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Robin Winter

I currently only have one single concern before requesting to be added to the wait list for vaginoplasty.  For those of you who have got the t-shirt, just how much does dilation effect your every day life.  I know after the first year it becomes less of a concern (as it's not needed as often), but for that first year, what should I expect?  I mean, I have a full time job, that I would eventually have to return to, I can't afford to go on long term disability to accommodate dilating and bleeding in the tub. 

So how have you managed?

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MaryMary

I've took 3 months of disability. In the beginning you have to do it 4 times a day and take many baths . It's very time consuming. After that you have to do it at a regular interval, less and less often. Right now I'm doing it once per week. It's kind of a meditation time to me. Obviously like everything in life you can mind yourself to see it negatively or positively. Most transgender woman twist this positively. I actually enjoy it now.

 

If you want I can give you the planning the doctor gave me 2 years ago. It will give you an idea of what to expect.

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Robin Winter

I can't take that much time off, my disability pay isn't enough.  How long does it take each time you do it?  I have some flexibility at my job, and I work where I live so I can run home if needed for a short period.  If I can get away with hopping into the tub and just spraying down that would probably work for me.

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In the beginning you have to :

 

1. Setup the room where you will do the dilatation (place the clothes needed, clean the dilatators, the room, etc)

2. Dilatation with the dilatator #2 for 10 minutes

3. Switch dilatator, reset the timer

4. Dilatation with dilatator #3

5. Take a bath  with a little soap

6. Let everything dry ( very important to not have granulation complication, it's important for the site to be dry)

7. Clean everything

8. put cream and massage the incisions (important to not have adhesions)

 

Repeat that 4 times in the day.

 

8. Walk and do some exercices to let the blood flow and to make sure everything heal correctly

 

You cannot lift anything heavy (more then 10 lbs?) in the beginning. And you will be very limited due to pain (depending on your resistance). I do know people who did not listen and ended up having stitches reopening, you do not want that

 

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oh and very important too, clean the bath, you don't want to expose such a big wound to a dirty bath ;)

dilatation with #3 is 15 minutes

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MaryMary

that's the first month. The second month they add the dilatator #4 on top of that. But you do that only 3 times per day (AM, PM, Evening)

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MarcieMarie12

With Dr. Rumer, it was 4X a day for the first 4 weeks after the packing came out. 20 minutes a day. I did 5 minutes purple, 15 minutes blue, gradually getting to 10 minutes blue and 10 minutes green. After that it was 3X a day for 20 minutes. Which is rough but doable while working. Basically I would do it once in the morning, once when I got home, and once when I went to bed. At 3 months it was 2X a day (once when I got up and once when I went to bed--the green dilator). After 6 months I went to 1X a day (again justthe green dilatorthe largest in the set of 3, but there is an orange one)that is one size larger), I usually do this before I go to bed..  

 

I was off the first month after surgery. You will need that time off. 

For months 2-3, it was a huge time sink.

For months 3 to 6, sometimes a pain when trying to have a night out.

For now, .from months 6 to present, it is still sometimes inconvenient and a chore but it does not interfere with my nightlife all that much.

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Robin Winter

I don't do the nightlife thing anyway, my only concern is work.  I'm gonna have to figure out how to get up earlier in the morning lol

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