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Beginning my coming out story


Rachael

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I have started to tell people my story. 

Tuesday i had my three month checkup all was well. I called my sister later and we had a nice talk, and she said she supported me. 

Thursday was the cancer support group I go to.

Before the meeting we discussed my earings, nail polish, cute red boots, and the haloween costume photos of me in the queen of hearts dress/costume. 

We had a new person join us so we went around and gave our names history and our story. When it became my turn; my story was my partner of 22 years Patti was diagnosed with cancer in July of 2014 and lost her battel March 1 2016. i myself had been struggling since then but earlier this year things started to get better and july 31 I was able to start hrt and the first part of setember things got better and i felt like i had been given my life back, and I am transgender. When i finished two of the regular gals looked at me and replied its about time we knew that a long time agao.

So if you are not sure what to do grab on to your faith, hold on tight, never stop beliveing. 

All the stories here have given me the inspiration to go on, for that i say thankyou. Hopefully someone can gain inspiration from my story.

Thanks for reading, and alowing me to share.

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Good news on the check up!   A sisters support is always welcome.  I had to chuckle about the reply to your story from the other regular group members.  It seems we are the last to know and maybe our secret isn't so secret after all.  

 

Thanks for an inspirational post.

 

Jani

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Thank you for your story Rachael.  I remember being open and honest with the women in a meeting i was attending as myself years before i even had understood the concept of transition.  I found it amazing and so wonderful that i was accepted and my honesty seemed to bring me closer rather then further from acceptance.   I'm so glad you are finding a similar reaction.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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I am glad things are going well Rachael. I remember a similar time with my art group when I said I was a bit transsexual. Someone replied replied  'we noticed' :D

 

Tracy

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Congrats on your sister's support Rachael, nice to read this morning.

 

Hugs

 

Cyndi -

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update since getting my checkup  labs showed my t levels were high so we increased the spiro. i thought that i was handeling the increase but in reality i was not. i woke up with a leg cramp went to get some water and fell. i am ok but stopped the siro at the primary care doctors nstructions as i am not able to handle the blood pressure drop. i have an appointment with the hrt dr Tuesday so we can get back on track. 

this prompted me to tell the rest of my family dad brother and, stepmother. dad did not even know what transgender was. and said so this is a decision you have come to recently. i said no this is a decision that was made for me 58 1/2 years ago. he said he would support me at least its a start. now when i call he makes it a point to say hellow (given name ) the difference is he used to just say hello. my brother could not come but stepmom called as soon as she could dial the phone after she left. he says he supports me and wll try but may still forget and use the references that he has used for so many years. i said this would be fine as what is left of that person is still here but merging with rachael. it was better than i exected and at least they know. i am still happy and life is good. 

thanks for letting me share.

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Your family story sounds promising.  Lets hope for the best in 2018.  

 

As for the spiro some people do not tolerate it well, but you really have to up your water intake.  Interestingly for me I never experienced a drop in BP, but I had experienced leg cramps for a long time even prior to starting.  The added water seemed to make them a much less frequent occurrence.   Some doctors will prescribe a high dose of E and no antigen.  Several women in one of my support groups follow this regimen.  The high level of E negates any T in your system.   You might ask your doctor about their thoughts on this.  

 

I glad you are still happy and that things are well with you.  Thank You for sharing with us! 

 

Jani   

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Wishing you well, Rachael. I'm glad your family sounds accepting.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

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