Jump to content

  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

In A Bit Of A Bind

Guest Ashleyy

By Guest Ashleyy,
in Therapy and Therapists

Recommended Posts

Guest Ashley K

Guest Ashley K

Posted
Posted

Well, for those who didn't know, it was a few days ago that I came out to my mother. Well I thought she was willing to believe me alone, but now she thinks that, since I don't quite fit these warning signs she looked up, (That could be the problem there) I'm not really wanting to be a girl and that it is just a phase for me (sound familiar to some of you?)

Well, I have a few numbers for gender therapists off of this site, and I wanted to know: Is it really a good idea if I called one on my own to try and get their honest opinion so that maybe I can change her mind? I know in my heart that I'm supposed to be Ashley, but I'm just not sure how to break it to her....again basically. This problem impedes my possibility of getting treatment since I need her to support me before I tell my dad or he will definately not believe me either. What should I do? :(

Link to comment
Guest ~Brenda~

Guest ~Brenda~

Posted
Posted

Sweetheart!!!

All due respect for your parents, but they are not gender therapists nor are they versed in the realities of the transgendered community. They are not qualified to assess your gender identity nor your gender issues. A gender therapist at this point in your life would be most beneficial to both you and your parents. Remember, your gender identity is not your parent's decision nor anyone elses decision. You have questions, you need answers, your parents are not the people who can answer these questions for you.

Your parents mean well, and they love you, but without a therapist, they will never understand.

HUGS and Love Ashley

Brenda

Link to comment
Sally Gold Member

Sally

Posted
Posted

I have to agree with Brenda, you need to get your parents the right information.

Transsexuality is a difficult concept for us and impossible for others so they need the therapist as much as we do.

You have found a few numbers for therapists so do call one.

Love ya,

Sally

Link to comment
Guest julia_d

Guest julia_d

Posted
Posted

I love parents.. they hear something and do maybe 10 minutes research... and believe the first load of rubbish they read like it's a hard fact. I hope you explained being trans is as individual as the person.. there are no hard and fast rules.

http://www.gires.org.uk/

Look for all the download booklets and articles. It's a fantastic resource from a partly state funded organisation. No BS there XD

Link to comment
Guest Donna Jean

Guest Donna Jean

Posted
Posted

Yes, Sweetheart....

Brenda and Sally got it !

This is serious business....

One can't afford to make a mistake on this ....If you're not Transsexual then you need to know...

If you ARE then you also need to get it out front!

Listen to a couple of very wise gals.....OK?

Hugg

Donna Jean

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
Go to topic listing

  • Who's Online   9 Members, 0 Anonymous, 194 Guests (See full list)

    • DeeDee
    • RaineOnYourParade
    • VickySGV
    • Abigail Genevieve
    • Susie
    • awkward-yet-sweet
    • Vockica
    • Jet McCartney
    • Ashley0616

  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.

  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.7k

  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,033
    • Most Online
      8,356
    ArtavikenGenderflui
    Newest Member
    ArtavikenGenderflui
    Joined

  • Today's Birthdays

    1. afraid of self
      afraid of self
    2. Chaidoesart
      Chaidoesart
      (14 years old)
    3. Faith57
      Faith57
    4. Joyce Ann
      Joyce Ann
      (70 years old)
    5. Kelly21121
      Kelly21121
      (56 years old)
    View all

  • Posts

    • Abigail Genevieve
      ideas for talking peacefully to an overly religious domineering sibling?

      By Abigail Genevieve · Posted

      I am an evangelical  I am also transgender.  This is an issue. I have read up on it.  I am not an expert, but I have done a lot of reading.   One thing I do not get about people who take that position is that evangelicals are all about salvation by faith alone by Christ alone by grace alone - unless you are transgender.  Then you cannot be saved, these say, unless you do the work of un-transgendering yourself.  Which is, practically, impossible.  I have read the "solutions" and I don't buy them, obviously, because they do not work.    In evangelicalism salvation is by faith alone, Christ alone, grace alone, without any merit of our own.  That means, to an evangelical, we come to Christ as we are,  in the words of a glorious hymn,   1 Just as I am, without one plea, but that thy blood was shed for me, and that thou bidd'st me come to thee, O Lamb of God, I come, I come.   2 Just as I am, and waiting not to rid my soul of one dark blot, to thee, whose blood can cleanse each spot, O Lamb of God, I come, I come.   3 Just as I am, though tossed about with many a conflict, many a doubt, fightings and fears within, without, O Lamb of God, I come, I come.   4 Just as I am, thou wilt receive, wilt welcome, pardon, cleanse, relieve; because thy promise I believe, O Lamb of God, I come, I come.   We do not clean ourselves up BEFORE we come to Christ.  We let Him clean us up AFTER we come to Him.    Those who insist that transgender people cannot be saved are actually preaching another Gospel, a Gospel of works, and have wandered away from the glorious Gospel into works.  That is strong but true.   Struggling with legalism and grace, I have found more of God's mercy and grace available to me because I struggle with being transgender and seeking His resolution of it.  Which, not having the struggle, I would not have needed to seek Him earnestly on this.     
    • Jet McCartney
      Euphoria and dysphoria

      By Jet McCartney · Posted

      Eventually, (especially if you start T,) things will even out. The excitement you feel is from everything being so new. Finally knowing yourself and having others recognise you can be thrilling. However, because it is your natural state of being, eventually that wears off. There's nothing exciting about it anymore because it's "just you." (Which is a perfect thing to be!) This, however, can lead to disappointment. Trust me when I say however, that that disappointment and jarring reaction to wrong pronouns will go away, and you'll once again feel comfortable in yourself.
    • Ashley0616
      What are you wearing today?

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

      I love long hair. I'm wanting my hair to touch the floor. I guess we shall see how long it can get.
    • Ashley0616
      What are you listening to today?

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

    • Ivy
      What are you wearing today?

      By Ivy · Posted

      I wear a wig most of the time.  But I can get by with my natural (shoulder length) hair if I wear a hat or something to cover the mostly empty top. Unfortunately that train has left the station, sigh.
    • Ashley0616
      There is no such thing as a normal person. Do you agree?

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

      Normal is a word in the dictionary and a setting on washing machine. 
    • Ashley0616
      Six Word Stories

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

      Spending time with my kids amazing!
    • Ashley0616
      Emotion of the day

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

    • Ivy
      Emotion of the day

      By Ivy · Posted

      Guess I can check all the boxes
    • Ivy
      Trans Women Banned From Long-Board Surfing Competition

      By Ivy · Posted

      I mean, we're trying !  Just have to be a Southern Girl for now.
    • Ivy
      Russian Poetry Competition Bans Entries From Trans People

      By Ivy · Posted

      Oddly enough, just this weekend I read some of my poetry at a local event.  In this case it was a Pride group so I didn't have a particular advantage.  But I have read in more inclusive (of cis people) situations, and been fairly well received.  Let's face it, cis people do deserve an equal chance.   I suppose this might be a problem in the future.
    • Ivy
      OK Governor Signs School Bathroom Bill Into Law

      By Ivy · Posted

      Of course we do.  The few friends I do have are almost exclusively cis or trans women. I think I could have a relationship with a man, but he would be kinda "other" to me.  Could be interesting though. I never have understood guys - even when I was trying to be one.
    • Ashley0616
      NEW DAILY REQUEST THREAD: Plant a good seed of hope for others

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

    • Ashley0616
      Daily word or phrase of encouragement

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

    • Ashley0616
      Thought of the day

      By Ashley0616 · Posted

  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...