Can't See Well?

[EVAN_DESU]

I know I can't be, I know I am not skinny, I know I am not thin at all.

I have huge hips and thighs. DX

I just wish I could be 100 pounds or something.

But my mom told me I would look disgusting since I have big bones.

My collar bones stick out a lot, thats the only thing I notice really.

I have no binding device DX I fail, I'm even wearing three sports bras and still, it looks like im not. DX

[Guest Eth]

Hey Evan-kun,

I don't know what to do for the actual body (other than, y'know, T)... But these tips might help you "pass" when out and about in general.

First off: if you can find a way to get a proper binder, do it. If possible, get one from underworks possibly in the form of a masculine t-shirt or something to also help shape your full torso. That'd help a lot.

Second: You're wearing the wrong color pants. No seriously... See, by wearing a dark shirt and light pants, there's huge contrast and the eyes are dragged towards the "shocking" brighter colors, so people are more apt to notice the hips. If you do your best to keep your pants *darker* than your shirts, it'll help to "slim" them and will also bring less attention to them.

Third: The collar of your shirt is too low. Don't wear them so small that you're choking yourself... But try and get a shirt with a collar that is closer to your collar bone. It's just a more "boyish" style for some reason, so it'll help.

Fourth: Skin tone. Your skin looks to be all one tone (which I find to actually be pretty hot on both sexes >_>, but anyways), when most guys actually have a pretty uneven tone not just in the face but on arms as well. As weird as this sounds, you might want to use some makeup/foundation that is -close- to your skin tone but just slightly off, and learn to apply it in a few spots in such a way that it makes your skin tone more (but not totally) uneven. Also, making your face slightly darker will help too, and you can even use some light eyeshadow in the proper spots to make your brow look more rigid. I'm not sure how much you'll want to follow this fourth step but I just thought I'd mention it. Oh and, if you do decide to do any of this, also note that male faces have more bumps and thus make more shadows on the face and neck. You can use eyeshadow to "mimic" these shadows in the appropriate locations (below the jaw, below the brows/near the eyes).

Good luck!

愛 Eth

[Guest Cody_T]

you look good to me, weight wise. I don't see why you'd need to be any skinnier.

As for binding... if you need help w/that it'd be good to know about how big and everything and I could see if I can come up with some suggestions. You can't really tell in the picture that you're not, it's just the cut of the shirt. Try baggier, especially in the arms, and higher neck like Eth said. In fact, pretty much just follow her instructions since they're really good. Although I wouldn't try the makeup as I'd guess you have to be super skillful to make that work.

[Guest Leigh]

hey Evan, you should look up big brothers binders. they can get you a binder for about 5 dollars. all you need is a paypal account....though, you are 14...so not sure you can set one up. but, hey, if you look it up, i'll buy one for you (heck, it's only 5 bucks). you might not realize it right now, but binding is a HUGE confidence boost. and Eth is right about the masculine t-shirt and darker pants...

but, for real, look up big brothers binders, and hit me up. we can definitely hook you up with a proper binder.

peace&love

leigh

[Guest joeytheman16]

I think you look good. Your not overweight and 100lbs is too small. You seem to be at a happy medium.

Eth mentioned skin tone. Myabe it is just where I live but us guys wear t-shirts ALL year round. So we all have "farmers tans". I'm not sure if it helps or doesn't help with passing or not. Just thought I would throw it out there.

I'd recommend getting a binder and guys shirts. Eth mentions the contrast between dark shirts and light pants vs. light shirts and dark pants. I would just get guys pants maybe a size bigger in the waist. I wear dark shirts with light pants constantly and I pass with it (but they are guys pants). About the light shirts, when you get a binder depending on the shirt and if you have an undershirt on, some white/light gray shirts with the correct light (or wrong light in this case) will show the binder lines. I stay away from wearing light shirts as much as possible but doubling up on white t-shirts helps. wearing the a-cut tank tops helps too.

I hope I was some help.

--Joey

[EVAN_DESU]

hey Evan, you should look up big brothers binders. they can get you a binder for about 5 dollars. all you need is a paypal account....though, you are 14...so not sure you can set one up. but, hey, if you look it up, i'll buy one for you (heck, it's only 5 bucks). you might not realize it right now, but binding is a HUGE confidence boost. and Eth is right about the masculine t-shirt and darker pants...

but, for real, look up big brothers binders, and hit me up. we can definitely hook you up with a proper binder.

peace&love

leigh

Aw thanks,

but Mr.Awesome has already set me up with one.

I dunno if it'll fit though. 0_0 *crosses fingers*

[Guest Leigh]

Aw thanks,

but Mr.Awesome has already set me up with one.

I dunno if it'll fit though. 0_0 *crosses fingers*

cool. if not let me know.

looking forward to some pictures with that binder.

peace&love

leigh

[Guest tapiarachael]

Do you think the reason you hate your hips and thighs might stem from your transgenderism like maybe you REALLY hate them because they make you look female and you want to look more male? Idk cause that's what happened my whole life where I didnt like my body (and had a lifelong eating disorder cause of it) and I learned that I really hated my body because deep down I wanted to look more female. IDK just wondering if that's what's going on with you. :/