What was the biggest surprise you've had, besides yourself?

[Heather Shay]

What was the biggest surprise you've had, besides yourself? 

for me it was finding out I was not the only trans person in my family (my cousin's trans son).

[KymmieL]

How bigoted my daughter in law is. Which passes down to our son. I hope our grandson and granddaughter don't take after them.

 

Kymmie

[Jani]

@KymmieL You should sit and have a talk with your son about bigotry and hatred.  How self serving it is and damaging it is to all involved, including him.  Hate is never the answer.

 

Jani

[Ashley0616]

I would have to say my kids. I wanted kids when I was 18 and never met the right person for me. Nor was anyone willing to have kids with me. I was 32 years old for my first kid. My mom even thought I was never going to get kids. The next would definitely be how transphobic my family was. I had over 140 Facebook friends which were mostly family. I now have 48 and only 4 checks in on me from time to time. Another one does follow me closely on Facebook which I'm thankful for. She is my godmother. Which I don't even think she supports me, but I know she cares for me. Any trans content or me posting anything about myself as Ashley she does the care response and says as long as I'm happy. Sometimes it makes me wonder if I came out earlier would it have been any easier. The number one question I was always asked was why now? The second of course is what everyone gets asked how do you feel like a woman or what makes a woman? I hate those questions because they quickly say wrong or whatever. You are never right no matter what you say. 

[KymmieL]

11 hours ago, Heather Shay said:

for me it was finding out I was not the only trans person in my family (my cousin's trans son).

Well that could be said for me too. A year ago we flew to Michigan to take care of my brother in laws house. there was make up in the bathroom and female clothes in one of the bed rooms. Either he was CD or TG.  My wife made the excuse that he was using the make up to hide his red face from his drinking.

 

Kymmie

[awkward-yet-sweet]

The biggest surprise EVER was going out shopping and encountering my GF for the very first time.  I was still living with my parents, rather depressed, unsure of myself, and I had no idea that anybody could or would find me attractive.  She almost sneaked up on me, and her stare was pretty creepy at first.  She looked me up and down with really wide eyes, and circled around me.  She got really really close and her first words were, "Damn, you smell good."  💥 My mind - 100% blown. 💥  If I'd had any common sense I'd have run away from the scary blonde, but I ended up being coaxed into giving her my phone number.  It also helped that I figured I'd never get within 20 feet of a girl as hot as her again, since she was magically my exact fantasy type. 😆  If somebody had told me back then that I'd be spending my life not just with a beautiful blonde, but with a husband and other wonderful female partners, I'd have said there was no way that would happen.  Life is crazy.