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I had a previous post about me developing a problem with weed before. Well it turns out I was right and it has gotten worse. Its all I can think about even though I haven't done it often. I don't know what 2 do. On father's day I ditched my dad because my parents were mad at me to get high. I've even come home high twice. A few days ago I think I did some weed laced with cocaine and I didn't know so I've been suffering the after affects of that until today and even though it scared me and was really bad I still wanna do weed. I think I do it to escape reality because of my gender identity issues I try my best to supress. Im on antidepressants but I only feel happy when im high. Should I seek out some kind of help? I don't know what to do.

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Guest Elizabeth K

Weed was once a fairly mild addiction but now people lace it with other drugs and worse. It is also organically reinforced - plus it is now very addictive and expensive.

If you have to get high - stay way from drugs. How is that possible? Try other means to get the stress out - running untill you drop - exercising - playing music, anything to get high on living.

I know - terrible advice! But understand, weed is a crutch. With all the real problems you have being gender dysphoric you don't need an addiction on top of it all.

My opinion

Lizzy

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Guest julia_d

Best reason in the world to stay away from the stuff... look at the walking disaster areas you have to buy it from.. that should be enough.. don't want to end up like them do we? I sold the crap for 9 years.. and stopped smoking it myself sometime during that because of the constant stream of messed up people I had to deal with on a daily basis.. Look at that guy shouting incoherent abuse at the stop sign.. he probably started off on weed..

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Let's over look the legalities and even the addictions part and look at why you tried it in the first place.

You were depressed, when you came back down from your high were you any happier?

I didn't think so.

People will tell you that weed isn't as bad as a lot of other things but let's look at 'not as bad'.

OK, no needles - that's good, you don't stuff it up your nose - that's good, you smoke it - that's bad.

The human lungs were not designed to inhale smoke - most people who die in fires actually die from smoke infalation, then the next largest group is from burning the lungs with the superheated air and finally the smallext group are consumed by flames.

Why do you want to damage your lungs, it isn't just tart that does damage it is the hot smoe - you move away from the smoke around a campfire and it is at lest 6 feet further away than the weed.

Nothing that puts smoke in your lungs is good for you.

A word to the wise.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Leigh

weed doesn't have any addictive properties. it's all psychological. that can mean that it's easier to stop (for some people). but if you really think it's a problem, and are afraid that you have smoked something that was laced, you should at the least talk to your GP or therapist.

good luck.

peace&love

leigh

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i can not offer much advice cus when i was 16/17 i had the same problem

got as bad as smoking it in my own garden, spending all my money on it

i started gettin real paranoid and kept hearing voice, i was developin a drug induced schizophrenia

i got out the habbit by a friend helping me

but its not worth the money or your health

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Guest Elizabeth K
weed doesn't have any addictive properties. it's all psychological. that can mean that it's easier to stop (for some people). but if you really think it's a problem, and are afraid that you have smoked something that was laced, you should at the least talk to your GP or therapist.

good luck.

peace&love

leigh

Leigh is correct in a technical sense. Weed is not 'chemically' addictive, it is psychologically addictive. I am a child of the sixties - know all about grass - I left it behind when it kept getting stronger (newer growing methods) and expensive. It was never so glad to shed a bad habit! I know about recreational drugs - raised three teenagers through the nineties. I was never so glad as to see them make it through parties and raves without a serious habit. Cocaine was the biggie then. They missed the crack generation fortunately, but the designer drugs were available.

I also - like everyone - had my alcohol days. I made it through that too. If I had had an substance abuse addiction (psychological or chemical) of some sort PLUS my gender dysphoria - I may not have made it. I am not a prude - I just don't want to face the world unless I am sober - as bad as it can be sometimes. You ALWAYS have to sober up again and then - oh my god!

Just a clafification.

Lizzy

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I had been smoking the ganja for around 8 years, every single day after work and all day on the weekends. I still got up, got around and did things, but the longer you do it for, the easier it becomes to repress or not even think about your gender dysphoria.

This is bad because at one point down the line your going to come out of the stoned haze - even just for a little moment - and your feelings about your gender will come crashing back down. With me, I ended up branching out into other drugs to "chase that feeling, of no feeling" and well, in the end it's not worth it chicken.

It most certainly is psychological addiction (unless laced, but its uncommon) and with the will and right friends around, you will pass this period with out to much trouble. If you are going to smoke it, smoke it for relaxation, not repression - and try to stay away from bongs/springer's because it's a bad yucky habit. Stick with joints, if you continue.

You'll be OK, at the moment it's just weed, easy to handle if you do it smart, and for the right reasons. If you have a shrink that you see talk to them about it, they won't be shocked, they won't tell you off, they will likely not be to worried. Be smart and stay safe chicken, don't lose yourself.

Misa

Xo

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Guest Evan_J
weed doesn't have any addictive properties. it's all psychological. that can mean that it's easier to stop (for some people). but if you really think it's a problem, and are afraid that you have smoked something that was laced, you should at the least talk to your GP or therapist.

good luck.

peace&love

leigh

Really? And you believe that? In 1963 that might've been true. But in 2009 anything you buy on the street (and I highly doubt anyone living at home with there folks is growing their own "organic" supply) is NOT organic 9 times out of ten. Marijuana grown hydroponically in particular. I smoked my first joint at 12. By 19 I spent 150 dollars approx every 4 days on "weed" alone. Forget what was already inherent in the growing, or even the LSD or cocaine that someone might actually know is mixed in and tell you about, you will likely NEVER hear about the pesticide, cleanser, or other convenient additive that also was to boost the effect. And lets not talk about the tar heroin. Cuz most people miss that one. All that's "sticky" is not just THC. That's why I put "weed" in quotes earlier.

I'm gon end this, cuz it's gettin kinda "close" but that's not where you want to go. No matter how "mild" you think it all is.

If I were you, I would talk to someone about it and why it is you run to it. Keepin it your self is the first pitfall.

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Guest AllisonD

I used to enjoy grass in High School and even in University. It made sex, food, music, even movies so much better! But we used to get as much as we wanted, in season, for free. It grew wild by the acre along the Rio Grande in New Mexico.

I gave it up for two reasons. Well, maybe it all boils down to one. And I mention it (the only reason I would post this personal bit at all) 'cause it just may work for you too.

The first reason was that it made my mind fuzzy the next day. Not the way to get the most out of school. Not the way to learn mathematics (I am an engineer). Definitely not the way to remember details in Science or History or whatever. I needed good grades and good skills and learning on grass just didn't work for me. I couldn't even read a book while stoned for English and remember the details for the book report!

The second reason is that I knew I wanted surgery. Even in High School, long before I realized there would ever be SRS for real people, I knew I wanted the boys gone, the beard gone (I never really had much, but still), and boobs. I also wanted a really classy wardrobe. I wanted out from under. I wanted independence. I knew I needed money, and the only way to get it, for me, in any meaningful amount, with any sense of reliability or predictability, was to earn it with a high paying professional career.

So grass interfered with the education I needed, and I wanted money for expenses and eventually grass started costing money that I was unwilling to part with.

I understand that nowdays grass is not only often an unknown quantity (you just don't know what you are buying) but it is also very expensive. Can you not think of an outfit, or shoes, or guitar, or whatever that you would rather have for that same money? Think back on what you have spent in the past year, and then convert that to skirts or whatever turns you on and consider the collection you could have had instead.

Perhaps I am both old and naive, but when I consider what I would have really really liked to spend my money on back when it was scarce and I was young, I definitely would have headed to Lord&Taylor's or Bloomingdale's instead of to a drug dealer. I hope that this makes sense to you and you can think of something you would much rather have (or even do).

Allison

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Guest Angelgrlsue
I had a previous post about me developing a problem with weed before. Well it turns out I was right and it has gotten worse. Its all I can think about even though I haven't done it often. I don't know what 2 do. On father's day I ditched my dad because my parents were mad at me to get high. I've even come home high twice. A few days ago I think I did some weed laced with cocaine and I didn't know so I've been suffering the after affects of that until today and even though it scared me and was really bad I still wanna do weed. I think I do it to escape reality because of my gender identity issues I try my best to supress. Im on antidepressants but I only feel happy when im high. Should I seek out some kind of help? I don't know what to do.

I smoked weed in the past. Would not say I was addicted to it since I only did it occasionally and it was usually with friends. Needless to say I do know the psychological effects it caused me. While high my short term memory would lapse. I remember one time I was smoking with a friend of mine and we were watching a Billy Crystal movie. I honestly could not remember his name. I kept on asking my friend what the actors name was. The worst part was coming down from the high. Became severely depressed, even suicidal at times. This stuff is bad news. I would really consider talking with your therapist about this.

Suzie

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Guest April63

I didn't know we had so many stoners here. Ouch.

Drugs mess with you. That's all. They give you a feeling of a fake reality. Some do it by killing brain cells. Some do it by acting as other chemicals use din your nervous system. Some do it in other ways. But no matter how it happens, drugs just give you a warped sense of reality, and over time will continue to damage not only your physical health, but also your mental well being.

You chose to start it, now you need to choose to end it. It may be hard, but it is worth it. Nobody can make this change, except for yourself.

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Guest uncertain_cd

The good old Mary Jane.

Ya I used to be a huge stoner and smoked tons of weed. I was never addicted to smoking weed and I eventually just decided to take a break with my main stoner buddy and I ended up not smoking for months. I just take the occasional few bong rips or hauls off a J. I sold my volcano vape as well so ya.

With Faith, I have to say that you have a good taste in music since you;re avvy is Opeth! Metal FTW!

Now if it's one category I know all too much about it's drugs and I'm not gonna flame you or anything but whoever told you your bud was spike with blow was either lying or hes a friend and cut the yayo in himself but didn't tell you, which ever the case cocaine HCL does absolutely nothing but smell the air of up dope and waste an expensive drug. You don't lace weed with coke hcl ( salt form to snort) as it's a total waste despite what anybody tells you. That blow is made to be railed and crack and paste are made to be smoked and are both extremely efficient that way.

Anti depressants can cause a lot more problems then THC could. Smoking weed can help you with your problems or they can make them worse. I can't answer that for you. I think you like smoking weed cause getting baked is a hell of a fun time and I can say that some of the greatest times of my life have been while baked and those are memories forever stored in my mind. SO many fun times.

Weed is what you make of it, some people like to get stoned and sit on the couch and do nothing while others like to smoke to enhance their creativity and get their thoughts flowing and they use it as a tool. Some like to smoke and go out in nature and enjoy things etc.

TRUST me, you CAN get over it and you gotta realize that you are not an addict. Just find something to do rather then get stoned or get stoned but find something constructive to do. If you're gonna smoke don't smoke it everyday cause it ruins all the magic and fun out of it.

Some of the content I'm reading on here is making my blood boil and I wanna say things that arent' nice and I just started here so I'm gonna hold myself back.

People don't go crazy and flip cars cause they were stoned and people don't kill others over weed. They do that cause their either insane or their actual serious addicts addicted to hardcore drugs.

Skeletal Tania, that's not the case for everyone and many people smoke all their lives with no issues. People tlak a lot of smack about bud but when it comes to Alcohol and cigarettes and caffeine it's all cool right? Or how about how the government tosses a bunch of Amphetamines to children and keeps them spun out for years up to their teenage years when they end up miserable and depressed cause these teens grew up taking speed everyday ?

I'm gonna stop here cause this is one subject that I have heard just TOO much propoganda and misinformation spread so before I lose my temper and say things I regret I'll end it.

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Guest Jean Davis

Don't have too much experience with weed (only tried it twice, made me sick both times), but I have alot with tobacco. If it's the same the longer you use it the harder its going to be to Quit. Stomp out your habit early, I wish I would have.

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Guest Joanna Phipps

Back in the '70s i used to smoke it too, knew my dealer real well and knew his dealer as well. I used to be able to get good stuff for great prices (the more modern kids will cry at this ) could get 2 oz of top shelf stuff for 25$ (Canadian). Like most of you I smoked my way through a lot of money. One day I, too, had enough, I jsut walked away from it; that was back in '75 and ive not touched it since.

If you are craving it that badly, yours has been laced with something and these days it could be dang near anything you should talk to a professional and see about getting help for it before it takes over more of your life and resources than it already has.

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Guest Alyssa Leigh
Back in the '70s i used to smoke it too, knew my dealer real well and knew his dealer as well. I used to be able to get good stuff for great prices (the more modern kids will cry at this ) could get 2 oz of top shelf stuff for 25$ (Canadian). Like most of you I smoked my way through a lot of money. One day I, too, had enough, I jsut walked away from it; that was back in '75 and ive not touched it since.

If you are craving it that badly, yours has been laced with something and these days it could be dang near anything you should talk to a professional and see about getting help for it before it takes over more of your life and resources than it already has.

Its crazy expensive now at $ 560 for 2 oz, but thats not every where only in the Buffalo area.
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Guest GinaBrandt

If it makes you feel better, laced weed is a bit of a myth. Most drugs have to be burned a bit longer and in a special device, the two (very) rare exceptions being PCP and bug spray. This is why cocaine is freebased off of aluminum foil or in a little round glass ball instead of packed into a pipe/bong.

For what it's worth I've given up drugs except for the occasional holiday joint (you can take the hippy from california...) but I used to have an obsession with "trying everything once" and that entailed lots of research so I knew I wouldn't be killing myself by trying a random drug. I've tried coke, ecstasy, marijuana, amphetamines, lsd, dxm, 2c-i, 2c-e, ketamine and a whole host of opiates. Wouldn't recommend it :)

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I have a bit of a problem with that as well. I am trying to stop but it's so hard when it's brought home practically everynight. Excuses excuses I know. However it is hard for me to stop, I stop for a few days then something comes up. Back to hitting a j. I just need to stop because I know it will play hell with hormones. Oh well guess I gotta quit regardless... Ugh.

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Guest TheAetherealMeadow

Weed itself is not physically addictive, but it can be psychologically addictive. Still, even the potential for psychological addiction is low compared to things like television or computers. I can go a week without weed just fine, but I'd go crazy if I had no internet access for a week.

Excessive toking is usually a symptom of some other problem, not a problem in of itself. People who are bored, unmotivated, and/or depressed turn to various things as a source of comfort. The anecdotal observation that some stoners are unmotivated is because they were unmotivated in the first place- and they smoke weed to relieve their boredom. Lack of motivation leads to weed smoking, not the other way around, as popularly believed.

Therefore, your attitude determines whether or not you will become dependent on it. If you smoke weed to have fun, inspire creativity, enhance experiences, etc. it is unlikely that it will be problematic. If you smoke weed to escape your problems, fill up an emptiness inside you, etc. your chances of it becoming problematic are higher. The way I see it is that life is a cake and weed is the icing for it, and you have to realize that the cake itself is very sweet even without the icing. The icing makes it better, but if you use too much icing, it will drown out the flavor of the cake and make your stomach upset. This applies not only to weed, but also to television, internet, junkfood, etc.

Also, weed is not a gateway drug. Most people who smoke weed do not move on to harder drugs. Out of those who do, the reason why is weed is usually the first illegal drug people try is because it is the most easily available out of illegal drugs. Also, most people who do hard drugs have tried alcohol, nicotine, and caffeine before trying weed, so technically those are the true "gateway drugs".

And as others have said, it is very unlikely that your weed was laced. Most addictive drugs are more expensive than the weed itself, which would make lacing un-economical. Also, drugs such as heroin, cocaine/crack, meth, etc. do not burn under a direct flame. Many times when people think their weed is laced, it's actually just really high-quality weed. The high from some potent strains can feel overwhelming, especially if you're an inexperienced toker. I've never had laced weed. Still, it is best if you get your weed from someone you know and trust.

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Also, weed is not a gateway drug. Most people who smoke weed do not move on to harder drugs. Out of those who do, the reason why is weed is usually the first illegal drug people try is because it is the most easily available out of illegal drugs. Also, most people who do hard drugs have tried alcohol, nicotine, and caffeine before trying weed, so technically those are the true "gateway drugs".

Sorry honey, but I have to disagree with you on this.

For one nicotine and caffeine are not mind altering drugs and they are legal so to place them as a gateway to harder drugs is not too

realistic.

Secondly marijuana is known as a gateway to harder drugs because most of the people that sell it also sell the other drugs and once you find those dealers they like to push the other drugs on you to make more money for themselves. The more addicting the substance the longer and more frequently you will purchase drugs from them.

LUV

Jean

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Guest TheAetherealMeadow
Sorry honey, but I have to disagree with you on this.

For one nicotine and caffeine are not mind altering drugs and they are legal so to place them as a gateway to harder drugs is not too

realistic.

Secondly marijuana is known as a gateway to harder drugs because most of the people that sell it also sell the other drugs and once you find those dealers they like to push the other drugs on you to make more money for themselves. The more addicting the substance the longer and more frequently you will purchase drugs from them.

LUV

Jean

Nicotine and caffeine are in fact mind-altering drugs. They are known as invisible drugs. The "high" from them is subtle, but they still affect the pleasure center in your brain and they are still addictive, yet when most people smoke a cigarette or drink coffee they are not aware that they are consuming a drug. In fact nicotine has been shown to be the most addictive drug there is. That's the reason why it's a bad idea to take up smoking, because you'll get hooked, and find it difficult to stop even in the midst of the negative consequences from using, just like other addictive drugs.

I agree with your second statement. The "gateway effect" is because of weed's presence in the black market and dealers making them available. However, the great majority of weed smokers don't move on to hard drugs, and if you have good enough judgment not to use hard drugs, weed won't increase your chances of getting hooked on hard drugs. The reason why people who use hard drugs start with weed is because weed is the most easily available drug on the black market, not because weed causes them to want to use hard drugs, which is what some anti-drug propaganda tends to imply.

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Guest Chance

I actually have a problem with weed myself. Though I'm quitting ASAP. Fact, I'm going to bury the junk.

That way, I won't have anything to smoke it out of again if I want to. If that fails I won't hesitate to dump myself in rehab, I can't deal with that crap.

Makes me paranoid and makes me feel like I'm getting no where.

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Hmmm I don't see where its been quoted recently so :

p. Users are prohibited from starting or participating in any discussion that aids, encourages, details, abets or facilitates illegal activity of any kind.

This includes, but is not limited to, pornographic sites and images and drug sites.

Thats from the site rules. http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/in...php?showtopic=7 for anyone who would like to read them in their entirety.

That being the case, it really does not matter whether or not x is a "gateway" drug or not, nor does it matter who's dealer has ever offered them something not asked for or anything else. The thing that everyone on this thread needs to concern themselves with is the fact that this site will not be a place where discussions that encourage, (and in extention) excuse, deleniate, or convey a "drug use can be alright" sentiment are tolerated.

Those are not Evans rules.

They are the site rules.

'And they are Laura's rules.

And no they are not up for "debate"

Be advised.

Besides, if I recall correctly, this thread was approved for someone who wanted OUT of the lifestyle. Not to hear how to keep going.

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      Just wanted to address a slight change in the situation.   Things are about the same but I was able to come up with a nickname that is pleasing to both me and those around me. The new nickname has been used on and off, but at least I can see an effort to try to make me feel accomodated.   I also wrote down my thoughts in a letter and after getting my feelings out, I felt a lot better. I probably won't need to use it now but if there is a time I feel not understood again, I always have it to use to get my thoughts out in a clearer manner.   I want to thank everyone again for responding and providing me with advice. I really appreciate it.
    • Russ Fenrisson
      I've also wondered about the same thing, especially since a lot of media I see, if they include a trans character at all, is usually transfeminine. I think it really boils down to what @Carolyn Mariesaid: how said individuals are perceived in society and the acceptibility of it. It's a shame transwomen and transfeminine people are made to feel bad for who they are or to be afraid of how they identify or choose to present themselves. This might be why you see more stories concerning them. To spread awareness and to show transwomen are not scary and are people just like everybody else.   In regards to transmen and transmasculine people, I've done much reading and thinking, and have come to the conclusion that perhaps such individuals are not explored or discussed is because of a private, safety factor. I've read more and more individuals have been coming out as FtM compared to recent years, such as in the 90s or early 2000's, and they may not be as transparent or as seen as MtF individuals just because of the fact they could face ridicule or repercussion for coming out or exploring their identity. It appears the expression of women is much more flexible nowadays than it was before, but that doesn't mean it is all inclusive. It probably just depends on where you are and the kind of atmosphere that is present.   What I always think is, whether I know it or not, I've at least run into someone like myself without knowing it. It provides a sense of mystery but it's at least a little bit comforting in these strange times.
    • MarkCT
      Hi All   This is my first, and in many was I hope my last, post on this forum but here goes and apologies in advance if it is a bit long winded but I think you’d need to know the full picture if you are going to give me any tips, which I do hope you will.    Back in 1963 my mum’s family (her mum, dad and numerous much younger siblings) emigrated to Sydney as “£10 Pommes”. I was two years old at the time and we were due to join them the following year but for various reasons we didn’t go. My dad had no family apart from his parents, who died many years ago. So, it has always been important to me, my wife and our (now grown up) children to visit the family regularly.     So now we get to the main point. I’ve always been saddened that, whilst everyone of my Aussie family have been so excited to see us when we visit there has always been one exception; a first cousin who was really nice but always seemed very standoffish and distant. You can imagine my surprise when she announced that she had transitioned! I’m not great at social media but my wife contacted her and they converse on and off, not a lot but as much as before she transitioned.    But now with Covid out of the way 🤞we are planning our next trip so (as my cousin is not on the main family WhatsApp group) I wrote to her. I said we (my wife and I) were going to be in Sydney and Brisbane, where most of the family live, but that Ballarat really was going to be just too much of a stretch- especially as she is the only one who lives there. I was amazed and so happy when she immediately wrote back and said she’d make sure she came to see us (if you look at the map and at the cost of flights you’ll realise that is no small commitment).    Now this may seem obvious to you but it is all totally new territory to me and my wife so we are worried about inadvertently saying something that might be hurtful.  so any tips would be most welcome. I have some particular questions:   In chatting do we always use feminine pronouns or do we use masculine when talking about the time before transition (ie our previous visits etc)?   Do we talk about his/her(? )wife, who has now gone her own way, although I suspect they are still friends?    Do we steer well clear of discussing anything at all personal I’m thinking of both emotional and practical issues)? Or perhaps my wife could whereas I shouldn’t?   What do we do about our normal big family gatherings? We’d love her to be there but don’t obviously want to put any undue pressure. We do see on Facebook that some of the family are very kind and accepting but in the cases of a good many others we just don’t know.  Thats just a few of the questions we have but any other comments or tips would be most welcome before we get on the plane from Heathrow at the end of the month.    Thanks 😊    Mark    
    • MiraF
      I think if anyone will take over the US as führer, it will be DeSantis. Trump is already being removed from his position as head of the republicans, with people like fox news and Breitbart saying DeSantis is the future of the party. Considering Trump's incompetence and Ron's actions so far, he may actually be worse.   Apart from that, I agree with you 100%.
    • Vidanjali
      The persecution of Black Americans is not analogous to the persecution of trans people, but there are intersecting features such as disproportionate levels of violence against and systemic oppression. That is, in particular, violence against both groups is not exclusively individually motivated (de facto), but is abetted by systemic oppression (de jure).  So, to gain some context for thinking about this question, I read two articles, one that argues that the 1951 charge of genocide against Black Americans is compelling:   https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2021/12/26/black-activists-charge-genocide-united-states-systemic-racism-526045   and another which argues it is not:   https://opiniojuris.org/2021/12/30/is-structural-genocide-legally-genocide-a-response-to-hinton/   This second article discusses another article on settler colonialism (linked in both articles) whose author states that settler colonialism is eliminatory, but not necessarily genocidal. The 2nd article's author further suggests that therefore systematic "crushing of spirit" may be better defined as cultural genocide, which was deliberately excluded from the genocide convention, however.   From what I understand, proof of intent is pivotal in charging genocide. That was the main argument against validifying the charge of genocide against Black Americans.    Anti-trans politicians and policy makers tend to (deliberately) mask their intent by claiming campaigns to save the children.    After reading the 2nd article, I began to read about crime against humanity versus genocide.    UN definition of crimes against humanity (CAH): https://www.un.org/en/genocideprevention/crimes-against-humanity.shtml   Note the UN definition of CAH refers to gender. Remarkably, the UN definition of gender acknowledges gender as a social construct.    Also note, regarding intent, that "[an] important distinction is that in the case of crimes against humanity, it is not necessary to prove that there is an overall specific intent. It suffices for there to be a simple intent to commit any of the acts listed, with the exception of the act of persecution, which requires additional discriminatory intent. The perpetrator must also act with knowledge of the attack against the civilian population and that his/her action is part of that attack." Do I believe the trans population is under attack? Yes, without a doubt. Do I believe it's genocide? I view this as an academic question, albeit an important one. I don't know the answer. I do think that it's possible that someone/some people in power will succumb to hubris and unequivocally declare intent to eliminate the trans population. I don't hope for that, but tbh, at least if such intent is made clear, then there is a clearer path to bringing a charge of genocide or CAH. However, I think that using the trans population as a scapegoat to galvanize ones voting constituency is ultimately of greater interest to those individuals than actually destroying us. Nonetheless, we suffer the collateral damage.       
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