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I was wondering, if you shave/waxed etc your legs what are good excuses for doing it,

I have once actually had them waxed by some female friends, and thats what i said.

but if i did it myself and they asked me i have no idea what i would say :S

Thanks,

Sam

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Hey Samm

I dont shave or wax. I have an eletric tweezer,must say once you get the hair off, It comes back slowly and if you keep it tweesed the hair becomes lighter in color and softer.

WORKS GREAT!!

LOL

Darlene Lynnette

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Guest ~Brenda~

I assume Samm,

That you are referring to if someone asks you.

Well, first, usually nobody notices, but the ones who have known you for a long time.

I have been asked this question and I respond... "Because it feels good". Sometimes they will ask a follow up question, "what feels good? shaving or being shaved?" I reply.... "both"

The conversation never went beyond that and I have only had that conversation a couple of times in the many years I have been shaving.

In addition to shaving my legs, I shave my arms, armpits, chest, etc too. So that my arms for example are always exposed and hairless. You will be surprised how quickly people stop seeing you as being shaved and just treat you normally.

Hope this helps

Brenda

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Guest Elizabeth K

bernii is right

Nobody notices or if they do they don't care.

Amazing! I was so paranoid for so long!

Lizzy

Oh if they ask? Skin condition.

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Lizzy

Oh if they ask? Skin condition.

I like that. A good, all purpose, short answer that doesn't leave room for a follow up question.

As usual. Lizzy, you've got it nailed.

Carolyn

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Guest April63

I've stopped shaving, but when I start again (not sure when that will be) I've decided to just tell the truth. Say you like it. There's no reason to lie and say you're a swimmer or cyclist. Just say you like it. What's going to happen if you say that?

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Guest Ashley fl

all great suguestions , i would say oh wow the razor must have slipped , jk , i like skin condition and the swimming one , years ago thats what i was thinking , but then id have to take up swimming , i did say once before transition when my nails were done that i lost a bet , actualy nobody notices or realy says anything , but i like everyones suguestions here , there all good ones

Ashley

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Wow there really good suggestions lol, thanks. it been a while since ive posted mind. i did end up shaveing my legs and never got asked any questions only once and i said it was because i lost a bet but then said it feels pretty good so i mite keep it like that lol :P

Sam

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Guest April63

It does feel good :)

I've found that the biggest thing is being to nervous and anxious about people noticing. Because even if they do, most people just ask about it and then forget about it or leave it alone. Some people think it's odd or uncommon, but they really don't mind that much. Some people may make fun of you (my friend did that to me), so I stopped shaving. But I'm ready to start doing it again. I think I've gotten past that stage. Who cares if he makes fun of me? I think the more important thing is to be yourself because if you're confident about it, people won't bug you about it, and even if you do, you won't care so much because of your confidence.

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Guest Emeraude

I have a slightly different situation, since I have a wife and kids. I shaved my legs once this summer while my wife was away (we agreed that I would), and I figured I'd wear pants around the kids until it grew back. Unfortunately, they spotted it, and I had to tell them I just did it for fun. I really want to keep my legs shaved, and that will have to be another conversation with my wife, and I haven't gotten up the nerve to bring it up. She has told me she likes have a hair husband (and since I'm mostly bald, that doesn't leave a lot of options!). Plus, I don't dress around her because she really does not accept it at all, and she told me that having shaved legs makes her feel like she can't ignore my "little hobby". Sigh.

--Emeraude

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Guest Diana Prince
I have a slightly different situation, since I have a wife and kids. I shaved my legs once this summer while my wife was away (we agreed that I would), and I figured I'd wear pants around the kids until it grew back. Unfortunately, they spotted it, and I had to tell them I just did it for fun. I really want to keep my legs shaved, and that will have to be another conversation with my wife, and I haven't gotten up the nerve to bring it up. She has told me she likes have a hair husband (and since I'm mostly bald, that doesn't leave a lot of options!). Plus, I don't dress around her because she really does not accept it at all, and she told me that having shaved legs makes her feel like she can't ignore my "little hobby". Sigh.

--Emeraude

I can somewhat relate to you, as I recently told my wife the extents of my "little hobby" (at least the extent that I have figured out so far). Anyway, I am finding that she is more willing to accept things if I am willing to compromise with her on things. I will never get a really true look because I have agreed that I will not shave my facial hair. She loves my facial hair and she has always threatened me (not just since I told her, but since we have been dating), that if I ever shave my moustashe off she is going to get her hair cut short. :) I have never shaved it off. :)

Anyway, speaking at least for my wife (based on discussions we have had), this is hard for her to accept. She doesn't want to lose her manly husband that she married, though she wants me to be able to be happy and express myself. So we have had very open communication about things and I have tried my best to compromise as much as possible, and as a result she has been much more willing to accept more aspects of my "little hobby."

And to compound things, I also have a son (8 years old). I currently have no expectation to tell him anything, and I intend to hide everything from him. Many of the issues my wife has is due to the fear of what my son will do if he finds out. So, things like shaving your legs is rough because it is something that has to be explained to the kids. Personally, I just wear two pairs of pantyhose so you can't see my hair. Depending on the thickness of the hose, I sometimes even wear three pair. The image is the same, the tightness is actually a nice reminder throughout the day, and at the end of the day I can go back to full "manly-daddy" mode. Win Win!

Hang in there though, it is a process.

-D

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Guest Emily H

I am wondering this myself, what about guys in the locker room at school who see me every day as hairy, and then they suddenly see I've shaved?

Now, I have SUCH a stigma over this because last year in keyboarding, these two guys a grade above me always made fun of me for shaving my legs, and this one b***h girl did too, BUTT I NEVER DID SHAVE MY LEGS THAT WAS THE JOKE!

So if I shaved any regularly noticeable body part, I'd receive ridicule.

~Andrea

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I assume Samm,

That you are referring to if someone asks you.

Well, first, usually nobody notices, but the ones who have known you for a long time.

I have been asked this question and I respond... "Because it feels good". Sometimes they will ask a follow up question, "what feels good? shaving or being shaved?" I reply.... "both"

The conversation never went beyond that and I have only had that conversation a couple of times in the many years I have been shaving.

In addition to shaving my legs, I shave my arms, armpits, chest, etc too. So that my arms for example are always exposed and hairless. You will be surprised how quickly people stop seeing you as being shaved and just treat you normally.

Hope this helps

Brenda

I agree saying that it feels good is a good answer. I my self do shave and wax my whole body to.I can say it not only makes me feel good, it make me have a clean felling to. Jonie :D

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Guest Melanie N

I am a fitness swimmer so the body shaving fits there. I found that noboy even noticed, or if they did, nobody gave it a second glance. My wife likes me to be Tom Selleck hairy so she's not supportive, but I tell her like I'd tell anyones else...it feels good. Of course my wife also jokes about her legs don't look as good as mine shaved...so I guess thats a good sign. The only time shes ever been really negative was once when I was watching TV...she could only see my legs and feet (toes were painted a dark burgandy and I wear a gold toe ring on the second toe of my left foot) and she told me she felt like she was hanging out with another woman. She was trying to be mean, however inside I was feeling, YEAH!!!!

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Guest rachael1

I epilate all my body hair and have done so for about 18 months. This is not an option for me I have to do it.

I agree with the comments the other girls have made about how most people don't seem to notice and if they do they are usually too polite to say anything.

I have had close friends ask me sometimes, and I just tell them that I like the clean feeling and smoothness of not having body hair.

They leave it at that and we move on to other things.

BTW It isn't that unusual these days for males to shave their legs.

The biggest obstacles we face in our lives are usually our own doubts and anxieties.

Shave your legs and enjoy the feeling. :D

My wife also hated it when I initially started to epilate but now is used to it.

Rachael

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Guest April63
BTW It isn't that unusual these days for males to shave their legs.

The biggest obstacles we face in our lives are usually our own doubts and anxieties.

Yep, that's true. More men are begin to shave or trim more and more hair. Even the forbidden legs and armpits. I found a website dedicated just to armpit shaving, and it had a male section. The biggest problem we have is fearing negative reactions, but most people really don't mind or make that big of a deal out of it.

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Guest Wendae

I epilade and shave arms, legs and chest. As this is Florida I wear shorts most of the time and short sleeved shirts usually open to the waist. I've never had anyone make a comment! If asked now I would probably say "because hairy legs look terrible under hose!":rolleyes:

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Guest Tammylaci

I had shaved my legs before a week long trip away from home. It was sooo great. Got home obviously wife noticed. I just said "Something i wanted to do". Its growing back some now, but I keep it trimmed.

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Guest DawnK

A friend of mine in the 70's shaved his arms and legs at the beginning of every summer to tan. At least that was his excuse. Looking back on some of his actions and knowing what I know now, I wonder.

But I let my family know I'm tired of finding body hair all over my house. And that's true. But I don't have the drive to stay clean shaven, so I tend to do it in cycles. But no one seems to care anymore.

And looking back to the 60's and 70's, it was common to see hairy men in the movies. Now days, most are all clean shaven. So look upon it as keeping with the times. Plus to hear women talk around the office, most if not all say they can't stand body hair on a man. Especially the back hair. Another strike against me. Bummer. It's a good thing I'm learning to love me for me.

dk

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Guest kelise

I used to blame the Florida heat and humidity and say it really makes things feel cooler. I also like Brenda's, "Yeah, so what?" comment. But it was actually this question that led to my coming out at work.

I was in the break room in the Pirates of the Caribbean ride, (Next time anyone goes on Pirates of the Caribbean, just as the boat leaves the loading area and you look up at the little blue window above you (and probably wave at the operator there which is really distracting while you're trying to monitor 30 boats throughout the ride), you can think, "Wow, right up there, just off to the right is where Kairi came out of the closet!") and a co-worker was being razzed for his having to shave his legs due to losing a bet (Ooh, there's another one, say you lost a bet!) tried to divert some of his harassment to me, saying I shaved my legs too. When I was questioned about it, I started to give my heat excuse, but then decided, eh, I've been on HRT nearly a year, it's time to take the next step, and spilled it all! It was a positive response, or should I say, me mateys didn't hang me from the yardarm or make me walk the plank, but rather raised the Jolly Roger and set we to pillaging and plundering our little black hearts out! Yar!

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Guest Cafe.Bike.Girl

Kelise your a hoot!

Oddly enough nobody has ever asked me about shaving my legs, I think since most of my body hair is blond people assume it's there and just don't notice it? Who knows.

I have been pointed out for shaving my arm pits though, I just say it really helps to control body odor and they should try it.

On the other hand most people I work with think I'm from another planet so I doubt anything I say or do surprises anyone.

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