Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Going Gray


Sally Stone

Recommended Posts

Well, it's official, I'm going gray.  I just bought a new gray wig.  The color is "Silvery Moon" which is a silver gray shade.  I wasn't sure gray would match my skin tone but when I tried it on it seemed to work perfectly.  I'll have a better feel for how it looks when I wear it out this weekend.  I have been thinking about going gray for some time, but just couldn't bring myself to spend the money on new hair (I already own a lot of wigs).  But then, I got great coupon from Paula Young wigs and they offered me free shipping to boot.  It was offer I couldn't pass up. Might be time to update my avatar once again and this time with gray hair.  

Link to comment
  • Admin

Good luck, some can rock it.  My natural gray color is NOT PRETTY in any way, and so I am enjoying a stylist and colorist who is "in the family" (Trans sister) and is proud of what she does for me.

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I have a lovely grey wig of the same style as my everyday gal.  I guess i'm hesitant to go that way because i get a kickmout of people looking amazed when i say i'm 75.  Ohhh vanity your name is also Charlize.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

Link to comment

My natural hair is the same as my wig - Avatar pic is my wig. I initially bought a strawberry blond one, wore it once and realized I just needed to acknowledge my truth in every way. So I bought one in all grey. Now that it's grown out, I am more and more often just combing out my natural hair for every day and save the wig for special occasions. But, I do love the wig.

 

I've found that using So Silver shampoo and conditioner takes any yellow highlights out that I get from sun exposure, etc.

Link to comment

I started getting way too many grey hairs about five years ago and I'm I have to admit that's when I really started getting my hair colored more often.  I know it will overtake me eventually and I'll just accept it, but I'm not ready to give up my blonde look yet!

Link to comment

I guess gray hair in a lot of ways is a form of giving in to reality, but I've seen so many women, regardless of age, who look amazing with gray hair; maybe I can be one of them.  This weekend, after my makeup is done, I'm hoping to see if my new gray wig ages me.  I always have other hair colors to fall back on, so I'm not worried too much.

Link to comment
  • Admin
1 hour ago, Sally Stone said:

This weekend, after my makeup is done, I'm hoping to see if my new gray wig ages me.

 

Have the wig with you and model it for the makeup person since the artist will choose product to enhance the look and make it a single production..  

Link to comment

Vicky, I actually hadn't thought of having an artist do my makeup, I will be doing it myself, as always.  However, I like your idea and may seek out a makeup artist that can match makeup to my new hair color.  Thanks so much for the recommendation.

Link to comment
  • Admin
24 minutes ago, Sally Stone said:

However, I like your idea and may seek out a makeup artist that can match makeup to my new hair color.

 

The stand alone Sephora and ULTA Beauty stores have people in them who can do that for you and it may be free depending on how and when.  At one time Sephora had Seniors Make-up tutoring events that are fun and also Trans events. 

Link to comment

I still have a hard time coming to grips with the fact I am a senior Vicky.  It's not because I'm in denial, it's because I can't believe I got here so fast.  

 

My recommendation is to not waste a single year of your life; they are precious and few!

Link to comment
  • Admin
1 hour ago, Sally Stone said:

My recommendation is to not waste a single year of your life; they are precious and few!

I already have that 'tude, I am nearing 76, although family history gives me a chance or another 10+.

Link to comment
18 hours ago, Sally Stone said:

I still have a hard time coming to grips with the fact I am a senior Vicky. 

 

I know I'm pretty bad at figuring out how old people are, but as someone who's met you IRL I thought you were way younger than that!

Link to comment

Rhonda, you are sweet to say that.  And, I really miss hanging out with you.  Getting together was always such a great time.

Link to comment

Great topic Sally. For me I love that I am going grey now. Just a little bit at this time but its like a badge of honour.  I feel I earned it. 

Link to comment

I'd like to provide an update on how I'm feeling about my new gray wig and honestly, the jury is still out.  I did some department store shopping and you know how we tend to use those mirrored support columns and full length mirrors in the dressing rooms to assess our appearance; well, I just wasn't seeing that my new gray hair was flattering me quite the way other hair colors do. 

 

It could be I'm not used to the drastic change, but overall, I wasn't as fond of gray as I thought I'd be.  I actually found myself wishing I was wearing my strawberry blonde wig instead.  To my eye, it matches my skin tone a lot better. 

 

I'm not going to give up on the gray wig just yet; I'll try it again for sure, but for now I think I'll stick with blondes and reds as my go to shades.

 

I didn't get any remarks about my gray hair, but then, I usually don't choose fashions or beauty styles to garner compliments.  Instead, my fashion choices are the ones that make me feel my best.  So, despite what others might think, I need to choose a hair color that makes me feel pretty and at the moment, it's not gray.

Link to comment
  • 5 months later...
On 8/18/2023 at 11:01 PM, Mirrabooka said:

I am naturally gray now, and I am flaunting it! 

So, today I had my quarterly appointment with my hairdresser, for a bit of a tidy up. Once again it was a lovely time, and over all too quickly. Apparently, my layers are now OUT! Yay me! :) 

IMG_20240205_140049758.jpg

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
On 8/27/2023 at 8:10 PM, Sally Stone said:

I need to choose a hair color that makes me feel pretty and at the moment, it's not gray.

It's your precognitive to have the color of your choice. I remember a commercial from my teen years that said:

"Only your hair dresser will know".

 

You be you and don't worry about the gray.

 

Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋

Link to comment

I think I would rock gray when it comes in. Although my mom still doesn't have gray hairs at 65

Link to comment
20 hours ago, Mirrabooka said:

So, today I had my quarterly appointment with my hairdresser, for a bit of a tidy up. Once again it was a lovely time, and over all too quickly. Apparently, my layers are now OUT! Yay me! :) 

IMG_20240205_140049758.jpg

Looks nice hun! 😘

Link to comment

I've been grey for years.  When I went over to a wig, I insisted on grey.  I went through a lot to get here.  I embrace my old crone look.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   2 Members, 0 Anonymous, 143 Guests (See full list)

    • Ali_Genderlfuid
    • AllieJ
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.8k
    • Total Posts
      769.5k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,069
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Ali_Genderlfuid
    Newest Member
    Ali_Genderlfuid
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Caridad
      Caridad
    2. Certbunnie
      Certbunnie
      (25 years old)
    3. EstherElle
      EstherElle
      (43 years old)
    4. Juliet
      Juliet
      (43 years old)
    5. MelissaAndProudOfIt
      MelissaAndProudOfIt
      (59 years old)
  • Posts

    • Heather Shay
      @KaitSo glad you are here. It's never too late to talk to your doctor. bI was 68 before I stopped lying to myself and talked to my doctor. He or she might be able to help. It may be easier to find an endocrinologist you specializes or a health care group who specializes. You might also seek out a therapist who specializes to help with HRT resources. Psychology Today can help find therapists who specialize. Glad you are here. WELCOME.
    • April Marie
      Skort, t-shirt, bra feels so good.
    • April Marie
      Good morning, everyone!   Coffee is flowing so my brain is beginning to function.    We've been busy caring for aging family members and trying to get the house open now that the weather is getting warmer. I've been working on getting the pool open and cleaned. It's almost ready for salt and starting up the heater. We may be swimming by next week.   But, it's raining here today so I guess I'll be stuck working inside.   Have a wonderful and safe, day!!
    • April Marie
      I had that same outcome from my first colonoscopy years ago. It just triggered more frequent colonoscopies for a period of time. Hopefully, that will be the same plan for you.
    • Birdie
      Biopsies came back mostly clear except one, one polyp came back with abnormal cell growth (pre-cancerous). It was completely removed during the colonoscopy so I don't know yet if further action needs to be taken. 
    • Kait
      Hey-o. My name's Kait. I haven't decided what to do about my last name yet. (Mononyms sound cool, but they're very problematic unfortunately).   I guess pronouns are important. They/them or it/its (strong preference for 'it/its').    Im not someone who's been active in the community for a long time, but I've known I was trans almost my whole life. It's just that financial, medical, and psychiatric struggles have kept it from the forefront of my priorities for 10 years or so. So basically during that entire time, I've been living as an AMAB, masculine-presenting person named kait. Which is not ideal, but I've been able to deal with it by dissociating from my body and viewing it as an appendage rather than as a 'self'.    Mostly I'm on here because I finally feel well enough mentally and physically to think about beginning HRT. Problem is, I really don't know where to start out what to do. I have an endocrinologist I see for an unrelated health issue, but honestly I don't have a very strong relationship with him. Is it best to start with my existing doctor? Or should I find an endocrinologist that specialises in this sub-field? What's the best available tech? Is 29 too late to be taken seriously about this by my doctor? I have no idea about these questions and so much more and I need help.   Side from trans stuff though, I'm the boringest person you'll probably ever know. I have a pretty rich inner life and a wonderful partner, but really all I do is work, sleep, and occasionally build tiny models.     
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      I agree that porn is a really bad thing.  Bad in general, but probably gives a misleading view of trans folks.  If you don't see trans folks out in the wild, but you see plenty of them online, that is going to give the impression that it is primarily sex-driven, and that trans folks are interested in sex with just about everybody all the time.  Similar to what people often assume about being bisexual.    I'm androgynous, so sometimes people look at me this way.  Especially if my husband and I are together (if they don't assume I'm his kid) people get that "judgy" look on their faces.  You can sort of read their minds.  I even heard on lady say something like, "Oh, that's just so wrong" when we came out of a shower at a truck stop.  I mean, I like sex and we have a great connection in that way, but its not "THE REASON" for our relationship. 
    • Justine76
      Thank you for sharing! This is very much where I am currently. Questioning my motivation's, wondering where this is going and do I have the fortitude to continue the journey?   I too like to dress in what would probably be eye catching in your typically suburb. Not in a revealing way but beyond casual. Not that I’ve presented in public yet. Trying to build the confidence to dress for the next trans pride event locally ;)
    • Maddee
    • Justine76
      Certainly considering this. I’ve seen some reports, albeit anecdotal, of laser treatments causing some mild skin damage; like mild pitting, etc. Any validity to this in anyone’s experience? 
    • VickySGV
      @FelixThePickleManI and at least 3 or 4 others here on the Forums are in recovery (a couple of us over 15 years) from drugs and alcohol. Any drug, legal or not so, including abused prescription drugs (me) is potentially addictive and you need some help and uplift to break that cycle.  At first you do feel better by using your substance of choice, I know I did, but the substance takes over our lives, because for us they are cunning, baffling and POWERFUL and too much for us to control.  It was during my recovery from my alcohol and drug abuse that I first fully and with a lot of fear, but a desire to be honest came out to a group that actually turned out to be wholly supportive both of my recovery and encouraging me to get into things that would forward me toward my Transition.  Let us help you feel better about yourself without the substance since without the substance you can actually meet the challenges you face to become the best self you can be.  The goal is to like yourself every day without the false gods that chemicals can become, because they want to destroy us not help us live. We deserve to be happy and able to work and live our lives. PM me if you need some one-on-one and do the same with the others who will respond to you here.  A choral group I am part of sang a song in a concert last week that tells us that we Trans are OK and great, it is the people in the village around us that are the real grief in our lives, but here you are in  a village on-line that will support you.  
    • Vidanjali
      I can only imagine what your early life experience was like. It's very weird when children's bodies are treated as property of their parents and not really their own. Certainly children don't have agency to make major life decisions. But parents operating covertly doesn't seem to be entirely sensible. I'm sure there was a lot of fear on the part of your parents, and perhaps/probably even coercion by medical professionals. But what is your relationship like with your parents now, if they are still living or in your life? 
    • Vidanjali
      Hello & welcome, @Ladypcnj. That's great you're involved in several online communities. Reaching out to connect with others is a gift for all involved. 
    • FelixThePickleMan
      My mom found a vape of mine and this is the third time. I hid it out in the garage but she found it because I looked suspicious and now shes mad at me again which makes sense but she told me not to bring it in the house so I figured the garage was okay. But I know I should just stop but its something that I enjoy doing. I do it with my buddies and I do it alone. The one she found was a different, typically I have weed but today I had nic, but still, I know I should quit. Not because it's bad for me but because its hurting the relationship that I barley have with my mother and that's tough but for some reason I want to have my cake a and eat it too, but that isn't possible. I finally understand that phrase now, well I already understood it but now I really understand because I'm living it. and with that my mom most likely will pull me out of the school that I'm at now because that's when I started, this year. I've always had an interest in weed the way I have an interest of anything else. To me it's no different than the other things I'm interested in but this just happens to be a drug. I know I should quit I know it's wrong and I know that I'm choosing to do it, because I like it and I think in order for me to stop is to not like it anymore otherwise I most likely will continue. I know its sad but unfortunately it is true I know I'll have to quit before I go in the Marines so maybe I'll stop then. I smoke because I don't have anything else to do initially but now I smoke because I don't have anything to do and I  like it. Even when I did basketball I still was high, and I still played in fact I played better. I do everything better when I'm high I'm like a better version of myself, I can let go and let the me on the inside show on the outside with no fear, my creativity flows like Niagara falls just a contunious stream of creative output and innovative ideas that leave a good impression on others. I'm better to be around when high. I like myself better when I'm high.
    • Adrianna Danielle
      This neighbor's friend,luckily my health insurance covered it.Luckily my vehicles,house and shop are smoke free.
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...