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Hello,I am a pre op transsexual.Growing up,my parents saw I acted feminine a lot and this started at age 5.I hid it in for a long time.Plus I was pressured a lot and put a toll on me.Plus my twin brother sensed something was different with me.It was after I was diagnosed with PTSD at age 19,finally came out as transgender.For me transitioning was worth it for me and my family sees me much happier to this day.It also brought my brother and I together more,says he does not miss the unhappy brother to this day he once had.Treats me like a normal sister in his life.

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Heatherd.  Congrats on your transition!  It's great to hear that your family is supportive.  We have lots of great info to offer here, and I hope you take advantage of it.  Please let us know how we can support you on your journey.

 

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Welcome, Heatherd.  It was great to read the positive aspects of your story.  I've found people on this site to be amazingly supportive and understanding, participating in these forums has been very therapeutic for me.  I hope that your experience here is a good as mine has been.

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42 minutes ago, Trans22 said:

Welcome, Heatherd.  It was great to read the positive aspects of your story.  I've found people on this site to be amazingly supportive and understanding, participating in these forums has been very therapeutic for me.  I hope that your experience here is a good as mine has been.

It is and I was suffering.My brother and I made a photo book during my transition,one for me and one for him.He grew up with a happy life fitting in as male and I did not.My brother and I did read twins can know each other reading their minds

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Good evening and welcome Heatherd,

 

As you seen by the responses above, you are in a safe place to be who you really are.

 

Best wishes, stay positive, and motivated.

 

Mindy🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

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I recall watching a youtube(?) video about an FtM twin story similar to yours - their cisgender female twin always saw them as being a boy/man.  The common thread I've heard to almost all transgender stories is that life after is better than life before, regardless of the challenges of life after transition.

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11 minutes ago, Trans22 said:

I recall watching a youtube(?) video about an FtM twin story similar to yours - their cisgender female twin always saw them as being a boy/man.  The common thread I've heard to almost all transgender stories is that life after is better than life before, regardless of the challenges of life after transition.

We watched one Red Without Blue,a set of twins and one transitioned to female,her brother is gay

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16 hours ago, heatherd said:

For me transitioning was worth it for me and my family sees me much happier to this day.It also brought my brother and I together more,says he does not miss the unhappy brother

Welcome @heatherd, It’s a pleasure to meet you. I feel the same way about transitioning. I experienced mixed initial reactions but over time I’ve been accepted by most of my family and nearly every one of my friends. Also like yourself, most of them have mentioned at some point during my journey that my transition has helped me become more approachable and friendly. You’re so blessed having a supporting brother who understands you and accepts you.

 

15 hours ago, heatherd said:

I learned not to keep things in

The negative effects of keeping things to oneself by suppression and denial tactics can do harm over time. I didn’t realize the extent of those effects until starting hormones and eventually coming out. The resulting freedom and weight lifted felt like nothing I had ever experienced before.

 

Thank you for taking time and sharing a part of yourself with us. You are not alone.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

 

 

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3 hours ago, Susan R said:

Welcome @heatherd, It’s a pleasure to meet you. I feel the same way about transitioning. I experienced mixed initial reactions but over time I’ve been accepted by most of my family and nearly every one of my friends. Also like yourself, most of them have mentioned at some point during my journey that my transition has helped me become more approachable and friendly. You’re so blessed having a supporting brother who understands you and accepts you.

 

The negative effects of keeping things to oneself by suppression and denial tactics can do harm over time. I didn’t realize the extent of those effects until starting hormones and eventually coming out. The resulting freedom and weight lifted felt like nothing I had ever experienced before.

 

Thank you for taking time and sharing a part of yourself with us. You are not alone.

 

Warmest Regards,

Susan R🌷

 

 

I became much nicer and more friendly once I went on the hormones.Before,I was friendly at times and sometimes on my bad side having anger swings.It was bad

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As @Ivysaid 

2 hours ago, Ivy said:

I had people remark that I was much happier after starting HRT as well.

Until I  had my endocrinologist appointment and had my HRT prescription in my hand, I had picked and chose as to when I would present as female. This would be mainly for appointments (Doctor, Hospital or such), or where I was very comfortable. From the time I had that HRT gift in my hands, I never looked back. I adopted my chosen name, came out full time including neighbors, friends, and most family.

I felt different immediately, more confident in my decision and have never looked back.

Physical changes started within 6 weeks and mental calmness was quickly too.

My life has totally changed and I am the happiest i have been for many, many years.

 

The effects will be different in everyone, so just accept it and enjoy the ride of your new life.

 

Big Canadian Hugs

JoniSteph

 

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For me, the mental aspects of HRT far outweigh the physical, but I'm only 3 months and 2 days into HRT.   I managed to survive existing for ~40 years after puberty onset, now I'm finally getting to experience how wonderful life is and HRT plays a significant part in this.

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