Jump to content
  • Welcome to the TransPulse Forums!

    We offer a safe, inclusive community for transgender and gender non-conforming folks, as well as their loved ones, to find support and information.  Join today!

lingerie shopping.


Kali-Ann Gills

Recommended Posts

Hi everyone, 

Well two days ago I did something that I have been wanting to do for absolutely ages and unfortunately I have also been putting it off for ages. I went to a Lingerie shop (La Senza) and got properly measured for bras. Ok I was totally nervous when I went up to the cash desk. After she had finished with another customer she asked if she could help. I explained that I wanted to be measured properly and there was absolutely no reaction from her whatsoever. All she said was no problem give me a moment and promptly disappeared through a door next to the cash desk. She came back and explained that the lady would be with me in a few minutes.

Just as she said another young woman came out of the door,  walked straight up to me and said "hi I am Anna , Justine says that you would like to be measured and fitted; what's your name love? ". I kind of spluttered yes and Kali-Ann . She said not a problem if you would like to follow me. I walked through the door and there was a seating area with sofas and occasional tables;  up to date magazines spread over the.

I took a seat and started to thumb through one of the magazines. Anna came over and asked if I would care for as glass of wine while I waited! I got chatting with another customer who was admiring my Ted Baker bag and signed her up as a nail client.

Anna eventually ushered me into a privacy cubicle and asked me to remove my top. Still no reaction! I did as requested and stood there really self consciously. Immediately she put me at ease. She said that the bra I was wearing was not right for either my size nor body shape. She suggested that I should go for a push up bra with balcony cups. She explained that it would make the most of what I have and give me a much more defined cleavage.

Anna spent a good few minutes with her tape measure took notes then said won't be a mo and left. She returned with an armful of bras and matching panties. Gorgeous stuff. She confirmed that I am just over a AA. Then asked me to remove the bra I had on!! That I totally didn't expect. 

She picked up that I was nervous and said it's ok love no men in here. So I took it off.Then she  went to work. She adjusted the straps and asked me to put it on. She did up the hooks and asked me how it felt. I explained that the straps felt a little loose. She finely adjusted everything until it was perfect. I bought two new bras from the shop and left on cloud nine. 

I simply cannot express adequately just how totally wonderful a properly fitting bra feels or rather doesn't feel. Because they are perfect for me I cannot feel them like I am not wearing one!

So what did I learn? That my money is as good as anyone elses. That as a woman I have as much right as any other woman to take advantage of services for us, and maybe the most important thing of all. Don't assume anything, because at no point did Anna make any reference to me being transgender and treated me exactly the same as any other woman shopping for lingerie. Will I go back most definitely.

It is all a learning curve and I am as bad as anyone because we create a horrible situation in our minds before we even get there, wherever that is. In short we terrify ourselves out of doing so much. In the cold analysis of it all WE are creating the issues.

Go for it ladies it is far from the terrible experience that we believe that it will be.

 

Kali-Ann ? xx 

Link to comment

Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

Link to comment
Just now, April said:

Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

Hey April 

Yes I was wearing a bra I always do. It was the cup size that was the real issue maybe half a size. The new bras are a perfect fit La Senza do half cup sizes basically they are designed by women for women not men who have no idea what having breasts is like! 

These new ones move with me even my man has noticed the difference. 

Enjoy your shopping hunni. 

Kali-Ann ? xx 

Link to comment
Just now, April said:

Hi Kali-Ann,

 

   Maybe I missed but were you wearing a bra previous to your fitting if so how close was the size you were wearing to your fitted size? 

 

Just curious. I love shopping for panties myself I'm my way out later.

P.S  also the band size was wrong I always thought that I was a 38 nope 36 given the cup size.

Kali-Ann ? xx 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

Kali-Ann this is so nice to read.  I'm glad you took time to experience this.  In deed, we can be our own worst enemies when it comes to overthinking! 

Jani 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator

I am glad things went well with you Kali-Ann. I generally buy my bras online these days, as being pre anything and not wearing forms I have a very small cup size not available in high street stores. There is a  lingerie shop specialising in bras not too distant from me which has fittings etc. I often wondered about how I would be treated if I went there as, from their advertising, it appears very old fashioned and catering somewhat for the older woman. I am probably wrong, but, as what I have now fit well and are comfortable, I probably won't find out. I would recommend it to anyone who did need help as there is nothing as draining to morale as poor fitting clothing.

 

Tracy

Link to comment

I wish I was within LaSenza's size range. They have such pretty stuff.

Oh, and yeah, padded plunge or padded demi is how I roll, and my cleavage looks amazing. I get distracted by them when I look down and still can't believe that's all me in there. ?

 

Link to comment
  • Forum Moderator
On 8/20/2018 at 8:16 AM, Lizzie McTrucker said:

I wish I was within LaSenza's size range. They have such pretty stuff.

Oh, and yeah, padded plunge or padded demi is how I roll, and my cleavage looks amazing. I get distracted by them when I look down and still can't believe that's all me in there. ?

 

 I absolutely agree with you Lizzie, it takes some getting used to and I’m not sure when it will happen but I feel just like you do every time I see a reflection or look down. I was out to sushi with a friend the other day and she took a picture of me in boy mode...  yep, it’s official, boy mode is wrecked! I had thrown on a purple boys T-shirt Since I had stubble I needed to visit the electrologist the next morning, but I don’t think it would’ve mattered if I went girl mode or a boy mode, Nobody looked anyway,  so it wouldn’t have mattered !  I did have to order a new bra, my previous 44A from leading lady, just was too loose in the band, so I ordered another Bridget 42A That should arrive in the mail soon. I’m pretty sure that staying with A cup Should be OK, I don’t think I fit the sister size 42B as of yet.  I typically just wear a fabric pull over stretchy bra at work, it’s just too distracting if I wear a normal bra, it distracts the boys at work and it still even distracts me when I see reflections in the machine windows!

 Hugs, 

Jackie

Link to comment

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now
  • Who's Online   4 Members, 0 Anonymous, 152 Guests (See full list)

    • Abigail Genevieve
    • Susie
    • Betty K
    • MaybeRob
  • Recently Browsing   0 members

    • No registered users viewing this page.
  • Forum Statistics

    • Total Topics
      80.7k
    • Total Posts
      768.4k
  • Member Statistics

    • Total Members
      12,029
    • Most Online
      8,356

    Selkimur
    Newest Member
    Selkimur
    Joined
  • Today's Birthdays

    1. Anyatimenow
      Anyatimenow
      (23 years old)
    2. Aria00
      Aria00
    3. Ava B.
      Ava B.
      (24 years old)
    4. Claire Heshi
      Claire Heshi
    5. CrystalMatthews0426
      CrystalMatthews0426
      (41 years old)
  • Posts

    • Abigail Genevieve
      I have read numerous accounts of trans folk no longer being welcome among evangelicals.   I am here for help and fellowship not to rebuke anyone.  I can take a pretty high degree of insult, etc., and you haven't insulted me, to my recollection anyway :) and I usually let it go.  But I thought I would let it all out there.   I am sure I disagree with you on numerous issues.  I appreciate other people's viewpoints, including those who radically disagree with me.  Intellectual challenge is good. One thing I appreciate about @MaeBe.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      Congrats!
    • Sally Stone
      Post 8 “The Ohio Years” We moved to Pittsburgh because of the job with US Airways.  The job involved classroom instruction and simulator training, but no actual flying, so I kept looking for an actual pilot position.  A year after signing on with US Airways I got hired to fly business jets.  The company was located in Cleveland, Ohio, but I was flown commercially from my home in Pittsburgh to where my aircraft was located, making it unnecessary to live near company headquarters.    My flight scheduled consisted of eight days on duty with seven days off.  Having seven days off in a row was great but being gone from home eight days in a row was difficult.  For the first few years the flying was fun, but after a while the eight flying days in a row, were taking their toll on me.  Those days were brutal, consisting of very long hours and a lot of flying time.  Usually, I came home exhausted and need three days just to recover from the work week.  Flying for a living is glamorous until you actually do it.  Quickly, it became just a job.    After five years as a line captain, I became a flight department manager, which required we live near company headquarters.  That meant a move to Cleveland.  Working in the office meant I was home every night but as a manager, the schedule was still challenging.  I would work in the office all week and then be expected to go out and fly the line on weekends.  I referred to it as my “5 on 2 on” schedule, because it felt as though I had no time off at all.   About the same time, we moved to Cleveland, my wife and I became “empty nesters,” with one son in the military and the other away at college.  Sadly, my work schedule didn’t leave much time for Sally.  Add to the fact that while Cleveland is an awesome city, I just never felt comfortable expressing my feminine side.  Most of my outings, and believe me there weren’t enough, occurred while I was on vacation and away from home.   One of the most memorable outings occurred over a long weekend.  I had stumbled across an online notice for a spring formal being held in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, hosted by a local trans group there.  I reached out to Willa to see if she was up for an excellent adventure.  She was, so I picked her up and we drove to Harrisburg together.    The formal was held on Saturday evening and we had the absolute best time.  It turned out that organizers were a group named TransCentralPA.  Everyone was wonderful and I made a lot of new friends that evening.  We learned the spring formal was one of the group’s annual events but for the following year, instead of a spring formal, the group wanted to do a local transgender conference.  That local conference would become the Keystone Conference, and I would attend every year for the next 12.  My move to the west coast was the only reason I stopped attending annually.  I went to the first annual Keystone Conference as an attendee, but in subsequent years I served as a volunteer and as a workshop presenter; more about those in the next installment.   For my Cleveland years, the Keystone Conference would be my major outlet for feminine self-expression.  Yes, I did get out on other occasions, but they were too infrequent.  The managerial job just didn’t allow me the freedom I needed to adequately live my feminine life, and my frustration level was slowly, but steadily on the rise.  It amazed me how adversely not being able to express the feminine half of my personality was affecting my happiness.   However, a major life change was upcoming, and while it would prove to be a significant challenge in many ways, the events would ultimately benefit my female persona.  First, my mom and dad got sick.  They were in and out of the hospital and required personal care.  My wife and I did our best but living in Cleveland, we were too far from them to give them the support they both needed.  Second, I was experiencing serious job burn out.  I decided I need to find another job and I needed to be closer to my parents.    Things changed for the better when I got hired by an aviation training company as a flight simulator instructor.  I would be training business jet pilots.  The training facility was located in New Jersey, which put us much closer to my parents, and the work schedule was much better for quality of life.  Most importantly, this life change would help Sally re-emerge and once again flower.    Hugs,   Sally       
    • Mmindy
      I made a living talking about bulk liquids in cargo tanks transportation as a driver and mechanic. Safe loading/unloading, cleaning and inspecting, as well as emergency response scenarios.   Hazmat and fire behavior in the fire service as well as emergency vehicle operations and safe driving. "It was on fire when they called you. It will be on fire when you get there." Arrive ready to work. I could also talk about firefighter behavioral  heath and the grieving process.   The real fun thing is I can do this for people who are not Truck Drivers or Fire Fighters. Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, Citizen Tax payers about Public Safety Education.   I love public speaking,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • Mmindy
      Congratulations to the mom and family @Ivy on the addition of another child.   Hugs,   Mindy🌈🐛🏳️‍⚧️🦋
    • MaeBe
      Congrats to you and yours!
    • Ashley0616
      YAY! Congratulations on a granddaughter!
    • Ashley0616
      I recommend CarComplaints.com | Car Problems, Car Complaints, & Repair/Recall Information. A lot of good information
    • LucyF
      I've got Spironolactone ___mg and Evorel ___mcg Patches (2 a week) going up to ___mg after 4 weeks 
    • Ivy
      Got a new Granddaughter this morning.  Mother and child (and father) are doing fine. This makes 7 granddaughters and one grandson.  I have 2 sons and 6 daughters myself.  And then I  switched teams.  I think this stuff runs in the family. Another hard day for the patriarchy.
    • Ivy
      Like @MaeBe pointed out, Trump won't do these things personally.  I doubt that he actually gives a rat's a$$ himself.  But he is the foot in the door for the others.   I don't really see this.  Personally, I am all in favor of "traditional" families.  I raised my own kids this way and it can work fine.  But I think we need to allow for other variations as well.   One thing working against this now is how hard it is for a single breadwinner to support a family.  Many people (I know some) would prefer "traditional" if they could actually afford it.  Like I mentioned, we raised our family with this model, but we were always right at the poverty level.   I was a "conservative evangelical" for most of my life, actually.  So I do understand this.  Admittedly, I no longer consider myself one. I have family members still in this camp.  Some tolerate me, one actually rejects me.  I assure you the rejection is on her side, not mine.  But, I understand she believes what she is doing is right - 'sa pity though. I mean no insult toward anyone on this forum.  You're free to disagree with me.  Many people do.   This is a pretty complex one.  Socialism takes many forms, many of which we accept without even realizing it.  "Classism" does exist, for what it's worth.  Always has, probably always will.  But I don't feel like that is a subject for this forum.   As for the election, it's shaping up to be another one of those "hold your nose" deals.
    • Ivy
      Just some exerts regarding subjects of interest to me.
    • Ivy
      Yeah.  In my early teens I trained myself out of a few things that I now wish I hadn't.
    • Abigail Genevieve
      I was thinking in particular of BLM, who years ago had a 'What We Believe' section that sounded like they were at war with the nuclear family.   I tried to find it. Nope.  Of interest https://www.politifact.com/article/2020/aug/28/ask-politifact-does-black-lives-matter-aim-destroy/   My time is limited and I will try to answer as I can.
    • Ivy
      Well, I suppose it is possible that they don't actually plan on doing what they say.  I'm not too sure I want to take that chance.  But I kinda expect to find out.  Yet, perhaps you're right and it's all just talk.  And anyway, my state GOP is giving me enough to worry about anyway. I remember a time when being "woke" just meant you were paying attention.  Now it means you are the antichrist. I just don't want the government "protecting" me from my personal "delusions."
  • Upcoming Events

Contact TransPulse

TransPulse can be contacted in the following ways:

Email: Click Here.

To report an error on this page.

Legal

Your use of this site is subject to the following rules and policies, whether you have read them or not.

Terms of Use
Privacy Policy
DMCA Policy
Community Rules

Hosting

Upstream hosting for TransPulse provided by QnEZ.

Sponsorship

Special consideration for TransPulse is kindly provided by The Breast Form Store.
×
×
  • Create New...