Crossdressing Sister Reminded Of My First Time Out

[gennee]

I saw a crossdresser sister today as I came out of the Goodwill store. She was a tall black woman with long locks, large hands and easy gait. She wore a long green skirt and a shawl draped her shoulders.

Seeing her reminded me of my first time out in public as a crossdresser. Those were some tentative steps to liberation but thankfully I have journeyed on. Later on, I wonder if I should have spoken to her and encourage her to be herself. My heart was joyful in that she has chosen to express her true self.

Whenever I read about someone coming out or going out crossdressed in public for the first time, my heart is thrilled. I encourage them to be themselves and to embrace all that they can. Each one of us is on a journey. We will discover many aspects of our lives that we may have never known previously. In four years I have journeyed from CD/TG to TG/TS. I never dreamed that transsexuality would be a part of my core.

Thinking about it, I am becoming the person I was meant to be. I believe that ever since I let go of the reigns, I've embraced all the wonderful experiences waiting for me. I pray that my crossdressing sister will do the same.

Gennee

[Guest Jean Davis]

Perhaps she'll find her way to the playground and we'll all be fortunate to meet her.

Jean Davis

[Guest Lisa marie]

Its a wonderfull experience and i feel very happy for her.

Brings me back to my first time a little different, one late night out. lots of people came up to me and told me how brave i was, ofc them being a little drunk from a night out helped hehe

Its only to bad i only dare when i've had a drink or two, but thats work in progress, i kinda live in a small place now so people know from my little trips i'm sure. It feels so liberating to just let all my anxietys go out the window (note i only drink perhaps 3-4 times a year)

Lisa

[Guest rachael1]

Hi Genee,

It must be a terrifying yet exhilarating feeling to go dressed in public.

I am nowhere near the stage where I could do this, I think the best I could manage would be to go out dressed late at night driving my car.

Even then I would be terrified that I would get a flat tyre or worse be pulled over by a policeman just like Lizzy's experience the other day.

Rachael

[Guest CharlieRose]

It always makes me happy to see a sister or brother outside, refusing to hide from the world, even though they can't always pass. (That's the only way I'd be able to tell they're trans, of course. I'm sure I've met a bunch who I didn't recognize)

Just yesterday I saw one when I was out with my friends. (incidentally, one of which is also trans) This woman was older, didn't seem to be on estrogen, and was probably wearing a wig, but I wanted to tell her how pretty she was just for wearing what she wanted to. Of course, that would have outed her, which I didn't want to do 'cause I didn't know her personally, so I just smiled a bit as I said, "Excuse us!" and then ran away. (We were racing and almost ran her over. )

[Guest Donna Jean]

It is wonderful to see some of us being brave and being "Out" in public....That is so good!

And no one above me here in this topic did it, but I must warn everyone else reading this to NEVER, EVER tell someone that you think is Trans that they pass wonderfully or even that you are aware ....

It can hurt someone badly if they are "Read" no mater how good the intentions.

If you see someone while out and feel that they are Trans , you may wish to strike up a conversation with them and maybe you will be told by them or you can get a better idea....

As so many of you know, our feelings are raw during these times and and when someone is thinking that they are doing a good job or at least trying hard to pass, an aknowledgement of this sort can be a heart breaker.....Please respect other's feelings........OK?

Thanks......

Donna Jean

[Carolyn Marie]

Gennee, thank you for that story. It's inspiring, as are you. I look forward to the day

I can do the same.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Suggestions:

Like Donna Jean says - never out a sister in public. It can be devestating to her! I have gotten that transdar now, where I see both CDers and Transsexual out. Some pass wonderfully ans some don't. I now realize I pick up on the height, size of hands and feet and attitude. This is for MTF and FTM. The best you can do is if they catch your eye, give them a good nod and a grand old smile - "looking gooooood!" type.

When I am dressed, I sometimes do a little more, drop a napkin or something to give them time to see if they want to approach. I had only one do so - and we spoke, hearing each other's voices - which were good. We knew. Then we walked our separate ways, nothing more said.

This is of course in the 'real world." I will talk to others in the GLBT area of New Orleans if I am dressed appropriately. It's fun - street people come up to you to see what you are. Something I NEVER thought I would have happen to me. But as a woman on the street, sometimes the street people can't tell - especially if you are with someone.

And in the Mall? Usually CDers and I want to SCREAM -TO MUCH MAKE-UP girl. WHY A MINI SKIRT! But I don't.

In New Orleans, we also have trans who you see in working conditions, especially fast food. I think that shows what limited opportunities we have in finding good jobs, unfortunately. If they look harased and a bit down, a simple 'looking good girl' cheers them up right away! It outs both of you - and as they are working they need affirmation. So that works.

And shoppers in the large women's store? Don't out them. So many are as scarred as a baby rabbit anyway. They might panic!

Grin

Hope this helps...

[Guest NicolaiAE]

This acutally reminded me that I saw a sister two days ago. We just made eye contact and I gave her a nod and smile.

I love to see brothers and sisters out in public, most of the time, no one notices or stares at them (they are doing a better jb than me )

but yeah Donna is right, never out someone. It hurts my feelings when someone does that to me.

-Nicolai

[Paula ult]

There are several woman i know and suspect of being trans, tall, broad shoulders, large hands and feet, but i would never ask them or out them, one i told i was transitioning and some of her questions led me to believe i am right, if they want to tell me that's fine if not that's fine too.

Paula

[Guest mia 1]

I saw a crossdresser sister today as I came out of the Goodwill store. She was a tall black woman with long locks, large hands and easy gait. She wore a long green skirt and a shawl draped her shoulders.

Seeing her reminded me of my first time out in public as a crossdresser. Those were some tentative steps to liberation but thankfully I have journeyed on. Later on, I wonder if I should have spoken to her and encourage her to be herself. My heart was joyful in that she has chosen to express her true self.

Whenever I read about someone coming out or going out crossdressed in public for the first time, my heart is thrilled. I encourage them to be themselves and to embrace all that they can. Each one of us is on a journey. We will discover many aspects of our lives that we may have never known previously. In four years I have journeyed from CD/TG to TG/TS. I never dreamed that transsexuality would be a part of my core.

Thinking about it, I am becoming the person I was meant to be. I believe that ever since I let go of the reigns, I've embraced all the wonderful experiences waiting for me. I pray that my crossdressing sister will do the same.

Gennee

Geneee I've often wondered the same thing. Next time I see a woman who I know is transgendered or at least I think is T.G. I am going to say "Hello Sister" and then check out the response...it is an innoucuous way of greeting your "sister in kind'..thanks for the topic and food for thought......Mia

[Guest AllisonD]

I have had 3 trans women approach me where I work currently. I was startled each time, it has been a long time for me since I was told I was read. Each time, I recovered my composure quickly, did a little verbal dance with the woman that approached me to determine if we were both on the same page, and then was happy to chat with her. I did not mind at all.

But then, they were trans women. I had a child ask me about 12 months ago, but then children are special. I haven't had anyone else tell me that they have read me in such a long time I do not know how it would make me feel. But I do have a policy of answering questions truthfully so I am quite sure that if/when it does happen, I will not panic and I will tell them however much I think is appropriate.

I like Mia's idea of "hello sister" If I should encounter a person that falls on an interesting feminine side of the spectrum, that is precisely what I am going to do.

Hello, sister. My name is Allison

[gennee]

Thank you all for your responses. I would NEVER out someone so I just smiled and said to myself 'welcome and be yourself'.

Gennee

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

It is wonderful to see some of us being brave and being "Out" in public....That is so good!

And no one above me here in this topic did it, but I must warn everyone else reading this to NEVER, EVER tell someone that you think is Trans that they pass wonderfully or even that you are aware ....

It can hurt someone badly if they are "Read" no mater how good the intentions.

If you see someone while out and feel that they are Trans , you may wish to strike up a conversation with them and maybe you will be told by them or you can get a better idea....

As so many of you know, our feelings are raw during these times and and when someone is thinking that they are doing a good job or at least trying hard to pass, an aknowledgement of this sort can be a heart breaker.....Please respect other's feelings........OK?

Thanks......

Donna Jean

If I pass treat me as one of the women, if I dont then please just ignore my mistakes.

Dont out my by telling me either thing. If you know me then tell me privately, not in the middle of Wal-Mart