique, hate that it can't be played well into a feminine name.

When I was registering here, I named my self after the many many Phebes in my family's history. (Honestly, most everyone before my grandfather's generation was a Jacob or a Phebe). It was the first name that popped into my head.

-Phebe

[Guest Kimberley Jackson]

my name just came from someone i admire (celebrity) maybe someone i wish i was most of the time not because there famous but because i love the way they look. xx kim

[Guest Sophie Jean]

A long time ago on a prank call where I disguised my voice, the name Debbie just came to mind. Later, I tried using it, but it didn't feel quite right. Neither did the femme version of my birth name.

Finally, I asked my Mom what she would have named me. She said "Nettie Jean." I scrapped the Nettie part and found a random baby name generator. I kept hitting the generate button, trying the name on my lips, until I saw Sophie, and it felt and sounded just right to me.

- SJ

[Guest angie]

When i was Four,my Daddy told me i was supposed to have been a girl(tell me something i don't know Pop).And that if i had,my name would have been Michelle.

This was right after i told my parents that i was a girl.

They weren't so welcoming of their supposed to be daughter.

When i told them it was more like,"NO! You're A Boy,Act Like One!"

Funny what one remember from their childhood isn't it?

Angie.

[Guest Jenny]

I have always liked Jenny, there are so many pretty names out there though, it is hard to choose. I just subconciously chose Jenny though.

[Guest Jenni]

Since I started coming out I have used Breanna, Holly and Wanda. Breanna is a female name I have always liked but it sounded too young for me. Not many girls born in the late 50's with that name so I went to Holly briefly it didnt fit well either so I switched to Wanda. According to my mom that would have been my name if I had been born a gg. Meaning no offence to any girls named Wanda......the longer I used it the more I disliked it. There was at the time an office worker at my employment named Jennifer and she was about my age. I also rememberd a classmate in highschool named Jennifer I liked the name, so I started using it a bit over a year ago. My feminine last name (Morris) is my birth middle name.

[Guest Xandra]

To be honest, the way I came up with Alexandra was by talking to a friend.. :-/ I kind of stole my name. People would tell me which person they though I acted like, and then give me their name. That kind of gave me my list, I guess it's Cheesy

Alexandra (Xandra or Zandra) worked with me at Starbucks, and was a tomboy :-/ which that's kind of how I'm hoping to be, My personality fits, just gotta make the physical become mental :-P

[Guest Mani]

This nick, Mani, is a rough translation of my birth name.

The first name that I use is the middle name my parents would have given me if I was born a boy. (My parents didn't know what I would be before I was born and, ironically, had a much easier time coming up with a boy name then a girl name ). The middle name that I chose, I picked a meaning I wanted it to have, and then searched and searched on name websites, sorted through and sorted, till I found one that fit me.

~Mani

[Guest matthew41]

As a kid, my self confidence to join the other boys on the playground was automatic. But when they asked my name, anytime I gave the one given me at birth, I was often rejected or made fun of. So I asked my mom what my name would have been if born a boy. From that I took an androgynous nickname which worked great. Most if not all the other boys saw me as male and to them my new name confirmed it. That nickname lead to me choosing the male full version as my first name. As far as I was concerned, I had taken my new name at age 10. I choose Matthew as my middle name because I liked it equally well and knew that some friends and family needed an alternative name to see me as male and be able to use the right pronouns. For them, using my old nickname automatically leads to the use of female pronouns.

Matt

[Guest brandt]

well it wasnt that hard for me. choosing a name. i havent really confirmed if it would be my real name when i get a legal name change and if my mother approved. but i simply went thru all the names i liked. trey trevor brandt kevin. so i just started to take out those that would be too common. i chosed the name brandt because it was unique and i had a guy friend that had that name. so i started to go out with that name not publicly but online. it was hard to use it publicly because i still looked much like a girl and people would question. but i have been giving second thoughts for the name kayden because its closer to my real name and if someone that knew me hears when i say the name kayden to someone that doesnt know. they might just hear it differently and think i said my real name. so kayden is for those who know me well as a girl. i come out as brandt to those who dont. but that could become confusing in time.

[Guest Madi]

Well I always knew that I was a girl on the inside, and it meant alot to me when my mom first told me what my name would be if I was born a GG. Madison. I liked that name alot more than my male name (go figure), plus, I wanted to respect my parents and use that name anyway.

[Guest SamanthaT]

I admit to taking the easy route and feminizing my birth name. Samuel became Samantha, which I like

They shorten the same way. Funny though, when I was in grade school I was called that by some people who wanted to tease and hurt. It doesn't hurt though to be seen as a girl when that's what you are inside.

[Guest Exiledrain]

I've always had a rough time with this one.

I once asked my mother what she would have named me if I were born a girl (she still doesn't know how I feel), and she said "Oh, I always knew you were a boy, so we never brought it up."

I decided to find one for myself, one that fit me, that really defined and fit who I was on the inside. After going through a long list of wild, crazy and what I thought would be 'interesting' names, I realize that I would need something more common. I needed a good, strong name that expressed the need to fit in as a woman instead of sticking out in a crowd (which I hate). In the end, I felt Jane was simple, yet strong, and didn't attract the spotlight I disliked so much. It really just fit who I was, and I feel any name that can do that for you is the right one.

Once you hear it, you'll know.

[Guest Katie-Louise]

If I was born a gg my mom and dad would've called me Samantha I haven't exactly chosen a permanent name yet but for now it is Katie. A feminine name for my name would be Tina or Tanya. My dad chose my name when I was born so it was very important to him. But I would consider Samantha as my name because I know my dad would like it. I asked my mom to choose my second name Louise because she has always wanted a daughter and has always had one (me!) so I know she would be more than pleased. When I get my name changed I will tell you my permanent name but for now it Katie-Louise.

[Sakura]

after my mom became cool and got over the initial shock she said one day i cant call you (insert sakuras male name here)any more so we sat and my mom worked out jennifer nichole Jenn to some Nikki to others which was cool i always wanted a J name anyway

Sakura

[Guest Bethany]

My name chose me sort of, shortly after a painful divorce I created a charactor and persona on an online game - Everquest. This persona embodied every trait that I found to be admirable in a female, honesty integrity with purity of spirit and nature, she was truely incorruptable. Bethany Truespirit was around a few years before I realized she was actually more like me then anyone else could be....

/hugs Bethany

[Guest Kiera]

My name is tied to my heritage and was chosen carefully for the beauty of the sound and for its meaning. Kiera Leanne rolls off of my toungue and can mean "dark haired compassionate poet" ... which suits me just fine since I have dark hair and I even write poetry.

Huggles n loves

Kiera

[Guest angie]

You know,

My name too rolls off my tounge and my pen so fluidly so rightly.

I always hated my male name(meaning kingly or strong)ugg.

When i found mine...It just felt right.

Angelic?I may not be...But Angelique Michelle is (ME).

Hugs,

Angie.

[Guest meep]

My name discovery was kind of funny, I was in deep thought and someone yelled "Katie" I said "Yeah?" my class laughed and the incident was dismissed by them afterwards (Wanting to be a girl isn't something that comes up in common conversation and it seemed so insignificant ti everyone except me). I had been thinking about how I felt for a while by then and Katie seemed to click with me it's short, cute, and not extraordinarily common though still. (I know how I found my name seems silly Katie just clicks with me)

[Guest angie]

Hi Katie,

That was my Gramma's name,and one i always liked.

Isn't it funny how when you find your name...It Just Clicks.

Yeah,that's my name ummmhmmm...And It Is.

Hugs Girl,

Angie.

[Guest Mr. Fox]

I chose Adrian because it is an interesting name and slightly androgynous. Most guy names straw inhaler in my opinion.