Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Where To Now?


Guest Elizabeth K

Recommended Posts

Guest Elizabeth K

Hello people - I will confess right at the beginning I am new to the forum and in a sense, new to this world, although I have lived in it privately forever. That changed last Monday as I had my first session with a licensed therapist - one with years of TG experience - and she confirmed what I have suspected for a long - long time- that I am a transsexual. I am thrilled beyond words that I finally have a resolution to the big questions of what am I? and why am I? I should be terrified - and I am in a way because the next part of my life is going to be radically different. Where to now? Well. my therpist will be holding my hand all the way, but she said her job was to show the pathways, but I had to make the decisions. But please tell me why I am so happy!

Link to comment
  • 3 weeks later...

Thats easy. You're happy because "you" has been released. No longer in prison. Even the path of physical amendment, which takes time, begins somewhere, and you are at that beginning. "Hope" is that feeling.

Link to comment

You are so happy because for the first time you have relly faced the world as you! I spent months on the Internet researching and contacted surgeons and then some of their patients. I made a few cyber friends and chatted with them and felt OK. But the day I met my therapist for the first time (in full male mode) she greeted me as Sally and I started crying - I now understand about 'happy tears'. For an hour I was Sally, free at last! That feeling comes back whenever I think about it. I went to her office dressed as Sally and walked through the lobby - IT WAS WONDERFUL!

Embrace that feeling and hold onto it when you hit some of the potholes and steep inclines along the way - no path is completely smooth and even.

Love ya,

Sally

Link to comment
Guest Donna Jean

Hey, Liz, I know how you feel! Since I came out I've been walking with a mile wide grin on my face that I can't get rid of! (People tkink I'm up to something ...or addled) . It's like a cool breeze..open road...the lightness of being! Mostly undescribable! I've been giving to charity so much lately that I'm going broke, but, I can't stop...I want to share the joy! Everyone MUST feel this way somehow....sorta makes me feel guilty :blush:

Christmas is coming...OMG! I'm screwed...poorhouse for me!

Feeling light and airy......

Donna Jean

Link to comment
Guest Karen-1954

Conratulations on your first therapist visit. I remember the feeling of relief that I felt after being told that I was transgendered. I finally started to understand why I felt this way.

Link to comment
Guest Amanda L Richards

Good morning Elizabeth,

In my experience from keeping the weight of that on your shoulders as a secret or through denial, I felt as if I just dropped a hundred pound pack off my back, even maybe psychologically felt like I was able to stand taller, the load definitely felt much lighter, at least in my heart.

This reduction in emotional weight was enough for me to see that I was carrying around extra weight for nothing, especially in view of the fact I should have sought this counsellor out long time ago.

For me it was the result of purging, would be the only term I can think of right now. It was like a pressure release, even a breath of fresh air after being in a closed up sealed room with stagnant air.

Whoa, does that sound like thinking out loud or what!? :huh:

Amanda L

Link to comment
Guest Courtney Hamilton

I had my first appointment last week too and I was told the same thing that I was transsexual, i guess i always thought of myself more as a crossdresser and to be told no dear your not a crossdresser you are most definatly a transsexual, kinda took some time to admit to myself, and now that i think about it she is right i just have built up so many defenses that i wouldn't admit it to myself. As far as the where to now, I'm going to see, take it slow so i don't make bad or hastey choices and see where I end which can be very scary for me not to know, but i think there will be other things I'll be shown and have to knock down some walls and defences so I can be who I am.

Link to comment
  • 5 weeks later...

Well finally stumbled across your original post. Amazing similarities, same direction of self recognition. Girl we are joined at the hip, unfortunatly I am 5"7' and your over 6"so it is hard walking down the mall together, but we manage................Mia.

Link to comment

What a wonderful feeling Elizabeth :)

I am new to the forums and I have just read this post now, but I know exactly how you felt back in Nov. I went into my first session already knowing in my heart and mind I was a woman, but to have someone acknowledge it and agree with me was very profound. Up to that moment everything in my mind was about the question of who am I? Even though I felt I knew who I was I was still obsessed with it. After my therapist agreed that I was a transgendered person I felt relieved and very happy. My head was clear and I was no longer obsessed. Of course after I had some time to think, I asked the same question you did - Where to now? Great, someone smarter than I am with fancy letters and maybe a number or two after his name agrees I am a woman… yay!!! Ok now what? *giggles* Well as you said, " I should be terrified" but I find I am very happy and excited about what's next.

And oddly enough reading about your experience and the replies others have added ,has helped to bring those feelings of light headed joy right back like it happened yesterday.

Thank you Elizabeth

Magan

Link to comment
Guest Elizabeth K
What a wonderful feeling Elizabeth :)

I am new to the forums and I have just read this post now, but I know exactly how you felt back in Nov. I went into my first session already knowing in my heart and mind I was a woman, but to have someone acknowledge it and agree with me was very profound. Up to that moment everything in my mind was about the question of who am I? Even though I felt I knew who I was I was still obsessed with it. After my therapist agreed that I was a transgendered person I felt relieved and very happy. My head was clear and I was no longer obsessed. Of course after I had some time to think, I asked the same question you did - Where to now? Great, someone smarter than I am with fancy letters and maybe a number or two after his name agrees I am a woman… yay!!! Ok now what? *giggles* Well as you said, " I should be terrified" but I find I am very happy and excited about what's next.

And oddly enough reading about your experience and the replies others have added ,has helped to bring those feelings of light headed joy right back like it happened yesterday.

Thank you Elizabeth

Magan

MAGAN

That was my FIRST POST - oh the memories. And I still feel exactly the same.

Oh I am so glad you too are at the same place - its a wonder - ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Gender Gifted - that's us.

Link to comment
Guest Naomi Loen

I have to reply to your first post!

I'm so happy you're happy :)

my first therapist (not a specialist) appointment is later this morning, I'm nervous but looking forward to purging (for lack of a better word)

being Gender Gifted should always feel so good

Link to comment
Guest Elizabeth K

Naomi - made my day sweetheart - BEST WISHES - and make certain your theapist admits if she/he can't help you. Don't spend money 'teaching them' about gender dysphoria.

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   3 Members, 0 Anonymous, 143 Guests (See full list)

    • VickySGV
    • Petra Jane
    • MaybeRob
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,025
    • Most Online
      8,356

    JamesyGreen
    Newest Member
    JamesyGreen
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Anyatimenow
      Anyatimenow
      (23 years old)
    2. Aria00
      Aria00
    3. Ava B.
      Ava B.
      (24 years old)
    4. Claire Heshi
      Claire Heshi
    5. CrystalMatthews0426
      CrystalMatthews0426
      (41 years old)
  • Posts

    • Maddee
    • Birdie
      That does get you the 'starting point' for cup size, but manufacturers, style, breast shape, etc... will effect the results.    Step one is of course finding the proper band fit, then figuring out the approximate cup size with the calculations. Of course you need to try on a few styles after that in different cup sizes close to your measured result until you get the perfect fit.    I have bras in a DD that fit just like my bras in DDD both from Torrid but different styles.    I have some DDD's that fit awesome and some that are a bit loose, but I measure a 46G. It's not wonder that 80% of women are wearing them wrong bra. 
    • Carolyn Marie
      https://www.nbcmiami.com/news/local/man-arrested-accused-of-beating-to-death-transgender-woman-outside-miami-city-ballet/3293404/     May Andrea rest in peace.  If the person in custody is found guilty, hopefully he'll get the punishment he deserves.   Carolyn Marie
    • violet r
      I firmly believe I drank entirely to much for about 25 years. Got drunk every day. This was my coping mechanism to keep hiding deep inside that I was a woman. I miss a lot of signs over the years. Now I drink mabye 1 or 2 beers a day don't even get a buzz anymore. totally accept myself and on regret is that I hide that part of my self which  truly makes me happy being violet 💜. I wasted a lot of time before  being self destructive and had no clue I was just hiding th real me
    • Adrianna Danielle
      Service manager at goes through that here.One was a belt change in a 2019 Kenworth.It was written on the work order including a service done and I seen it.Customer was a complete a-hole.I did it and said he did not want that done.Shown him the original work order and finally said the service manager was right.My boss had to get rid of two customers,always complained about their bill being a little high.Price of parts went up due to inflation and had to explain this to them
    • Tiffany 838
      Well it not morning and I haven’t been on her for a while but it’s nice to be back.  Did some catching up on everyone.  I do have a question, how is Toronto Canada for a get away? Is it a safe and friendly area for us to go.  The wife and I are looking for some where to go to allow me to be my true self.     thanks in advance
    • KymmieL
      Hey, everyone. my life is going down the tubes. at least I think. So, today. A customer called about his car, I told him that the oil change was done. The parts to fix the check engine light are ordered. He can come and get it. For the weekend if he wants. Customer says I didn't want an oil change. it was check the engine light and check for an oil leak. Checking the work order says oil change. The boss wrote the vehicle up. checking with the customer on services wanted.   Being that I wrote down the appointment in the book. and clearly states oil leak. She is complaining because she can't read my small ish writing. It seems she read oil and assumed it as an oil change. It seems like she is blaming me.  She wound up going home because she was too upset. She is stressing about an eye problem she has, she has to get eye surgery it seems she has a tear in her eye.    I feel that I am short for this job. because of the BS they are blaming me on. Plus I am still upset about the trust issue. If either one of the bosses start their Shite tomorrow. I am walking out.    
    • Davie
    • Abigail Genevieve
      "I love you so much,"  Lois said.  They met in the driveway. "I could not live without you." "Neither could I." "What are we going to do?" "Find another counselor?" "No. I think we need to solve this ourselves." "Do you think we can?" "I don't know.  But what I know is that I don't want to go through that again.  I think we have to hope we can find a solution." "Otherwise, despair." "Yeah.   Truce?" "Okay,  truce." And they hugged.   "When we know what we want we can figure out how to get there."   That began six years of angry battles, with Odie insisted he could dress as he pleased and Lois insisting it did not please her at all.  He told her she was not going to control him and she replied that she still had rights as a wife to a husband. Neither was willing to give in, neither was willing to quit, and their heated arguments ended in hugs and more.   They went to a Crossdressers' Club, where they hoped to meet other couples with the same problems, the same conflicts, and the same answers, if anyone had any.  It took them four tries before they settled on a group that they were both willing to participate in.  This was four couples their own age, each with a cross dressing husband and a wife who was dealing with it.  They met monthly.  It was led by a 'mediator' who wanted people to express how they felt about the situation.  Odie and Lois, as newcomers, got the floor, and the meeting was finally dismissed at 1:30 in the morning - it was supposed to be over at 10 - and everyone knew how they felt about the situation.   There was silence in the car on the way home.   "We aren't the only ones dealing with this." Odie finally said.   "Who would have thought that?  You are right."   "Somebody out there has a solution." "I hope you are right."   "I hope in hope, not in despair."   "That's my Odie."    
    • Abigail Genevieve
      The counseling session was heated, if you could call it a counseling session.  Sometimes Lois felt he was on Odie's side, and sometimes on hers.  When he was on her side, Odie got defensive. She found herself being defensive when it seemed they were ganging up on each other.   "This is not working," Lois said angrily, and walked out.  "Never again. I want my husband back. Dr. Smith you are complicit in this."   "What?" said Odie.   The counselor looked at him.  "You will have to learn some listening skills."   "That is it? Listening skills?  You just destroyed my marriage, and you told me I need to learn listening skills?"   Dr. Smith said calmly,"I think you both need to cool off."   Odie looked at him and walked out, saying "And you call yourself a counselor."   "Wait a minute."   "No."
    • Ashley0616
      Just a comfortable gray sweater dress and some sneakers. Nothing special today. 
    • VickySGV
      I do still carry a Swiss Army knife along with my car keys.  
    • Timi
      Jeans and a white sweater. And cute white sneakers. Delivering balloons to a bunch of restaurants supporting our LGBT Community Center fundraiser today!
    • April Marie
      Congratulations to you!!!This is so wonderful!!
    • missyjo
      I've no desire to present androgynous..nothing wrong with it but I am a girl n wish to present as a girl. shrugs, if androgynous works fir others good. always happy someone finds a solution or happiness    today black jeans  black wedges..purple camisole under white n black polka dot blouse half open   soft smile to all 
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...