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I did it i told my wife


Amy joey

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I still can't believe this after four and a half years I finally told my wife I was more nervous than when I proposed to her I was expecting the worst and to my astonishment she was okay with it I told her everything I am so happy it feels like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders we talked about it for a while she told me I have her full support and that we can do this together I find myself falling more in love with her everyday

 

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 Oh my goodness Amy that is terrific news, I’m so happy for you! it must be amazing to have been able to be that honest with her!  I hope continued love and acceptance between you and your wife brings you a fantastic new future !

 Hugs, 

Jackie

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Just now, jae bear said:

 Oh my goodness Amy that is terrific news, I’m so happy for you! it must be amazing to have been able to be that honest with her!  I hope continued love and acceptance between you and your wife brings you a fantastic new future !

 Hugs, 

Jackie

Thanks I won't lie it was the hardest thing I think I ever done I truly do love her I'm looking forward to this journey with her by my side and a special thanks to you and all the other wonderful people in this group it's a wonderful feeling having this much support from people going through the same thing I am I love you all

 

Sincerely Amy?

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OMG Amy I'm so happy for you! If we were together right now I would be giving you a big hug!

 

I bet you feel like dancing!

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Just now, AsTheCrow said:

OMG Amy I'm so happy for you! If we were together right now I would be giving you a big hug!

 

I bet you feel like dancing!

Thanks I was so excited that I could not get to sleep lol?

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Congratulations Amy.  Not to throw water on the fire but be aware your wife may waffle a bit after all this sinks in and she can ponder what it all means.  Not to say she'll change her mind but she may have more questions.

 

Cheers,

Jani 

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Amy

That is so awesome.  I’m so happy for you.  Being honest with you wife is a super big step.  Just take it slow and give her some time to catch up.  You’re been waiting for this your whole life but for her, the world just changed.  

I know what you mean about loving you wife all the more for taking the journey with you but remember, it’s a marathon not a sprit, both of you enjoy the ride.

 

the biggest of hugs

Adaline

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2 hours ago, Jani said:

be aware your wife may waffle a bit after all this sinks in and she can ponder what it all means.  Not to say she'll change her mind but she may have more questions.

I can relate to this Jani, lots questions followed in the days after, eventually led to my wife having severe anxiety over it all, she’s since seen her gp as is on medication to help her. The guilt I feel in unleashing my inner thoughts with her is very real. I hope in time I’m able to repay her I in some way for her loyalty and understanding that she has shown me, I feel so very grateful and proud how she has stood by me and been willing to listen and try to understand what must seem a totally alien concept to her.

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Congrats, Amy! It's awesome when your spouse accepts you without question. I do agree with Jani, watch for her reactions and be sensitive to them. My wife came up to me about 6 weeks after I told her and said I was moving too fast for her. She also had questions, and every now and then she asks about something, but it's becoming more and more rare.

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1 hour ago, Adaline said:

Amy

That is so awesome.  I’m so happy for you.  Being honest with you wife is a super big step.  Just take it slow and give her some time to catch up.  You’re been waiting for this your whole life but for her, the world just changed.  

I know what you mean about loving you wife all the more for taking the journey with you but remember, it’s a marathon not a sprit, both of you enjoy the ride.

 

the biggest of hugs

Adaline

Thank you all so much I know exactly what you are saying and I am taking it slow for my wife and me I told her if she can come to me with any questions I'm happy and came out but at the same time I keep replaying it over in my head if I made the right choice cuz I don't want to cause her any pain we'll just take it day by day and let life lead us where it's going to

 

Sincerely Amy

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It is funny the wife and I played at me being feminine as bedtime play, then when I liked it and wanted to dress that way she was all for it. Since we have gone over to Vermont (only 15 miles away) went to Bennington and shopped a women's consignment shop then got dinner. Next Time was up to Manchester and did the same thing. Then on another occasion we went to the Dress Barn and tried on clothes. So we go out shopping as "Girl" friends. I spend as much time as possible dressed as Josie unless we guests or the grandchildren are here. Most of New Hampshire is still very locked down with regards to those of us that have this life style. Oh, My wife was the one to come up with my name. So she is all on board with this. 

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Just now, Josiep said:

It is funny the wife and I played at me being feminine as bedtime play, then when I liked it and wanted to dress that way she was all for it. Since we have gone over to Vermont (only 15 miles away) went to Bennington and shopped a women's consignment shop then got dinner. Next Time was up to Manchester and did the same thing. Then on another occasion we went to the Dress Barn and tried on clothes. So we go out shopping as "Girl" friends. I spend as much time as possible dressed as Josie unless we guests or the grandchildren are here. Most of New Hampshire is still very locked down with regards to those of us that have this life style. Oh, My wife was the one to come up with my name. So she is all on board with this. 

That is so wonderful I am happy for you guys I hope one day I can do that with my wife 

 

Amy

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Hi Josie and welcome.  I'm over on the southern border of NH close to the coast.  It's pretty good here as far as being out and about.  I'm glad to hear things are well with your wife being supportive.  

 

Cheers, Jani

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Jani, Thank You. I know around Portsmouth, Durham and Dover things are a little more accepting. Keene is getting much better, But there are many there That we know That will be off the wall if they saw me in town dressed as Josie. So as the saying goes Discretion is the better part of Valor certainly applies here. So we go to Brattleboro and other parts of Vermont. Also I we are going somewhere, like our old home grounds in the Chelmsford, Ma. Area and I am not going to be getting out of the car then I am dressed. as Josie. Little bit at a time I am expanding my area of comfort.

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Just now, Josiep said:

Little bit at a time I am expanding my area of comfort.

 

Great, thats the way to do it.  At your own pace.

 

Jani

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