How Do You Manage the Low Periods During Transition?

[emeraldmountain2]

This is a question for those who are transitioning or have transitioned:

 

I've found a lot of joy in transitioning. Yet, there are times when I am so emotionally down from gender dysphoria, grief over my pathetic life in the wrong gender, frustrations with cis peoples' ignorance and/or cruelty, anti-trans news, dealing with the medical system, and so on. How do you manage these down periods?

Thank you.

[VickySGV]

4 hours ago, emeraldmountain2 said:

grief over my pathetic life in the wrong gender,

Starting there, go back and give the self that you think lived a pathetic life some super big hugs and appreciation, without that person who survived and who kept you alive to become yourself, you would not be here.  It will take a bit of time to see that what the former person did was heroic and life giving to what you are becoming.  Take a few minutes and you can see where they lived a good productive life and give them recognition for what they did do.  I have recently taken on a service responsibility for the Trans Community near me where I am using the skills I learned and the profession I was part of as the former Me, but now it is with a fulfillment that I did not feel back then, even though in retrospect the old me really did some damned amazing and useful things to my community back then, but could not feel it was worthwhile.

[KymmieL]

6 hours ago, VickySGV said:

Starting there, go back and give the self that you think lived a pathetic life some super big hugs and appreciation, without that person who survived and who kept you alive to become yourself, you would not be here.  It will take a bit of time to see that what the former person did was heroic and life giving to what you are becoming.  Take a few minutes and you can see where they lived a good productive life and give them recognition for what they did do.  I have recently taken on a service responsibility for the Trans Community near me where I am using the skills I learned and the profession I was part of as the former Me, but now it is with a fulfillment that I did not feel back then, even though in retrospect the old me really did some damned amazing and useful things to my community back then, but could not feel it was worthwhile.

Wise, words Vicky. Very wise, and quite fitting in our situations.

 

Now I need to listen and follow those words.

 

Kymmie

[Charlize]

I have been blessed to have a network of trans folks.  At times if i am down another trans person is there happily willing to help.  Wonderfully i've found that reaching out to help others raises my mood as well. The community here offers that chance for a fellowship.  We are here to help each other.  

I have head several people say :  "A problem shared is a problem halved".

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

[emeraldmountain2]

Sage advice. Thank you!