How Do I Know If It's Too Late For Hrt?

[Guest Huwawa]

I'm considering transitioning(MtF), and am wondering if I'm too far along in puberty to be able to "pass" if I transitioned. How would I tell?

I'm fifteen and about 5'6", if that helps at all...

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora Huwawa.

You have got years ahead of you yet...Even at age 20[5 years down the track] you will get really good result with hormone therapy... Be patient...But in the mean time you could search out people who specialise in gender identity issues like counselors and doctors...Are your parents aware of how you feel ?...If you find it hard to talk with them try a school counselor they will give you advice on how to go about telling your folks.

It's never too late to 'pass' many people on this forum[including myself] started to affirm our gender identity when we were triple your age...Be patient and do you home work first.

Metta Jendar

[Guest Huwawa]

I've already told my mom, so that's covered...

I think I've done a good amount of reasearch, and my mom(a psychiartrist) can usually answer my questions.

But I am having trouble finding a therapist who can do things more or less "off the record". I don't want these sessions to be accessable via my HMO, and I really don't want it to be found in my school file(so I'm not talking to my school counselor about this).

Any ideas?

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora Huwawa,

I don't know much about the American system perhaps you would be better to post your question in the Trans teen section...there's plenty of American trans-teens who could help you there. Good Luck.

Metta Jendar

[Guest Shanetastic]

Hey Huwawa,

If your live in America there's tons of places that can technically do this "off the record." By that I mean no one will be able to look at your records, except probably your parents since your still under 18. Either way, everything you talk about for the most part is confidental, and I don't understand how you school could ever find out about this? Assuming you went to a gender therapist.

As for your insurance, if you don't file it to get money back and pay her uninsured, your insurance company will have no record of this. Just to let you know. So I'm not exactly sure what you are fearing, so if I didn't answer it let me know.

[Guest angie]

Hey Miss Tastic,

Read,research the subject.

See what can be expected from someone your age.

The results will surprise and please you i'm sure.

Miss Jendar has and gives good advice.

Being Postop,she has been down the path most of us are just starting or contemplating.

Read her blog.It has entries that refect a woman after transition.

Which i find interesting and comforting.

Remember Young woman....Do Your Research.

It,will give you answers and peace of mind.

Hugs Little Sister,

Angie.

[Guest Huwawa]

If your live in America there's tons of places that can technically do this "off the record." By that I mean no one will be able to look at your records, except probably your parents since your still under 18. Either way, everything you talk about for the most part is confidental, and I don't understand how you school could ever find out about this? Assuming you went to a gender therapist.

My school psychologist has asked before on those mental health questionares. She is also trying to be my only therapist, and it would be on public school records- which I'm not too confident in to keep this a secret.

As for your insurance, if you don't file it to get money back and pay her uninsured, your insurance company will have no record of this. Just to let you know. So I'm not exactly sure what you are fearing, so if I didn't answer it let me know.

My fears were if I were to use the psychiatrist in my HMO, which my mom wanted me to do until I made this point to her..

[Guest angie]

Howdy New Girl On The Block And Welcome

Sweety....Your school counselor...will give you someone to talk to...I.E. a free TALK DOC.

But it is in your best interest ...since you are certain this is the true path for you.

Not Only Seek But Find Licensed Professionsals.

Gender Specialists That Specialise In Gender Issues.

Get And Maintain A Record Of Coming To Terms With Her...And Your Need To Be Her.

If You Do This....It Will Only Help You Become Her That Much Sooner.

You are most likely looked at with curiosity by your school counselor.

Her first transgender...If You Feel Comfortable With Her Then By All Means Talk To Her.

It Gives You Someone To Talk To....Other Than Your Mom....And Mom Will Become Your Best Friend.

And Welcoming Her New Daughter With Open Loving Arms.

Think About That Girl Friend.

Just A Little...Food For Thought.

Big Big Hugs Young Lady,

Angie.

[Sakura]

your good till your like 25 is when the effects start declining and testosterone has done the deed i started hrt around the same age as you and i think the effects are stellar if you wanna see i slather my face all over the gallery but any were in your teens and you gonna get good results unless well like my cousin hes 18 and looked 22 when he was 16 somtimes puberty hits really hard for some and holds of just a tad longer for others but once facal hair and all that mess starts coming in thats when your starting to pass the point of no return but till then your good

Jennifer Sakura NVM

[Guest Jami Maree]

To transition at an early age such as you are talking about is a very awesome thing. When you start young like this it allows your hrt regimen to work from the get go and not have to undo all the hardness that the nasty "T" has left on you.

The older you get the more work hormones have to do. They have to soften the hardness that the testosterone has left and work to make you more feminine in appearance. Most older Transsexuals will wish they could have started at such an early age. However depending on the person even starting in your 40's can bring you real good results.

I started at age 44. I am now 48 and I do not get questioned with or with out make up. I have no problems at all. The pictures on my web site show this. I have one at 6 months and the rest are at the 2 year point and that was a little over 2 years ago and I had all but stopped taking hormones a month prior to taking the pictures. Several months later I was back in full swing and I will NOT be stopping again. There is even a before picture compared to a 2 year picture. The only bad part about the 2 year pictures is that was my fat period which did not last long.

About talking to your school counselor that is something that only you can figure out for sure. I mean what is your school like and how open or honest are people and how open are the counselors and other faculty? What might be good at this school may be a horifying experience at another school.

You said your mom knows. Well how did she take this? If she is all for this then having her by your side can make all the difference in the world for you. A mom can get doors open where you may have dificulties. Just a thought.

All I can say is do not rush in and please do not think you have to start yesturday in order to get good results. You will know when you are ready and beleive me, you have so much time before you need to worry. The younger you start does mean really awesome results for most but don't ever loose hope if it just does not happen until years down the road.

If you are ready then go get the help you need. Only you can stop YOU!

Wishing you a very smoothe experience

Love and Hugs

Jami Maree

[Guest KristieTS]

I am in my mid 30's and have been on hormones for two months, going on three. People are now starting to look at me 'differently' than they used to, and I don't think it's got everything to do with the fact that I wear female clothing with a bandana (my wig is shot, and I have lost hair that I am trying to regrow). For about two weeks now I've had sore breasts, with the nipples feeling like they are sunburned when I touch them. I do have breast growth that is obvious when I look down at my chest (from the side and front I have obvious puffiness going on, lol). My face is becoming more feminine, I think, even though I still look sculpted in the face. I always had a 'pretty boy' look.

Kristie