Addicted?? To A Game??

[Guest MrAwesome]

I've started playing Rune Scape, I've been staying up all night, and dreaming about the game... some very cool dreams I admit. I think, since on rune scape you can be what ever and whoever you want to be, that the reason I like playing it so much is because I don't notice my body, I socially interact without my body holding me back. But again, it's kind of unhealthy. I'm staying up all night, sleeping most the day, and just not getting out and having normal social interaction... I feel like I have to play rune scape because I don't know were to go to get that normal daily interaction... I can't get a job... I'd really like to though... and Boy Scouts is only once a week. I quit fencing because financially we just can't afford it, and I felt kind of awkward there, and I was afraid of getting outed too. Like there was a comment about how I had small hands...

I'm no good with Martial arts... High level activity is hard for me anyway just because of my binder. It rolls up, and it constricts my breathing a bit, and is really uncomfortable. (I can sorta HANDLE it but it just takes the fun out of it.) I can't join the fire company right now because of my gender problems... I REALLY want to try EMT work, I wouldn't mind being an EMT with the others knowing I'm trans, but you have to be 16 to even take the EMT class. I'm just not really sure what to do........

[Guest Evan_J]

I used to be online game addicted and for the same reasons ultimately you sound like you're gettin into it allowed me to "live" without being that body. Play hoooooours at a time (like 18 hours, eat while playing, sleep, half the time think of something to do with it while sleeping, then game some more......) . Basically you're trying to replace the physical life with the game life in a sense cuz the game life is better. (Esp if you can be male in character and accepted by any and all as that 100% which I definately was. It was as close to "the life I always dreamed of" as I thought I could get). I thin k a LOT of trans peeps will relate.

BUT you do need something real. All the "you" you're giving to the game could be used somewhere real. I know, pretty hard with no dough. Stick around though, maybe some peeps your age will have some "free" suggestions.

[Guest Zabrak]

I became a gamer at the start for that exact reason; to be able to be myself and be treated that way. I couldn't do in in real life at all back before I started HRT. Now I just enjoy my games.

If you feel the need for human interaction you could go volunteer somewhere, like at the SPCA. I know it might sound lame but it will be good for school(in canada our students need a certain amount of 'donated hours' towards somewhere to graduate) and it gets you out there doing something good.

[Guest NicolaiAE]

Yeah, getting addicted to games is one of my things too. Halo 3 is one of my crazes. I'm still addicted to it but I think I can relate to the Runescape thing.

I was addicted to runescape and gaiaonline for quite along time. It is cool that you can go on and immediately everyone sees a male. I guess I stopped playing it because my friends stopped playing and started to come over and hang out. I guess you could try and step away from it. I do that every now and then with Halo when I realize I've been playing from 12 pm and it is now 1 am. Sorry that I couldn't help much.

-Nicolai

[Guest Cody_T]

I REALLY want to try EMT work, I wouldn't mind being an EMT with the others knowing I'm trans, but you have to be 16 to even take the EMT class. I'm just not really sure what to do........

Do it! Not right now, but when you can. Cause it's totally awesome. And I don't know about where you are, but in my area you can't be in fire without your EMT anyway.

As for gaming... never really tried it, to be honest. Flash games are fun though.

[Guest MrAwesome]

Well, to be a paid fire fighter you need your EMT here I think for most places. thanks for the responses. I could probably volunteer at the hospital...

[Guest _Michael]

definite yay for volunteer work! The possibilities are endless - animals, kids, LGBTQ centers, junkies, etc. The only thing that might be an issue is your transportation, but you could always try the bus.

If you're looking for activities on the cheap, check out a park nearby your house. Most offer classes and lessons in everything from painting to martial arts for as low as $40 for the summer.

If you're also looking to make money, think about offering services to neighbors for cash - you could walk dogs, mow lawns, wash cars, etc - all you have to do is make up a flier with all of your services and fees with your contact info, and distribute it in every mailbox.

[Guest MrAwesome]

Well there's busses were I live, it's a bigger town, so if I get a bus schedule I suppose I could. Especially if I volunteer at the hospital because it's right down the road...

[Guest Selkia]

Hello there

well As for gaming...I know how it can consume your time up and make you wanna play...makes you wish you could be sucked into the game be who you are in the game...but you see you can be who you are in the game because you are the one who created them..games can be fun...but if you start thinking only of games then sadly...your real life will slowly fall apart...it may seem childish but say you are a melee dealer with rune armour well you can always make your own rune armour in real life...you could always Role play with your friends..heh I still role play...you can even do it by yourself..make a story as you go along...write down your story you made up.. you can always play games...but after awhile doing something real feels so much better then a game. also..some games have blocks that parents can set up to let their children play only during what times seem fix so u won't be up all night playing it thats another option or make goals for yourself like I will take the dog for an hour walk before going online...then you get used to doing that so u get fresh air and can play online. as for jobs since your still 15 i am assuming that you are still in highschool well if you are in grade 11( o.o normally would means u skipped a few grades..also it might be different where u live) you can apply for CO-OP which means u can go into a work place and earn ur school credits so say you wanted to be a dogcaretaker well you would go in and be taught how to be one and be graded on how u do at your placement u can change placesments to find one that sticks with u that way u can test any job that you well interested in also if you do a good job or you talked to the employer you maybe able to get CO-OP over the top which means u go to a workplace you earn credits but you also get payed for being there by the employer. ^__^ also with volunteer work try to get into a place that will teach you 1st aid or other plus because employers like to see that someone in their staff knows 1st aid,CPR, ex. ^^ wow i sure can type alot for one post...sorry

Hope this helps...

~Sel

[Guest My_Genesis]

runescape is fun...i played it for a short while but just kinda lost interest...now cuz of you i wanna start playing it again, lol

Ive been thinking about getting into WoW for the same reasons. I already stay up all night and sleep during the day which makes me apprehensive about getting into these games, though

it's funny, at one point i wanted to play rpg games in a sort of "cybersex" way, like create my character and....yeah. i decided against it cuz it just seemed way weird i dunno if thats a trans thing too but it was the same logic as what you were saying..

[Guest Zabrak]

runescape is fun...i played it for a short while but just kinda lost interest...now cuz of you i wanna start playing it again, lol

Ive been thinking about getting into WoW for the same reasons. I already stay up all night and sleep during the day which makes me apprehensive about getting into these games, though

it's funny, at one point i wanted to play rpg games in a sort of "cybersex" way, like create my character and....yeah. i decided against it cuz it just seemed way weird i dunno if thats a trans thing too but it was the same logic as what you were saying..

LMAO

You crack me up sometimes.

[Guest My_Genesis]

LMAO

You crack me up sometimes.

lol, as long as im not in trouble

[Guest Zabrak]

[Guest My_Genesis]

what? just thought that may have crossed the MSRP rating line lol

[Guest Zabrak]

Its ok to be straight forward, just not crude and detailed. If thats what you mean.

[Guest Zanshin]

I have been a gamer for many years now. Studying in the game graphics field (concept art and compositing).

I started out with FFXI online, played that for about 4 years then moved onto WoW. I've been there for 2 years now.

Gaming is very time consuming and i think you tend to want to more in the game than you do real life simply because you can be who you feel you really are. I think my game playing was probably leaning toward addiction. 10-16 hours a day was good. I do remember a 56 hour stretch on a holiday weekend...

While online gaming can teach you alot of valuable lessons (delayed gratification and working for what you get), it can be so much more. FFXI was the catalyst for my transitioning decsion. I began questioning why I chose the characters I did and why I presented myself the way I did/do. All my online friends thought I was male and I found that I was so very comfortable with that. Even that brought up more questions for me.

At the end of it all, I have ended up with some very good friends (yes, I have met a few of them IRL), learned some valuable money saving lessons, learned more about myself and am comfortable with my decisions and am in a long term relationship with my original linkshell leader >.>

[Guest Cal]

If you're having a hard time coping with life and RS, STAY THE intercourse AWAY FROM WARCRAFT. I used to play WoW 75+ hours a week, to the point where it was ALL I did.

NEVER buy WoW. It WILL steal your life. I see you know the feeling already.

[Guest NatalieRene]

runescape is fun...i played it for a short while but just kinda lost interest...now cuz of you i wanna start playing it again, lol

Ive been thinking about getting into WoW for the same reasons. I already stay up all night and sleep during the day which makes me apprehensive about getting into these games, though

it's funny, at one point i wanted to play rpg games in a sort of "cybersex" way, like create my character and....yeah. i decided against it cuz it just seemed way weird i dunno if thats a trans thing too but it was the same logic as what you were saying..

This other game wouldn't happen to be second life would it? I got really into it at one point especially when I finally figured how to make outfits for the people that where not just textures. I have no clue how to make cloths in real life so it was a huge creative outlet.

I've played wow too and while I enjoyed the instances with friends I despise pvp and the quality of people that I came across while playing was questionable. Like for instance this one guy who in the middle of a instance took his chest armor off and started dancing and singing he was too sexy for his shirt in voice. >.< we all wiped because of that and I just wanted to kick him. The moral of the story, pugs suck; that and the sims is better.

[Guest androgynous]

Oh games, tell me about it! I don't play them as much nowadays, but when I was a teen (15 years ago erhm) I got addicted as well. But so were my friends! everyone I knew was addicted. I don't know 1 person who played games who wasn't addicted! not fully go with the idea that it's due to escaping reality, it's just plain fun and you get into it and forget time and everything around you, AKA: fun. But you must know your own limits also, I always say no play before work, but after it. The reward must come after the work. That kinda works for me.

[Guest My_Genesis]

This other game wouldn't happen to be second life would it? I got really into it at one point especially when I finally figured how to make outfits for the people that where not just textures. I have no clue how to make cloths in real life so it was a huge creative outlet.

I've played wow too and while I enjoyed the instances with friends I despise pvp and the quality of people that I came across while playing was questionable. Like for instance this one guy who in the middle of a instance took his chest armor off and started dancing and singing he was too sexy for his shirt in voice. >.< we all wiped because of that and I just wanted to kick him. The moral of the story, pugs suck; that and the sims is better.

that was one that i looked into...lol, there were a few, i forget now see i woulda been the creepy guy doing the creepy dances, good thing i didnt decide to do that lmao

sims kinda makes me mad cuz my friend said you just click the male/female symbols and you can change their sex just with those buttons. and i think if i had to play a game like that the whole time i would just be like "why cant RL be that simple... "

:still thinking about getting into runscape again:

[Guest Nicholas Aiden]

I play World of Warcraft like its my job. I used to play runescape in high school. But WoW is so much better. Anyway coming from a semi-addicted gamer. Its okay to use it to escape sometimes as long as your not lost in it. And it sounds like you are involved in other things, so thats good. If it starts taking away from that, then worry. But for now, use it to learn how to express yourself. Its an amazing thing to be able to socialize without the presence of your body. Anyway. Have fun man! Thats what is most important

[Guest NatalieRene]

that was one that i looked into...lol, there were a few, i forget now see i woulda been the creepy guy doing the creepy dances, good thing i didnt decide to do that lmao

sims kinda makes me mad cuz my friend said you just click the male/female symbols and you can change their sex just with those buttons. and i think if i had to play a game like that the whole time i would just be like "why cant RL be that simple... "

:still thinking about getting into runscape again:

Well they can't just change sex once they are made. Think of character creation as the pregnancy phase and time just fast forwards to where the game starts for them.

[Guest Jeannine Bean]

I've started playing Rune Scape, I've been staying up all night, and dreaming about the game... some very cool dreams I admit. I think, since on rune scape you can be what ever and whoever you want to be, that the reason I like playing it so much is because I don't notice my body, I socially interact without my body holding me back. But again, it's kind of unhealthy. I'm staying up all night, sleeping most the day, and just not getting out and having normal social interaction... I feel like I have to play rune scape because I don't know were to go to get that normal daily interaction... I can't get a job... I'd really like to though... and Boy Scouts is only once a week. I quit fencing because financially we just can't afford it, and I felt kind of awkward there, and I was afraid of getting outed too. Like there was a comment about how I had small hands...

I'm no good with Martial arts... High level activity is hard for me anyway just because of my binder. It rolls up, and it constricts my breathing a bit, and is really uncomfortable. (I can sorta HANDLE it but it just takes the fun out of it.) I can't join the fire company right now because of my gender problems... I REALLY want to try EMT work, I wouldn't mind being an EMT with the others knowing I'm trans, but you have to be 16 to even take the EMT class. I'm just not really sure what to do........

Mr. Awsome.

I'm about to turn thirty. I used to play video games too much too. One day, somewhere in my twenties I really felt sad about all the time in my life I'd spent playing video games. Time I had nothing to show for. So I listed my PS2 on Amazon for ten bucks less than anyone else and some kid got a new system as well as five of my coolest games thrown in (I didn't even advertise that part) and a couple of cool controllers for Christmas.

I also lived for a long time at my house without the internet. I had a computer, but it was strictly for creative work. No games, no toys. They sucked my time.

Then everyone started to think I had all kinds of discipline because I got really far in my kung fu practice, I invented some things, I started a business, and I was constantly doing experiments and prototyping new cool stuff. No, I'm not Ms. Discipline. . . . I just cut the stuff out of my life that was holding me back.

On the other hand, playing the game may contribute something to your life. Look at it as a balance. You need to have some fun, right? You need cool outlets to socialize? Maybe there's some other ones. What functions can you find other, more healthy ways to serve?

Just my two cents. I probably won't have the net at my next apt. either, since having it here is sucking too much of my time.

--Jeannine

[Guest My_Genesis]

Well they can't just change sex once they are made. Think of character creation as the pregnancy phase and time just fast forwards to where the game starts for them.

but still...