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Fashion advice for a large person

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I'm going out next week to a transgender social group , it will be the first time I dress as a woman outside the house. The theme is white dress , I think I will look even fatter in white so I'm not going to wear a white dress, they have said only 50% will follow the theme anyway. I'm trying to find out what will look best for a person weighing 300lb . I have fairly large muscled arms , would it be best to cover those in long sleeves ? My calves are heavily muscled as are my thighs , but my thighs are the same size as tree trunks (I cycle to work and back every day which is about 10 miles ) would a dress that is below the knee or a maxi look better ? I know its a bit difficult to visualise , I'm 50 year old and as this my first time venturing out on the town I want to look as nice as my fat body allows me to. I am really excited about taking this step but at the same time I'm worried I'll look fat and ugly . It's funny I haven't felt this anxious about my looks since I was 16


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Guest CassieX

Hi Jorja,

Since you are in the UK I don't have any good shopping suggestions for specific stores as its been a while since I lived there. But, if you look online at Lane Bryant,

or Torrid,

Good luck with your trip!


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My suggestion would be a white top that goes down to your hips and flare leg black or dark grey slacks for a formal look. The top can be somewhat lacy or have ruffled sleeves, which will carve you up, which takes the eyes off of size. A mid calf length skirt would look good also. I am not quite as large as you are, but I love loose fitting tops with medium size patterns and they love me too. Accessories such as a knotted scarf that comes below your breast line, or a chain necklace tha goes that far down will help the overall look. If you are cycling 20 miles per day, what you claim as fat, is not going be the sloppy type, and there are many many large women who look very nice and womanly. I agree with the two stores that Cassie recommended, at least for catalogue shopping for ideas.

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Thanks for the advice , I meant 5 miles each way so 10 miles per day . It's mostly round the abdomen I carry the weight huge love handles , belly , big fupa , and man boobs but underneath the fat is firm muscle, when I tense the underlying muscles you could probably punch me there and would hurt your hand, I wouldn't be surprised if a large amount of my weight is muscle mass.

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