Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

Not my first Bra I bought, But..


Guest cerise

Recommended Posts

Guest cerise

Littlr things amuse me and make life worth living.

Today it was buying a Wonder Bra on sale in The Bay.

Ther was a reason I was there and that was to buy a bra for cheap without having to pay duty and shipping.

My fav is a non wire Back support bra up until now.

I was obsessing about a conical bra probably for 2 months at least and almst bought one this Newyears .

It was the second tome I cancelled the order. Why ? I don't know. Didn't want to spend 50 bucks I guess as now that I am used to shopping for my clothes in person I am finding I can get something pretty sweet if I set a limit How Much.

Any way getting to the motivation of the posting. I love how it looks. I guess liking how my bra looks is something I never thought would give me that much comfort.

Plus it was on sale. I am really feeling the girl in me now.

:wub:

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

A little support does a girl or the girls good. Enjoy. Makes me think mine might be getting a bit tired.

Hugs,

Charlize

Link to comment
  • 1 year later...
Guest AshleighP

One of the joys in life is finding a bra that fits good, looks good, is priced reasonably, and is comfortable. One usually sacrifices one of these, but the rare finds are out there if you're patient.

Link to comment

My revelation today is as I cleared some boxes from my storage, I donated over a dozen bras and clothes to the gals recovery house. Clothes I don't need??? Amazing! Just like most other women...

As an early CD, it was the dumpster or grocery store parking lot donation bin at night out of guilt and shame.

Later CD, just try to take my bras? We gonna scrap now!!!

Today it is wonderful to give up nice attire I don't need, swapping clothes and openly having fun. Female fits me so well.

For a long time I mail ordered soft cup bras from Carol Wright Gifts. They seemed to fit me well enough and were inexpensive too. That helped as my girls grew. Hug. JodyAnn

Link to comment
  • 9 months later...

Hi everyone. Bra shopping is one of greatest joys. I love going to Kohls or TJ Maxx. My favorite brand is BALI and prefer the lightly padded soft cup styles they give you a nice shape. Hugs. Amber 

Link to comment

Mine are definitely getting tired, but I don't want to buy too many since I have a ways to go in the 'growing' department'. My favorite is also Bali :) Once I found the style(s) I liked, I just started buying them from Amazon.

Link to comment

I haven't tried a wonder bra, or any push up bras, but it would be groovy to improve my cleavage.  On the other hand I try to get away without wearing a bra most of the time.  Tight tops do require a bra though to cover up my headlights.  So far all of my bras have come from Target, nice stores with good selection.

hugs,

Stephanie

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Because of my slightly different approach than many, of wearing a bra that fits my large band and small cup (no forms), I have found that I can only get bras that fit me online. I have succeeded though and wear a medium padded non wired bra. I find them soft and comfortable and can wear all day without issue. It has become natural to me.

Tracy

Link to comment
18 minutes ago, tracy_j said:

Because of my slightly different approach than many, of wearing a bra that fits my large band and small cup (no forms), I have found that I can only get bras that fit me online. I have succeeded though and wear a medium padded non wired bra. I find them soft and comfortable and can wear all day without issue. It has become natural to me.

Tracy

Tracy  Have you tried a minimizer.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
10 hours ago, Amber L. said:

Tracy  Have you tried a minimizer.

No I have not tried one Amber, but when I look what they are I think they would do the opposite of what I need. They appear to be for reducing the appearance of a large bust whereas I have very little so I need what I have to show. That said, I am comfortable with what I have. Large breasts for me would be unlikely genetically and I have known a number of cis women who have problems with their health  because of their size. Maybe it would be an option at work where I am still presenting predominantly male (although I do confuse some clients I visit :D ) as to show obviously female dress may bring adverse reaction, but as my job requires robust clothing so I just carry on as I always have. I am beginning to miss wearing my bra while at work though. Strangely(?) it feels so natural. I will have a closer look, thank you :)

They do sound like the type of thing that could be used by FTM in marginal cases instead of a binder.

Tracy

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I'm a VS girl, yeah they cost a bit more, but just love the styles, colors, choices, and the fit, oh yeah.... 

Right now it's a racer back VS sports bra, so comfy, so shapely....

C -

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Hi Everyone,

I'm a fairly big girl, and I've found a wirefree bra from JMS called Pure Comfort, and that's just what they are for me. They're stretchable, no hooks, I like the way they make me look, and I never ever have to adjust the straps! Plus, they're cheap. While I buy them online, I have seen them in stores as well. Love 'em! I've pretty much abandoned wearing my other bra's in favor of these.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I get my Bras from Dainty Lady - online here in Uk. They do ship to other countries. Their clothing is probably made to order so delivery times are longer than usual.

Tracy

Link to comment
  • 4 weeks later...

Been a while since my last purchase and technically I have enough.

With the emergance of some breast tissue after being on HRT I have been more inclined to find one that works with what I have or will have.

However I have noticed that the HRT has markedly reduced my tendency to dress and am just more content to slop around the house.

Weekends are a little different.

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I think HRT calmed me to the point where I became comfortable with my self and I could see who I was.   Did clothing validate that?  Yes clothing made the woman.  But I now had other things to rely on.  I wasn't in a constant internal battle with myself and my body was changing, and that took the emphasis off dressing.  I was me regardless of clothing!  

BTW, I think I probably have too many bras, that actually fit and I wear. :o

Jani 

  

Link to comment
On 12/8/2016 at 2:49 PM, cerise said:

Been a while since my last purchase and technically I have enough.

With the emergance of some breast tissue after being on HRT I have been more inclined to find one that works with what I have or will have.

However I have noticed that the HRT has markedly reduced my tendency to dress and am just more content to slop around the house.

Weekends are a little different.

I'm so glad to hear that. Even my wife has complained that I don't 'dress' as much since I started hormones. I tried to explain that I feel better about myself and therefore didn't need to dress as much at home, but do need more while out and about.

After a while, dress-up and to cease and you have to start being yourself, at least that's the way it feels to me......

Link to comment
  • 4 weeks later...
Guest cerise

Hi again,

Been lost in endless mixing of songs and day jobs for a while.

It will four months on HRT on Jan 6th and I seen my transition doctor on the 10th.

Curious if my E has gone up at all as it stalled on the last blood test. T was lowered.

I seem to be a little more inclined to dress and think I should as every time I slack off I seem to gain a bit of weight.

Its just that when i am on the computer doing music I just want jeans and a  sweater.

Another reason is most of my girl clothes are a synthetic natural fabric mix and they are not that warm compared to all natural.

Post winter sales are on and it probably a good time to pick up better clothes that I will wear.

Talk in a bit.

Gig tonight and need to get ready.

I am learning Lola as my 60th cover but had a little trouble getting comfortable with the lyrics especially practicing it en femme.

Decided to chop the last verse as it would be a lie for me.

Left the second last verse.

" girls will be boys and boys and boys will be girls

it;s a mixed up, muddled up shook up world except for Lola."

 

I figure thats okay and says where I am at these days.

Not confused anymore:)

 

Love you all!!!

Cerise

 

 

 

Link to comment

I still like to dress-up, but that is for when I am going to a party or other social event.  While I didn't start full time at work until May, I was on HRT in January of 2016. Until going full time, I had the dysphoria kicking in when I was forced to be in guy clothes. Once full time, it became sort of fun still but routine. Some days though it is just nice to not dress up and relax. I still have a blue skirt from my pretransition that is ugly--it will never be seen in public, but comfortable.

My average workday it is a 50/50 chance I am wearing jeans or a dress/skirt and almost always a simple set of ma. I like dresses because I don't have to think about pairing with a top. When I get home though I tend to just dress down and sometime take my bra off .

I now of course have a full wardrobe but still have days where I have nothing to wear!!!

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   4 Members, 0 Anonymous, 190 Guests (See full list)

    • MaeBe
    • awkward-yet-sweet
    • Selkimur
    • Abigail Genevieve
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,029
    • Most Online
      8,356

    earthpatch
    Newest Member
    earthpatch
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Anyatimenow
      Anyatimenow
      (23 years old)
    2. Aria00
      Aria00
    3. Ava B.
      Ava B.
      (24 years old)
    4. Claire Heshi
      Claire Heshi
    5. CrystalMatthews0426
      CrystalMatthews0426
      (41 years old)
  • Posts

    • MaeBe
      1.  I think there are some legitimate concern.   2. Thoroughly discussing this will consume many threads.   3. I disagree partially with @MaeBe but there is partial agreement.   4. The context includes what is happening in society that the authors are observing.  It is not an isolated document.   The observation is through a certain lens, because people do things differently doesn't mean they're doing it wrong. Honestly, a lot of the conservative rhetoric is morphing desires of people to be treated with respect and social equity to be tantamount to the absolution of the family, heterosexuality, etc. Also, being quiet and trying to blend in doesn't change anything. Show me a social change that benefits a minority or marginalized group that didn't need to be loud.   5. Trump, if elected, is as likely to spend his energies going after political opponents as he is to implementing something like this.   Trump will appoint people to do this, like Roger Severino (who was appointed before, who has a record of anti-LGBTQ+ actions), he need not do anything beyond this. His people are ready to push this agenda forward. While the conservative right rails about bureaucracy, they intend to weaponize it. There is no question. They don't want to simplify government, they simply want to fire everyone and bring in conservative "warriors" (their rhetoric). Does America survive 4 year cycles of purge/cronyism?   6. I reject critical theory, which is based on Marxism.  Marxism has never worked and never will.  Critical theory has problems which would need time to go into, which I do not have.   OK, but this seems like every other time CRT comes up with conservatives...completely out of the blue. I think it's reference is mostly just to spark outrage from the base. Definitely food thought for a different thread, though.   7. There are groups who have declared war on the nuclear family as problematically patriarchal, and a lot of other terms. They are easy to find on the internet.  This document is reacting to that (see #4 above).   What is the war on the nuclear family? I searched online and couldn't find much other than reasons why people aren't getting married as much or having kids (that wasn't a propaganda from Heritage or opinions pieces from the right that paint with really broad strokes). Easy things to see: the upward mobility and agency of women, the massive cost of rearing children, general negative attitudes about the future, male insecurity, etc. None of this equates to a war on the nuclear family, but I guess if you look at it as "men should be breadwinners and women must get married for financial support and extend the male family line (and to promote "National Greatness") I could see the decline of marriage as a sign of the collapse of a titled system and, if I was a beneficiary of that system or believe that to NOT be tilted, be aggrieved.   8.  Much of this would have to be legislated, and this is a policy documented.  Implementation would  be most likely different, but that does not mean criticism is unwarranted.   "It might be different if you just give it a chance", unlike all the other legislation that's out there targeting LGBTQ+ from the right, these are going to be different? First it will be trans rights, then it will be gay marriage, and then what? Women's suffrage?   I get it, we may have different compasses, but it's not hard to see that there's no place for queer people in the conservative worldview. There seems to be a consistent insistence that "America was and is no longer Great", as if the 1950s were the pinnacle of society, completely ignoring how great America still is and can continue to be--without having to regress society to the low standards of its patriarchal yesteryears.    
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Cadillac parts are pretty expensive, so repairing them costs more.  But they don't seem to break down more than other makes.  Lots of Lincoln models use Ford cars as a base, so you can get parts that aren't much more expensive.    My family has had good luck with "Panther platform" cars.  Ford Crown Victoria, Mercury Marquis, Lincoln Towncar or Continental.  4.6 V8 and 5.0 V8.  Reasonable fuel economy, and fairly durable.  Our county sheriff's office was running Chargers and SUV's for a while, but has gone back to older Crown Victorias for ease of maintenance.  GF rebuilds them here.  But they are getting more scarce, since the newest ones were made in 2011.    1992-1997 years were different than the later years.  1998-2001 they did some changes, and apparently the best years are 2003 to 2011.  Check Craigslist, and also government auctions.  GF has gotten a lot of them at auction, and they can be had in rough-but-running shape for around $1,000.  Ones in great shape can be found in the $5,000+ range.  Good for 200,000 miles without significant rebuilding.  Go through engine and transmission and electrical systems, and they go half a million.    Some Chrysler models are OK.  The 300 mostly has the same engines as the Charger and Challenger, so parts availability is pretty good.  But they tend to get timing issues.  The older Chrysler Sebring convertibles were pretty reliable, sometimes going 200,000 miles without tons of problems, although after that they were pretty much worn out. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I think I have read everything the Southern Baptists have to say on transgender, and it helped convince me they are dead wrong on these issues.  They can be nice people.  I would never join an SBC church.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      You come across as a thoughtful, sweet, interesting and pleasant person.    There are parts of this country, and more so the world, where evangelicals experience a great deal of finger wagging.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      It has been an interesting experience being in a marriage in a Christian faith community, yet being intersex/trans.  I stay pretty quiet, and most have kind of accepted that I'm just the strange, harmless exception.  "Oh, that's just Jen.  Jen is...different."  I define success as being a person most folks just overlook. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, I live in an area with a lot of Southern Baptists, Evangelicals, etc...  We've experienced our share of finger-wagging, as the "standard interpretation" of Scripture in the USA is that the Bible only approves of "one man, one woman" marriage.  My faith community is mostly accepted here, but that has taken time and effort.  It can be tough at times to continue to engage with culture and the broader population, and avoid the temptation to huddle up behind walls like a cult.    Tolerance only goes so far.  At one point, my husband was asked to run for sheriff.  He declined, partly because an elected official with four wives would have a REALLY tough time.  (Of course, making way less than his current salary wasn't an option either). 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      My bone structure is far more female than male.  I can't throw like a guy, which has been observed by guys numerous times, and moving like a woman is more natural.  It just is.  I'm not going out of my way to act in a fem. way, as you say, but I am letting go of some of the 'I am not going to move like that because I am a guy' stuff I have defensively developed.  The other breaks through anyway - there were numerous looks from people at work when I would use gestures that are forbidden to men, or say something spontaneously no guy would ever say.   At one point, maybe a year or more ago, I said it was unfair for people to think they were dealing with a man when they were actually dealing with a woman.    Girl here.  'What is a woman' is a topic for another day.
    • Willow
      Mom, I’m home!  What’s for lunch?   Leftover pizza .   ok.    Not exactly our conversation but there is truth in the answer.     @KymmieLsorry you are sick. Feel better soon.   Girl mode, boy mode no mode, not us. Nothing functional for either of us.   anyone here have or had a 10 year old (plus or minus) Caddy, Lincoln or Chrysler?  How was it?  Lots of repairs?  Comfortable seats? Anything positive or negative about it?  I need to replace my 2004 Ford Explorer Eddie Bauer, it’s eating $100 dollar bills and needs a couple of thousand dollars worth of work and that doesn’t even fix the check engine code.  Obviously, it isn’t worth putting that kind of money into a 20 year old car with a 174 thousand miles.   Willow
    • Ashley0616
      Oversized pink shirt, pink and black sports bra
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I think you mean the worst possible interpretation of 2025 situation.  Keep in mind that there are those who will distort and downright lie about anything coming from conservatives - I have seen it time and time again.  It's one of the reasons I want to read the thing slowly and carefully.  They want you to be very, very afraid. 
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Here is where the expectation is that the stereotypical evangelical comes in finger wagging, disapproving and condemning.    Not gonna do that.   You have to work these things out.  Transgender issues put a whole different spin on everything and God understands what we are going through. I have enough trouble over here.  :)
    • Ivy
      You do you. You seem to be in a safe place if we end up with a 2025 situation.  But a lot of us are not.
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Well, my marriage is different.  I'm actually part of a multi-partner marriage.  Like you see in the Book of Genesis.  My husband has four wives...and me.  I was kind of an accident, as our community sets the "reasonable maximum" at four wives, but that's a long story.  Plural marriage is approved in my faith community, with the exception of spiritual leaders, as described in 1 Timothy 3.  We believe that anything that isn't specifically prohibited is permitted.    The purpose of marriage is for people to work together, demonstrate the love of God, and to have children.  My faith believes in exponential reproduction - big families with lots of kids, both as a blessing and with the intention of using the size of our population for political ends.  Being intersex/trans and unable to bear children, I wouldn't have been a good candidate to be somebody's only spouse (the majority of our community tends toward traditional couple marriage).  Since my husband has other partners, I don't have to worry about the childbearing aspect, and I help out with raising our family's kids.  I'm a "bonus parent."    I'm not 100% open about my intersex/trans nature, although my community's leaders are aware of me.  Being transgender isn't condemned, but it is seen as a health problem derived from an imperfect, fallen world and an environment polluted with chemicals.  Since I'm married, I have a safe place to be, and I can live how I need to live.    I firmly believe the advice given in 1 Corinthians 7.  We don't totally own our bodies.  God gets a say, as I believe He created us to be male or female, not something outside the binary.  I don't think that transition without discussion with partners is OK....again, we don't totally own ourselves.  When I started to figure myself out, that was actually the main thing on my mind - will my partners accept me?  How will my position in the family change?  Since my partners don't really have a problem with the mild version of transition that I wanted to do, it has all been good. 
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      Indeed.  While it seems like the majority of LGBTQ+ folks vote for Democrat candidates, not everybody drinks the Kool-Aid.  I'm a registered Independent, since I vote for individuals rather than party.  One of my trans friends is very pro-Trump - wears her MAGA hat and everything.  I find it interesting to see the reactions she gets... folks aren't always as tolerant as they claim to be.  Even on this forum, you get some real flak from Democrat voters....many will insist that the California way is the only way.    In my opinion, "Project 2025" isn't the real problem.  Check out UN "Agenda 2030."   
    • awkward-yet-sweet
      While Biden may be more friendly to trans folks, I'm not a single-issue voter.  I just can't choose a Democrat candidate, as I believe their actions will destroy my community and way of life.  Biden just announced that he wants to significantly increase capital gains taxes.  Maybe he intends to "tax the rich" but that is going to affect everything from land sales to grocery prices to the cost of electricity and even folks' retirement savings, as most companies make a large amount of their profits through investing in the market.  It is absolute lunacy to think that increased cost or reduced profits won't be passed on to the rest of us.  Things are going to get way worse at this rate.    Mostly, I vote in elections for state and local issues, as the national government is about as pleasant as a Porta-Potty in July.  So, either I'll do a write-in vote for president, or I'll check the box for Trump.  Anything but Biden.     
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...