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Is there any easy and fast way to curl the eyelashes without a curler and mascara?


ElegantLady

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Hi!

In my more than five years since I started transition and more than a year trying to present as female as good as I can in every day life, I have never learned how to curl my eyelashes, which are naturally very straight. A couple of cis women friends when I started transitioning tried to teach me how to do it with a curler and mascara and I found it very frustrating because I NEVER learned how to do it right, not even once, so I gave up on it. It was just too complicated for me. Specially the curler thing. Applying mascara only never curled my eyelashes up. It actually made them look even worse, all thicker and darker but still straight.

I also went to my cosmetologist to get "permanent eyelash curling" many times for about a year, until I got frustrated that it only lasted about a month or even less many times, and then I had to do it again. I really don't understand why they call it permanent, it would be called something like three to five-week eyelash curling. That would be a realistic and non-deceiving name for the procedure.

Any suggestions will be most welcome!

Much love

Elegant

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I regret to say that it is my fate as well. I have to tell people that the only straight part of me is my hair, all of it damn it! Your time problem is that eyelashes are some of the fastest growing and most quickly falling out hair on the body. I use falsies for my best curled look, but yes, they are a nuisance to learn to put on and make presentable without looking like a drag queen!!

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I regret to say that it is my fate as well. I have to tell people that the only straight part of me is my hair, all of it damn it! Your time problem is that eyelashes are some of the fastest growing and most quickly falling out hair on the body. I use falsies for my best curled look, but yes, they are a nuisance to learn to put on and make presentable without looking like a drag queen!!

Thank you for your response! Well it seems I will keep on living my life with flat, unattractive eyelashes. It already takes me forever to shower and get ready to go out even though applying makeup doesn't really take me so long, but everything combined is just so lengthy. Adding several minutes more to just try and curl the eyelashes and then apply mascara, would be just too exhausting for me!

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I only use mascara on my lashes once in a very super long time, and usually only for a party when I am near drag queen in looks. I use a soft crayon eyeliner on my upper lids, (in my case in an more light or golden brown color because my eyes are blue), and it is enough to accent my eyes. Eye lashes are not mandatory for presenting as female. (As a full timer, I almost never even use more than a shadow of eye shadow for that matter.) I know it is fun when you can do it, but when it is a daily thing, and there is a time factor, we need to develop our own workable style that become US with however much or little make-up as we see fit. My most regular item of make-up is simply a moisturizer with Sun Protection Factor of >30.

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And now the commercial: Ask your durmatologist about Latice. It grows eyelashes longer and fuller. They may tend to curl on their own that way. Giggle. Hug. JodyAnn

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I only use mascara on my lashes once in a very super long time, and usually only for a party when I am near drag queen in looks. I use a soft crayon eyeliner on my upper lids, (in my case in an more light or golden brown color because my eyes are blue), and it is enough to accent my eyes. Eye lashes are not mandatory for presenting as female. (As a full timer, I almost never even use more than a shadow of eye shadow for that matter.) I know it is fun when you can do it, but when it is a daily thing, and there is a time factor, we need to develop our own workable style that become US with however much or little make-up as we see fit. My most regular item of make-up is simply a moisturizer with Sun Protection Factor of >30.

Mine are green. I use black for the upper and lower lids. I think actually NOTHING should be mandatory to present as female, but then again there's all the dated stereotypes and ridiculous society impositions, like "blue is for guys, pink is for girls", boys wear short hair, girls wear long hair." I actually look more feminine wearing light-blue blouses than wearing pink ones! So obviously, when one is a tall Caucasian in a Latin American town where average women are 8-10 inches shorter than you, you need to try and do an extra effort to enhance your face, since the height, bone and and facial structure don't help you much to blend in, next to the average woman where you live. Bottom line, green eyes (an unusual thing here where I live) coupled with beautiful curly eyelashes, would help distract people from all my other face and body features that could draw unwanted attention to me.

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