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Ignorance Is Bliss???


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Okay, I just so have to share this with you.

I woke up this morning in a very strange mood. I just decided today that I was going to dress and not give a Gosh darned what other people thought. I decided to not go to over the top so I just put on a pair of Jeans, the only female pair of jeans I have lol :( and a pink top that I bought some time ago. I have not worn these clothes for ages, not since my mom made me give up my transition. I thought the sparks would really fly when she saw me dressed like this, but she did not say anything at all. She didn't even looked surprised. It was almost like she was intentionally ignoring this.

Anyway we went out shopping and still no comment at all. Not wanting to be outdone by this I came home and put my denim skirt on and just enjoyed the glorious sunshine that we were having. Mom came out several time during the afternoon and still said absolutely nothing to me. I guess Ignorance is Bliss. If you don't take notice or ignore something it's not happening hey?

Just thought i would share this with you all.

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Hey Kirsty,

There's one part of this that I don't understand.

You're listed as being from the UK and yet you mentioned sunshine - I didn't see any when I was there!

The ignorance is bliss was an attitude of pedestrians in some of the larger US cities - if you never look at the car, they will assume that you do not see them ans stop for you - doesn't work if the driver isn't looking so that the pedestrians will see him not looking and stop for him!

Love ya,

Saly

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Guest Elizabeth K

You just got the famous "mum won't say anything, and it will go away."

She hopes you got that point! It's a woman thing. She was saying something like, "We can argue about this, or I can pretend not to notice, you will notice I am pretending not to notice, and you will feel bad, and not do it again!"

Good move - sounds like you had a good day.

Lizzy

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Guest kirsty

That's unfortunate, but sadly we do not get too much sunshine. But today was brilliant. It got up to 23oC today which is think is equivalent to about 73 Fahrenheit which is not the norm for this time of year.

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hi kirsty,

I think that it is wonderful that you gathered up the courage to wear what you wanted!! kudos!! I think you mother is simply in denial. In time, when you think it is right, it might be good for the both of you for your mother to acknowledge who you are... but all in good time.. no need to rush!!

LOL

bernii

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Guest kirsty

My dad said to me just before he went to bed tonight "Do not wind your mum up like that anymore" Like I did what I did just to wind up my mum. People can be so ignorant sometimes :(

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