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Has anyone been having this problem?

My SO is starting I guess looking at me as another female to compete with. All of a sudden she says my makeup looks better than hers or my clothes look better on me than it would on her..

While I found it to be exciting to be looked at as another female and took it as a complement..But its starting to effect our shopping and LORD dont offer to help her..I come to beleive she thinks thats an insult.

Im having to learn something new,How to compete as a girl with a genetic girl. And keep her on my side too..

LOL

Darlene Lynnette

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Guest AllisonD
Has anyone been having this problem?

My SO is starting I guess looking at me as another female to compete with. All of a sudden she says my makeup looks better than hers or my clothes look better on me than it would on her..

While I found it to be exciting to be looked at as another female and took it as a complement..But its starting to effect our shopping and LORD dont offer to help her..I come to beleive she thinks thats an insult.

Im having to learn something new,How to compete as a girl with a genetic girl. And keep her on my side too..

LOL

Darlene Lynnette

Darlene

I have a slightly different problem. Donna tends to want to treat me as a live Barbie Doll. She likes to tell me what to wear, and when we shop together she likes to pick out clothes for me. Problem is I have more classic/reserved/mature (how can I say this correctly - tasteful, age appropriate?) tastes and the stuff she wants me to wear often will not do. Contrary to some thoughts I have seen expressed (not necessarily here) about the 'freedom' women have with what they can wear, we are really quite constricted because every single component of your outfit sends a message. You have to be careful to send the messages you want to send, an only those. So peasant blouses and denim skirts do not go to the office (she actually wants me to wear them there!) and super-tight jeans, ruffled silk cleavage-revealing blouse and 4 inch pumps do not go to the neighbor's picnic 4th of July party (yup, that's what she wanted me to wear there), and similar choices of hers have to be gently discouraged without offending. At a recent wedding she finally caved and let me wear a black evening gown, diamonds, formal strappy sandals, and an updo (some of you here have seen pictures), and of course I fit in perfectly, but I had to fuss with her to wear one of her suits (she wears mannish jackets with mens' slacks, not Chanel skirt suits) instead of totally inappropriate informal clothes.

At least we don't fight over makeup - she of course never touches any.

So it is not that we compete, it is that she wants to dress me to fit her tastes, and mine are frankly more appropriate. But I still have the same issues that you do of keeping the peace between us while I gently reject her ideas for how I should dress as I coach her on how she should.

Allison

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Guest Elizabeth K

WHOA

Girls don't compete - not out in the open! It's women against the world, or supposedly.

You need to be on her side and she on yours and SHARE! Her saying you look better that her is a prompt for you to say , NO WAY! I can NEVER look better than you!

Lizzy

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Guest Evan_J
Her saying you look better that her is a prompt for you to say , NO WAY! I can NEVER look better than you!

lol And you're sure you never were genetically female before lol ?.

Yes I'm out of my sex here but I did read someplace an article about genetic females dating transguys being ticked off if the transguy said things like "oh I know", or "I know all about that" in reference to "girl things" his date said because genetic women do NOT appreciate anyone not having things that are "unknown" about by the men they date. -ie sharing turf.

Women (and I think it not just because of what I read, but cuz of some things I've seen out of women I dated) DO NOT like to "share their turf". Not with men. Not with other women. Not with anyone. Each woman has her own, one person only, turf.

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My best friend who i told in January and is accepting is jealous. recently she said she is jealous cause she can't polish her toes or put on eye makeup as good as i do, it's something that comes naturally to me.

Paula

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Guest darlene lynn

Thanks Girls and Evan

Ill take your advice to heart..This is something I hadnt even thought about happening or coming up.

So Ill take all the advice I can get.

Lizzy I have tried to reasure her that LOOK better than she does. (well.....Ill let that thought past..a wise person once told me sometimes its best to let them think thier right..) :rolleyes:

LOVE YA'LL

Darlene Lynnette

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Guest Emily H

Well, i hope you two don't stay rivals or anything like that, but really its quite a sign of acceptance of who you are. And thats great!

~Andrea

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