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happyinvermont

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Ok just came back from urologist. 3 years ago I had prostate surgery to remove my cancer. Year after that my ex wife told me she was leaving me. So while still on her health insurance I got an ams penile implant. Now two years later part of it is causing me some serious pain. Have MRI scheduled to see what is going on. 

Now this means I might have to have surgery on it again. In the two years I might have used it 6 times. Even though it would maintain it's ridge shape I still wouldn't last more than 45 seconds.

  Now that I am transition I don't know if I want it anymore. I was thinking of more of the lines of a ZDV. I am not as lucky as some others. The back door wouldn't give as much pleasure as others. No prostate. So I would be dry nothing to come out. I think I would rather have a better shape and bigger lips down below than depth. So much to think about 

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It certainly sounds like you are giving good thought to the issue.

 

I had ZDV three years ago.  I have been quite happy with the results.  I still have some ongoing discomfort from the surgery, but with the help of a good pelvic floor physiotherapist, I am getting that under control.  It is already much better than it was.

 

I haven't given it any "use" at all.  My wife and I are both of an age where that is not a priority, and I have much less libido now of course.  No "big O" so far, and not a lot of motivation to try.  And that is just fine with me.

 

You have to do what is right for you.  From my point of view, it sounds like getting a ZDV instead of just getting the implant removed would be a good option for you.

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I agree that you are giving this good thought.  I had prostate surgery over ten years ago.  Like Kathy I am of the age where "use" was not important.  Not having the prostate does affect certain facets of pleasure but you'll get by that.  Having M2F surgery has been a satisfying experience for me.  Speak to several surgeons and read as much as you can to arrive at the best decision for yourself.

 

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