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i wash 18 when i sat my mother down and she said that she knew about it for a long time but she did not at all i hade to sit her down and explan to her how i felt and she thoght it was  a fays but it s not and i have done most things to show it to her she dosent undrstand it at all  and i wanted her to understand this year she was so bad with me this year and now that i don t  talk to her beause  she is transfobic to me and she keep s calling me my dead name it s not right i fell how long will this transion  take for me and i get upset so much and i am wating for the gender clinic  to get back to me it s been 2 years now and i am still wating for the appotment   i just want to know that others that have gone throw this  and i need some reashorens  that it will get done at some point i want some ponts and how to deal with the body dismorfia  i am still not happy that the doctors  have keept me updated about it   uk  my name is stripe  i am trans guy 

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Welcome Stripe.

I'm a bit older than you, and going in the other direction, but there are people here that are in similar situations.  Welcome.

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Welcome to Trans Pulse, Stripe.  It's great to meet you.  I'm sorry to hear that your mother is not supportive and does things to hurt you.  It is often very hard for parents to learn of their child being transgender and wanting to transition.  Sometimes they blame themselves or just grieve their "loss," even though you are the same person you've always been.  It takes time and lots of conversation.  Hopefully, she will change her attitude in time.

 

We have a great many folks from the U.K. here, and they tell the same story about how hard the NHS is to navigate and get anything done.  Some of them will be along to tell you about their experiences.  In the meantime, please look around the forums and post wherever the subject interests you.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Marie

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