Leg Shaving

[Guest Shelley]

Does anyone think that shaving ones legs is a transitional step to the next level? I have been a cross dresser for most of my life and have been shaving my legs for the last couple years. I have been having serious thoughts of taking it to the next level. I was wondering if anyone has any thoughts on whether or not (if insignificant or not) shaving your legs has any impact on your femininity in your day-to-day life.

[Guest rachael1]

Hmm.. Good question.

I have been epilating my legs and upper body for over a year now. I love the smooth look and feel.

However i don't think that shaving ones legs necessary means they are on the path to transitioning, I guess it's different for everyone.

Speaking for myself i would probably go further and possibly transition if my life had taken a different turn, it's not likely to happen now due to my family and career choices.

I daydream of living as a female fulltime but this just isn't possible, so the next best thing is to let Rachael loose as much as I can get away with.

LOL Rachael

[Guest Donna Jean]

Does anyone think that shaving ones legs is a transitional step to the next level? I have been a cross dresser for most of my life and have been shaving my legs for the last couple years. I have been having serious thoughts of taking it to the next level. I was wondering if anyone has any thoughts on whether or not (if insignificant or not) shaving your legs has any impact on your femininity in your day-to-day life.

Well, Shelly...........

All of the things that you do are just part of a whole process.....Leg shaving helps bring a comfort level to you, but it of itself is no indicator of attaining a "Next level".....

All of the feminizing that you do are things that you do to become more in line with yourself.....

Actually the biggest part of transitioning happens in your head where no one sees it!

Are you refering to transitioning or the next level of cross dressing?

Many of us shave legs and body and wear underthings to help confirm our feminity to ourselves under male trappings as many of us are not out to the world yet!

Good luck, Sweetheart!

Donna Jean

[Guest Rebecca Quentin]

The first time I removed all my body hair it felt like a significant step. I used to be quite hairy but I was so very relieved when I removed it all. I felt so much more comfortable in my body when I looked in the mirror and saw my beautiful skin instead of skin covered in hair.

I'm not sure even now just how big a step towards transitioning it was for me, but it certainly felt like a moment I became much more feminine and it was significant for me. It also made me feel much better when dressed en-femme as my pretty clothes weren't surrounded by hair on any exposed body parts such as my arms or legs...not to mention how infinitely nicer, silky smooth, my clothes and lingerie feel on my body since then.

[Carolyn Marie]

Shelley, if as Donna Jean mentioned, your question refers to transitioning as the next level, I'll repeat what you've

probably seen suggested here many times...therapy from an experienced gender therapist. I think that is the best way of determining your true self.

I've also been a lifelong cross-dresser, but have recently realized, as you have, that it may be much more than that.

I'm looking forward to my first therepy session and hope it will lead to the insights I desperately need.

Good luck, hon, whatever you decide to do.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

I started shaving my armpits, next my chest, then my left thigh, and this week my right thigh. I love the smoothness, although when my wife noticed, she wasn't at all amused. I don't know why this brings me comfort, but I agree with the more practical reasons stated above - it's feminine, my dressing looks more naturally female when I remove the hair, shaving is becoming part of my daily life. I want to shave my legs completely this fall when shorts and bathing suit season is done!

Kisses - KM

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Well Dear Shelly,

Shaving, and smelling sweet are two very important aspects to my female expression.

Oh, jewelery, and accessories help too.

HUGS

Brenda

[Guest OneOutOfnOne]

One's own femininity is a personal thing, and whether or not one considers it a 'next level' will depend on the person. However, I believe committing oneself to shaving one's legs regularly is an important exercise in developing the self-discipline necessary for transitioning.

[Guest rachael1]

I started shaving my armpits, next my chest, then my left thigh, and this week my right thigh. I love the smoothness, although when my wife noticed, she wasn't at all amused. I don't know why this brings me comfort, but I agree with the more practical reasons stated above - it's feminine, my dressing looks more naturally female when I remove the hair, shaving is becoming part of my daily life. I want to shave my legs completely this fall when shorts and bathing suit season is done!

Kisses - KM

I epilate as it allows me expression and I feel daring when I'm out in public. I love being hair free and I'll never go back.

My wife also wasn't amused the other day after an eyebrow plucking session, she thinks I over did it. Oh well I love the look anyway.

Rachael

[Guest Kymmie Lorain]

Well for me it is another step. I have been shaving my legs for about 6 years, at first just in the winter now it is 24/7/265. I hate having hair on my legs and feel embarrassed when I miss a spot. I have recently started shaving my armpits it is just another step.

Kymmie

[Guest androgynous]

Hard to say, as far as I remember I always shaved armpits as a full male, just because -OK gross!- it itched often, and just felt better. Later on started to shave everything except the hair on my head. I would recommend it to anyone, not only does it look better (look younger as well!) it just rocks!

[Guest Elizabeth K]

A classic question here at Laura's - gender dysphoric - but to what degree?

Only a therapist trained in gender dysphoria can tell you.

Other than that - don't worry about it. You are what you are.

And I shaved my legs because i love the feel - later I found I liked to depilate better - lasts longer. But I am talking years. And the next step? What is that? Body hair probably - just a guess. Yes - underarms need care and it helps with body odor to. As to full body? I don't have that problem - so i don't know - but I will warn that stubble in certain areas is a real bad thing! Arms? No - i used a razortrimmer - one rhat reduces the hair, not shaves it off. It worked better as I was not interested in shaving my entire body every other day.

So its a personal thing.

And the advice by the others above is really good.

All I want to add is I DID feel I was more than a crossdresser. It only took me 61 years to ask the right person, my therapist.

Lizzy

[Guest Krystyna_Marie]

Arms? No - i used a razortrimmer - one rhat reduces the hair, not shaves it off. It worked better as I was not interested in shaving my entire body every other day.

OMG, Elizabeth that is an amazing idea, I love it!!!! Thanks for mentioning it, I'm going to do that tomorrow. Always wondered what to do about my hairy arms!

Kisses - KM :^)

[Guest Alison Mendez]

I highly recommend shaving your legs at least once. It's a great feeling. You notice every breeze, your bedsheets feel really good, clothing feels good, it's a whole different sensation of feeling and touch. The only downside to shaving legs is when it starts to grow back because it gets itchy.

On a plus side, if anyone notices you've shaved your legs you can always tell them you're competing in swimming competitions

[Guest April63]

Shaving your legs is just a cultural thing. It really doesn't make you and more or less feminine. It's all in your head. So if you think it makes you more feminine, then I guess you'll be more feminine and it can take you to that next level.

On a plus side, if anyone notices you've shaved your legs you can always tell them you're competing in swimming competitions

That only works when you're talking to people who don't know that you don't swim. One of my friends pretty much harassed me about it when I shaved my legs. And I told him the runners and swimmers did it, and he says, "So? You don't do that!".

[Guest Clora]

i think it all depends on how you view it. i know when i started shaving my legs i feelt soo good to do it.

[Guest nymphblossom]

i used a razortrimmer - one rhat reduces the hair, not shaves it off.

That is a great idea, Lizzy! Are you talking about something like a razor comb?

Blossom

[Guest virginiaJ]

Im glad to see this topic since i have recently started shaving my legs and so forth. I did question whether i was taking it to the next level or not, but for me its just one way that i can still feel feminine when im not able to. I never wear shorts or anything even during the summer so I dont have to worry bout someone finding out. My excuse though were someone to find out would be that my gf likes it. I think that would pretty much end the topic of it right there, but ill let u know if it comes up lol.

And Lizzy that idea of using a razortrimmer works very nicely i just tried it, and just doing a little bit helps but if i think i can get away with it after seeing how this goes around my family i mite try shaving it just a little bit shorter. Thanks for the tip.

virginia

[Guest rachael1]

I never wear shorts or anything even during the summer so I dont have to worry bout someone finding out. My excuse though were someone to find out would be that my gf likes it. virginia

I use that excuse when someone is rude enough to ask me why I epilate my body. Most people don't even notice however or if they do they are too polite to say anything. I wear shorts in summer so there is no hiding it.

Rachael

[Guest Elizabeth K]

That is a great idea, Lizzy! Are you talking about something like a razor comb?

Blossom

That's it.

Lizzy

[Guest nymphblossom]

Thank you, Lizzy. I picked one up at the beauty supply today.

And Virginia, just to second what Rachael said, I pretty much live in shorts during the summer and am still presenting myself as a guy almost 100% of the time. I have never had anyone even look twice at my shaved legs, let alone question me. Honestly I don't even think about it much anymore.

Blossom

[Guest joan eden]

I think smooth legs and skirts go together like milk and honey or some such.

[Guest devida]

I shave my legs, and armpits and everything except my arms and head and I wear short shorts. Nobody has ever said a word to me about it. My wife, who doesn't shave because she's blond and doesn't have much hair anyway really does not care and she's the only person to whose opinion I would pay any attention. If you have friends who harass you about it, well, maybe you should look for less intrusive, more polite and more accepting friends. I simply don't know anyone who would dare to mention the presence or absence of hair on my body to me. Why ever would you associate with people so rude?