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Alex-John

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I just came out to my dr  i have already came out to my friends and family apart from my mother who am going to tell her the next time i see her 

my dr told i must live as a male for a year before  she can refer me to the gender therapist  but most of them are in Glasgow  its the next big city  to Edinburgh   i dont know Glasgow  that well 

but i crossing that bridge when it comes   she said they want me to be stable in  my mental health  and not cut or Od  or put myself in danger of any type 

i am focused on this   the  only thing i am worried about is when i come out to my mother it could make me a little unstable if she has  a  go or saying anything negative

but i know my mother will not understand and most like say its a phase or some other  rubbish  she isn't going to stop me from my goal 

everyone else i have told  are supportive  

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Alexx, it sounds like you're on the right path. Your mother appears to be the domineering type who would object to anything you might do. If you have to cut her out of your life, so be it. The doctor is right in that you have to be mentally stable before anything can be done. For now, you need to focus on that. Get the medications that you need to accomplish your mental stability. Take it one step at a time and you'll succeed in your goals. Please keep us updated with your progress. We're here for you and we care.

 

MaryEllen

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I'm glad you were able to be open and honest with your doctor.  that is a great step Alexx!  Don't worry about your mother. You will be ok and she will come around in time.  Instead please care for yourself and listen to your doctor.  She supports you in your goal and getting stable and dealing with mental health is the most important thing in your life.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Good news Alex.  As Charlize says focus on you, not your mother. You are important and valued so look after your life. Your mother has her own life to live.   As to a referral to a Gender Therapist, today can start your first year of Real Life Experience!

 

Jani

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Hi Alexx,

I am so glad you got to see your doctor and came out to her. Thank you for keeping us updated.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

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Great news Alexx,

 

Something for you to look forward to!

 

Tracy x

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just got my hair cut at the barbars for the first time my husband loves my hair  he says i look good  i feel more like am male now with my hair being this style  going to a trans group today with my husband kinda looking forward to it av not been to this  group for months because it so busy and i know its going to be busy this time because of tdor  there doing something for it with in the group time and i really want to be able to go to it 

my husband will be with me  and i have medication to take if i dont feel so good  plus they have a room where you can sit if it gets too much 

 

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Hi Alexx,

 

It's surprising how much difference hair can make in how we feel. And it sounds like you're having a pretty good day today. That makes me happy! Enjoy getting out to your group. I'll be thinking about you.

 

Lots of love,

Timber Wolf?

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It sounds like your prepared for a beautiful day.  Enjoy it.  You certainly deserve that and short hair makes it easier.

 

Hugs,

 

Charlize

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Congratulations

 

I sometimes wonder about how much better we fell when doing something

 

Tracy x

 

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