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Were you accepted by the gender you transitioned to by CIS of that gender?


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Were you accepted by the gender you transitioned to by CIS of that gender?

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So far so good. I have been accepted by the women at my church. I'm extremely happy about that!

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Totally. My cis girlfriends accept me as a woman more than I accept myself as one! And I so often meet cis women who celebrate and accept me. I honestly could not have asked for more; I am awestruck and deeply thankful. 

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This is one of the great joys of my life: that cis women accept me as a woman and have from day 1.  The first group I came out to (the community kaffeeklatsch) consisted mostly of women.  They were happy for me even before I had finished telling them.  (The men in the group were skeptical, but ... meh ... they were men.)  I was supported by women in the volunteer fire department, and in the concert band I played in. 

 

At the last astronomy society camp-out, the sky was clouded out, so no one was looking at the stars.  Instead, people hung out in small groups, chatting.  I ended up in the women's group, where I was totally accepted and included. 

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The one Cis female I am friends with accepts me totally.

 

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Different people are…different. 
 

I am feeling accepted more and more as I am around groups of cis females. Socialization is tricky business - people say one thing, mean another  and there’s layers of superficial plus cliques….It’s weird.  

Women in general seem different to me lately.   But I think it’s me who has changed

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Sort of.  I'm in my boy form, but I'll never really be "one of the guys" due to my physical size and my interests.  Around here, boys do typically masculine things.  Construction, truck driving, military.  Everything is meant for "big and tall" manly, Manly, MANLY guys.  My husband gets irritated with it because he's not big and tall, even though he fits the manly image in many other ways.  Me....I was seen as slender and tiny even in my girl form.  In my boy form, I'm just a bit ridiculous.  I can do some of the masculine activities - I have a CDL, I can split firewood, and I'm halfways competent at doing a few outdoor construction things.  But I'll never have the strength or the image of a cis guy.  I have my spot inbetween, and I scamper back and forth between the men and the women in my own way.

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13 hours ago, Hannah Renee said:

Awestruck and deeply thankful are good descriptors. 


Yay! I’m so glad you think so Hannah Renee. It makes me happy to hear that you have shared this experience.

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I have found complete acceptance and love from all cis females in my life since coming out. Lost all but 3 of my 50+ males "friends" instantly. When in public, gyms, locker rooms, ladies room, etc, I find that cis women treat me like any other woman. They dont give it a second thought that I am a trans female...they just see me as female. Men on the other hand, I guess I threaten their masculinity or something...idk...but other than the three male friends I kept...all other men treat me like I am a weird, sick and twisted individual with some highly contagious viral disease that might infect them too!! But I have found true love and friendship amongst my fellow women...and that makes me regret waiting 48 years to become my true self...and tbh, a little bitter that I wasnt born cis and had to miss out on all the wonderful things cis girls get to experience....as little girls, as teenagers and even as young women...but its okay, Its my time to shine now and with the support of my now 40+ female friends/allies and my amazing cis female wife/BFF.....Im growing stronger every day!!  A lot has already changed since I came out in October 2023....but not a single negative experience significant enough to make me regret doing so (if there is even such a thing!)

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I don't really have much interaction with men anymore.

I find women way more accepting of me.  Really the only friends I have outside of family are women.  Which I'm fine with - although there are times I think about perhaps a boyfriend.  But then… I mean, why?  Guess I don't really need a bicycle after all.

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