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Guest Aylissa

Hi everyone,

I'm new to the forums and I have a few questions, if you don't mind taking the time to answer them. First, a proper introduction, I'm a 20 MTF freshmen in college for my biology degree. I tend to have unorganized qualities, and always seem to forget things, hehe. I like Anime,and a few movies like LotR, and Star Wars. I have a passion to travel the world exploring different places; I have already been to Japan. I speak conversational Japanese, and intend to get my minor in the subject. I suppose that was a little to much information :o

Alright! now for the questionnaire portion of my little post. Alright, I'm not on HRT yet, but I'm currently seeing a psychologist about my gender issues. So, when I start taking hormones, I mean I know it takes a long time to see any visual difference, but should I continue to go to the university as a male or a female? For those of you who have transitioned in while in college, did you get any grief from the other students? Also, once the transition is complete how do I change my college records, so I can get a job in the future?

I should also mention that my school is liberal, and we have a GLBT center. However, that doesn't mean all the students are accepting; a truth I have has been a constant reminder. Ahh..... that is all I can think of for now

Thanks,

Aylissa :D

"Tobi is a good boy" hehe

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Welcome Aylissa!

I'm currently in college, and just started hormones last month. I pretty much go to college stealth, which can be a pain cause I'm always correcting people...but the hormones will make that a bit better after awhile. I haven't really gotten any grief so much. In community college, I went the first semester as female and then tried to go the rest of the semesters there as male (I'm ftm). So it was a real pain dealing with people who knew me as female (I would have to explain that I'm transgender, what that means, all in terms that the general public would understand >.<) ...I think the earlier the change the better- less people who know you before the change.

You should start going to college as a female as early as you are ready, which will most likely deal with your confidence in how you look as a female. I suggest not doing the switch during a semester, but between semesters. Also, try talking to some of the leaders in the GLBT group to see if they know of any other transgender people on your campus who have already gone through this.

I hope some of that helps

~Mani

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Welcome Aylissa,

Honey,The Time To Come As A Girl Is When One Is IN School.

As young as you are,by the time you graduate you will already be used to being the real you.

Interacting socializing...that way you can enter the work force as you.

And not some male construct.

Do all the legal stuff,I.E. Name Change SSN ID everything that you can.

That way all you will need is the Birth Certificate after surgery.

And TAADAA...You are complete early in life.

Which many of your Big Sisters here wish we could have done ourselves.

Welcome Girlfriend.

Hugs,

Angie.

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Guest matthew41

Welcome to the forums Aylissa, glad you have joined.

When you are ready to start your RLT will determine the time to go to school as a female. When you change you name legally, and have a new drivers license, take your court order and ID to your college's registration office and request the name change on your transcripts.

Best of luck to you,

Matt

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Guest Shanetastic

Welcome!

This is currently my second year in college here, but I'm going to a JC.

I'm transitioning right now and by the time I move to a university this August or September, I'm going to try to have everything changed and start going to school as my target gender.

I know were probably a little different, since your already at the university. I tried that when I was 17 heh, and ended moving back home sadly enough. But this time hopefully I'll be happier now that I'm finally transitioning.

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Guest Aylissa

Thanks sooo much for the advice everyone, it is really appreciated. I did think of one more thing I would like to ask, however. My Mum is currently the only person who knows about my situation. She is worried that I will become the victim of a hate crime against transsexuals; she thinks the only way I will be safe is by living in the Castro district in San Francisco.

Is it really that bad? I know I will have to be cautious, but do I need to go to that extreme, just to feel safe? Is there anything I should know, once I transition, to remain on the safe side?

Thanks again,

Aylissa

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Guest kunoichigoddess

hmm i would say just be subtle as you make the change like as your body develops a bit more femininely dress more femininely i do remember a website with a long list of ppl that were killed just because of it ; ; and heres a question i have WHY THE HECK IS IT SUCH A BIG DEAL I WAS BORN IN THE WRONG BODY!? sorry for all caps but it upsets me just because we were born to the wrong bodys that means we need to suffer additionally to that i just dont get it its not like were telling everybody "i wanna be a woman and you should too" where not asking they loan us money just because we are. ::sigh:: its just irritating <_<

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