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Jani

Aging as a Transgender Person

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Jani

I saw this headline and found it to be an interesting topic.  

 

A few takeaways...

"Don’t discount what you have done!"

"But what is wrong with becoming older?" 

"It doesn’t matter at what age you transition. What matters is that you got to that point you wanted to get to."

 

And this one that I especially liked.

"Yes we all will age, but age your way. If you’re a 54 year old trans person, then be the unique beautiful 54 year old trans person that only you can be."

 

https://www.themaven.net/transgenderuniverse/articles/aging-as-a-transgender-person-vC-mY0XtUk6lOFW4M85wIw/

 

Enjoy,

Jani

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Carolyn Marie

Some very good thoughts and ideas expressed in that article, Jani.  Thanks for posting it.

 

Getting older only seems unpleasant when I think about my various ailments.  Most of the time I don't feel old, and I'm doing many of the things I dreamed of doing when I used to think about being older. I won't face for a long time (hopefully) some issues that come to mind every now and again, such as what might happen if I need long term care.  California is supposed to have rules and regs in place for trans folk in such situations.  But I am not naive, and know that just having rules and regs doesn't make it reality.  So yeah, sometimes I worry.

 

I no longer feel regret over not transitioning earlier in life.  It is what it is, and I think I've made the best of it, and am satisfied with life.  I know very well that I am living a dream that for the longest time I never thought was possible.  So I am happy in my middle, old, middle-old, younger-old, whatever, life.  It's better than the alternative.   :P

 

Carolyn Marie

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Connie

Thank both  you for sharing this with me its very helpful

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