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Guest Rachael

Hi there, I have classified myself as intersexed, but wonder if I am correct in assuming this to be true. The problem is that it's hard for me to discuss this without feeling prurient or even exhibitionist. Anyway, I am a biological male (in the reproductive sense) but have noticeable secondary sexual characteristics, namely large breasts and other body features which are quite feminine. Even as a skinny teenager, I had breasts (and not man breasts caused by being over weight) and used to hate sports classes where other kids would kindly point them out to me. In my teens, some people who looked at me, without hearing my deep voice, would sometimes thing I was a girl because of my face (which was described as pretty, and ironically very much liked by girls in my class at school) and body build (narrow shoulders, very small hands and feet). Anyway, it feels odd, even inappropriate, discussing myself like this, but it is only now that I am in my 40s that I believe I may be intersexed. At the very least, I am a bi-sexual (but increasingly gay) transvestite who likes to feel feminine. I also think that we are all on a spectrum of gender, so maybe shouldn't get too hung up on terms that only serve as reference markers.

I'm new to this forum, and so apologies if I've said anything inappropriate.

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Hi Rachel:

Welcome to the forums and no apologies necessary.

You say that you have noticeable secondary sexual characteristics. The operative word here is secondary.

The boundaries of interssexuality are disputed, but most agree that ambiguous primary sexual characteristics is the core.

I presume that your genitalia fall within industry standards for a male. Yes?

But more important than deciding whether you fit within anybody's definition of intersexual, is determining what's going on there.

It could be Klinefelter syndrome, hypogonadism or just ideopathic gynecomastia. Have you had any chromosonal or hormonal testing?

Z.

(I'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV.)

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Guest Elizabeth K

Yikes - ancient TOPIC emerges!

Well lets go with it!

Who here suspects they are intersexed?

Personally? My therapist suggested it because of my quick reaction to HRT and my feminine face, sparce beard and no adam's apple. But it may be a XXY rather than hermaphroditic condition (the old, politically incorrect word).

It takes a DNA test.

Actually, as I am in transition right now with everyone saying I will get my permission for SRS, to find out I am intersexed would change the rules.

The biggest advantange to being diagnosed as intersexed, is it is a medical condition and many insurances pay for transitioning.

Who knows... my therapist says they can sometimes tell when they do the SRS.

Lizzy

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Guest Evan_J
i think im intersexed

i think T will do wonders for me

Either way I suspect T is going to do wonders on you too.

For me, I used to wonder about the whole intersex thing till I pretty much got confident that there would have been some type of genital ambiguity or medical crisis early in life that would have made peeps aware? Of course, with the mosaic type chromosome peeps thats not true. You might not have either of those glaring conditions. I think (based on the symptomology I had what I actually would say about now would be prenatal or early androgen exposure. Because of both the physical consistency and childhood behavioral.

Oh and Leo, along with hormone levels and chromasomes, have em check for polycystic ovarian syndrome. It can make you wierd-irregular or not til really up in age.

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Guest (Lightsider)

I think eventually science is going to find a vast majority of us are intersexed. They have found xy women and xx men...they did not used to think that was possible...yet it is. Am I intersexed? Some thing happened before I was born and it is linked to a drug called DES. A known mutagen/teratogen. There are a ton of mutagenic/ carcenogenic substances in the environment that can tamper with the development of a baby. If you think about it the baby is splitting cells like mad and growing...and wham...something gets introduced and the wrong things develop.

Perhaps science will discover the chemically intersexed?

Who knows...

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