Winning Back My Family

[Guest angie]

On this road we call transition,

I have weathered anger,isolation,rejection,now finally,the last and final

step in the grieving process,total acceptance.The surrender to who I now

am,and will be for the rest of my life,a woman.And it came from those I love

the most,my family.

It started Wednesday afternoon.

I had called my ex to keep in contact and say hello.We got to talking about

where I am going,the path I walked to getting here and us.When the subject

got to my pending date on the sugeons table,she didn't shy away from the

discussion like she had so many times before.She even told me something

that came as a total surprise to me.She said,"I have matured over the last

six years.I know now,if we could do this all over again,I would have stayed

with you,worked this out.I know I could handle you becoming a woman."

And she even told me she loves me.We,the two of us,will have to explore

this newest development further.Get to know each other,woman to woman.

Will it lead to us reuniting?That is hard to say.But I am willing to reach out

and make the effort at reconciliation.

My oldest called Friday morning to say she wanted me to go with her to her

therapy appointment.Meet her therapist,who asked if she would mind my coming.

Colie is the bond that is healing the wounds of my transition within my family.

She did something no body else has attempted.Watch me make the long slow

journey into being who I am today.To Colie's credit,she only misgendered me

once.That was at introductions with her therapist.When she called me a (he)

and I asked her to please use she,having not been a man in a long long time.

I was the first transsexual woman her therapist had ever knowingly met.

After asking for permission from Cole,proceeded to question me about,transition,

living life female,the terms we use to tell who we are,how long I have lived as

a woman and how long I have know I am TS/TG.When she asked if I minded my

kids calling me dad or refering to me in the male...I told her,"Not at all.I am proud

to be the father of these wonderful women I call my children.And get a kick out

of being in public and adressed as daddy.To see the looks on others faces when

they see a small woman answering them is priceless.Knowing that I will always be

Papa to my grandson's is blessing,because they are all mine."She asked Cole if I

was always this feminine?Her answer came as a shock to her the therapist.

"Oh no,my dad used to be so big,manly and very masculine.That is why my mom,

sister and I have had such a hard time accepting her becoming a woman." Then her

therapist said something that blew Nicole away."I don't see anything of a man at all.

All I see is a woman,I can't even get a picture you as a masculine man."

(siiigh and thank you)

Talked to Nicole yesterday.She thanked me for coming,said she is glad I came,that

I looked very pretty the morning,and that her therapist said she was impressed with

me,wants me to come back anytime.Now this is a Father's Day I will remember for

a loooong time.The total surrender to my womanhood by my loved one's.The great

healing I had wished for,prayed for,for all those long lonely years.I am truly blessed.

With Love,

Angelique

[Guest Ashlee]

Oh Angie!

How wonderful that must feel!

To have the total support of those you love, its priceless.

And, to have your ex say those wonderful things. I hope you and her are able to have a good relationship from now on.

AND, your wonderful daughter, how great is it that she is so understanding.

You MUST be on cloud 9!

{{HUGS}}

Ashlee

[Sally]

Angie,

I am so happy for you - it has been a long road but the path is getting easier and with this new relationship with your family it has not only leveld out but has started to go a bit downhill, just slightly, the perfect angle for ease of walking.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Donna Jean]

Angie....

That was beautiful....

I came close to a cry, but recent events have left me dangerously short of tears....

Even so...I FELT so good reading this and it made me realize that there is hope for us all...

The initial shock, disbelief and feelings of betrayal wear down and rationale takes it's place...

That has had a very calming effect on me...Thank you so much....

Happy Fathers day, Sweetheart.....And you know how I mean that....

Love

Donna Jean

[Guest Leigh]

wow. that is a great story.

i'm glad that you're ex has been able to work through some of her issues about your transition.

and your closeness with your daughter sounds wonderful.

thanks for sharing.

peace&love

leigh

[Guest angie]

I put these developments out there for those of us married,or soon

to be separated.See there can be a bright side.It may take time,but

with great patience and perseverance,we can get back most we lose

in finding our true selves.

Peace My Sister's,

Angelique