Erm, Have You Ever Liked Your Male Body?

[Guest AshleyRF]

I never liked to see my refection in the mirror growing up. Now, I am getting used to it and have trouble seeing myself in the mirror when I am dressed because I still look male and it makes me feel like I am failing to pass. It irritates me.

Uhg... I hate that feeling. I try to avoid mirrors if I can help it.

[Guest krisspykriss]

Kriss would that we all looked as male as you... ghods woman you look mahvelous.... hugs GF

Thanks hun. Its easy to pass in a pic. In real life, I don't. Far from it.

I am making progress though. I often here people ask if I am a man or a woman... in guy mode. Baby steps. It takes so long it is hard to see your progress yourself. So when I look in the mirror, I see myself from my personal paradigm. I already have years of seeing a male staring back at me in the mirror, so it probably distorts what I see to some degree. All I can do is keep my chin up, and head forward. Sometimes, it is hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I know it is there.

Chrissy

[Guest androgynous]

Thanks hun. Its easy to pass in a pic. In real life, I don't. Far from it.

I am making progress though. I often here people ask if I am a man or a woman... in guy mode. Baby steps. It takes so long it is hard to see your progress yourself. So when I look in the mirror, I see myself from my personal paradigm. I already have years of seeing a male staring back at me in the mirror, so it probably distorts what I see to some degree. All I can do is keep my chin up, and head forward. Sometimes, it is hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I know it is there.

Chrissy

Today I had another experience of being 100% confident of who I was, awkwardly enough (or maybe GREAT) when I talked to two people (one stranger) I really came out of my shell and I KNEW and FELT that they saw and sensed me for who I was. Even while I was dressed more manly than I usually am. (that's the irony of sticking all your confidence in the material, while it's an inner switch) I tend to have these experiences more & more, and to me it seems to say a couple of things I always knew, but never understood:

- if you are who you are, people will sense, know and see it.

- if you feel comfortable with the gender you are and are confident about it, people will sense it.

- if you are insecure, people will get insecure about you.

- the body can be a barrier for the soul (who you are)

- cliche and huge Deepak Chopra contents, but true: you create your reality.

So the body may be a barrier for your soul to express itself (I see the body as extension through which the soul/gender/your_definition_here

expresses itself) it is possible to overcome that barrier by bursting through it with your confidence, it's not breaking laws of physics but bending the laws by knowing that nothing is impossible.

Those moments I cherish, because on such moment I can release all my fear, anxiety, and LIVE. even if they last a split second, I get better at it all the time!

[Guest N. Jane]

Well, I'm curious, have you ever liked your male body in a sexual way?

Okay, again I am strange (but what else is new?)

I never saw my body as "male" but as somewhere in between (which it was) so no, I would not have been attracted to it. I loathed its "indecisiveness" because I only ever wanted to be normal (female), to marry and to have kids. My body image was definitely in the bottom 1% of teenage girls. The only good thing about it was that I could 'pass' easily and that gave me a chance to at least have some kind of normal teenage years. But I am probably being overly critical since, after transition, I had no trouble turning heads in a bikini.

No, I was never attracted to my own body in its deformed state - I hated it with a passion!

Had my "male self" encountered my female self 'he' would have been ga-ga over her but she was and is WAY out of his league!

[Guest amie]

Thanks hun. Its easy to pass in a pic. In real life, I don't. Far from it.

I am making progress though. I often here people ask if I am a man or a woman... in guy mode. Baby steps. It takes so long it is hard to see your progress yourself. So when I look in the mirror, I see myself from my personal paradigm. I already have years of seeing a male staring back at me in the mirror, so it probably distorts what I see to some degree. All I can do is keep my chin up, and head forward. Sometimes, it is hard for me to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I know it is there.

Chrissy

You're more convincing than you think you are...and more determined to make progress than most I've encountered and/or spoken to.

[Guest angie]

I was celibate for eight long years.

Having been monogamus for the twenty three years I was married,

and ex cutting me off two years before we split,not sure how to handle

the fact of my smooth body and tucked genitals,always wearing female

undergarments.Knowing a straight woman would have nothing to do with

a (man) as strange as I was.I broke my long self imposed celibacy when

I met a man,an FTM,three days after name change,on my birthday.Leigh

help set in stone my prefered sexuality as that of a straight woman liking

men.Since,I know this is my path,by the way my whole body and mind

reacts when I find a man attractive.Or a mans pheremones can set my body

on full alert,and me not even be looking his way.It's his maleness that gets

me in a frenzy. lol

Baaad Angie (grin)

[Guest Steven22]

Honestly I probably would based on the sole fact that when i dated women I treated them the way I would want to be treated and from what I have been told I wasnt a bad looking guy.

-Lauren

[Guest AshleyRF]

I consider myself lesbian with a slight bi curious side. I'm not really sexually attracted to men in that I don't walk around looking at them and thinking about how they look with no clothes on. However, I do like getting attention from a nice, attractive looking guy every now and then. I can't say I would ever sleep with a guy, and I really don't think I could ever connect emotionally with a guy like I can with a woman, but I have to admit, there is something to be said about being treated as a lady by an attractive guy that sparks some feelings I'm honestly not use to feeling.

To sum it up... I'm not really sure if it's the guy that I like or just the way it makes me feel when I'm just treated as a woman buy one who is obviously attracted to me. Thus I leave it as I have a slight bi curious side of me. That being said... I am happily married to a wonderful woman who I don't plan on ever being without.

[Guest Cait]

YES,

but I view my body as being able to be switched to Female, and I have good hips

and a wider Hip to waist ratio than most men.

so, i see my body as good, just in need of "upgrades"

my word for looking more like a Woman, through whatever means I get.

So, I know that's a tricky answer---i feel I only have to update stuff.

not trapped in the wrong body

i do hate my genitalia most of the time---what a waste!!

Hugs and Kisses,

Katie

[Guest mia 1]

'andreahilton'

Well, I'm curious, have you ever liked your male body in a sexual way?

Like, sometimes, my mind disconnect from my body so I see myself in the mirror and just wish I could date this type of guy body while being in my own female body instead of being in that guy body! (not sure if that was really understandable). Also, sometime I feel like I'm in my crush's body... I hate it when that happens... my hormones uhmm go wild if you know what I mean... (just think of your crush and pretend you got into their body in that mood time).

Have this ever happened to you? I don't really start topics like this, I just got curious in a way.

Yes this happens to me all the time. Being androgynous I love my male body and also think of it as a partner for my female self..Quite Amazing that you brought this topic up..it seems like it has been a century of these thoughts and I've never brought it to the forefront or mentioned it to my therapist......Thank You

[Guest androgynous]

Yes this happens to me all the time. Being androgynous I love my male body and also think of it as a partner for my female self..Quite Amazing that you brought this topic up..it seems like it has been a century of these thoughts and I've never brought it to the forefront or mentioned it to my therapist......Thank You

Me too. looks like an androgynous thing I reckon.

[Guest cjnoble71]

It is an unusual topic Andrea, but that is perfectly ok. I will say, looking at pictures of myself when I was in my late teens early twenties I think: what a hottie! I would be perfectly ok meeting up with that guy. Being that guy, however, entirely different issue.