Reason I cross dress

[KayC]

4 hours ago, Leah said:

Let's be girlfriends.... Do you know how they do it?

Hi Leah!  I think just being Yourself is the way to do it ? 

 

I definitely recommend reaching out to your local VA.  I've read many experiences here from other Members about how great the VA's transgender program is.  Therapy is a great way to start.

 

I can easily fall into my "man" mode and work environment pretty much requires me to do that.  But, that is not the way I truly feel how I want to be.  Currently my wife's anxiety is the biggest concern for me, and it limits how often I can dress at home (and then only in private)

 

4 hours ago, Leah said:

don't know where I'm going, I'm not sure where I've been, but I've been puttering along for a long, long time with occasional, fearful forays into femininity, followed by fearsome shame. That's lessening now that I'm living alone. My dog's cool with it, either way. 

You and me both!  My dog is pretty cool about it too, although sometimes he gives me a funny look or a short bark, until he realizes .. "ohh, its only Kay"?

I think you can let go of the shame though.  At this point there's no value for you in those feelings.

 

Let me know if you can how your VA option turns out❣️

 

Deep breaths ... one step at a time

[Lee H]

21 hours ago, KayC said:

Hi Leah!  I think just being Yourself is the way to do it ?

Know what, Kay? You are right on. My truth now is I wore masks too long before I sobered up in AA. Learning to be honest and be myself was my biggest recovery gift, and I value it above all. But still, don't girlfriends hug a lot and feel tickled about one another's little successes? So -- here's a big virtual hug for you, and a "woof" for your puppy.

Thanks for the interest in the VA inquiry. No reply yet, but now that I've crossed over from silence to non-silence, with your help and encouragement, the bell has been rung. I sure will keep you posted, girlfriend, and I thank you.

Squeeze follows, so please give yourself a squeeze for me?

[KayC]

15 hours ago, Leah said:

My truth now is I wore masks too long

Another common connection between us, Leah!  Feeling Squeezzzed ? and Hugs back at'ya! 

 

Have a great weekend❣️

[Genevieve]

I started crossdressng for the sexual stimulation. While it’s still a component, I find I’m calmer, far more productive and creative while dressed. Covid has allowed me to dress virtually every working day for the past year.

[Rachellecd76]

My dressing started when I was 4 where my mum would dress me up we hen dad was out working. Not to often but soon I was asking her to dress me up and it stopped. A few years later I was bullied a lot at school and I don’t know why but I was drawn to her drawers and started looking at all her lingerie. Soon I was trying on her lingerie and tights. I love the silky feeling as her things touched my skin. As the bullying worsened the more curious I was to dress feminine and it was a relief to do so. I could be someone else. I started to build up a stash of my own things only for mum to find it. I was mortified as she called me a dirty -friendly person-. I became more secretive and by 18 I was buying my own things and hiding it in the attic. I’ve gone through severely regretted purged but the urge soon comes back stronger to dress. I’m now in my naughty forties and have started going out dressed and love how I look and feel. It’s also such a turn on being feminine. It can’t be wrong if it feels this good xxx

[LTCD]

You sumed me up exactly the same thoughts, started in my teens now 57

[kira_k]

I've been very ashamed of the more feminine side of myself. I've been speaking to a therapist recently and they explained that there are many reasons for crossdressing and that just being your true self is the best way to go. So that's what I've been trying to do now. Part of it is a comfort, expressing that side of me that is there that I've felt I can't because of everyone else, women's clothes are just nicer in my opinion and feel better.

I think I'm probably autistic too and have never really understood why there is the boys wear trousers and girls wear skirts sort of thinking. I have a more feminine side as well as a I should be able to wear what I like regardless side too.

 

I'm perfectly happy to wear male and female clothes. It's more what I like, which is all very casual stuff, rather than I must wear women's clothes. I seem to have more women's clothes at the moment though. But saying that, there are times when I want to dress full femme and wear a nice dress with make up.

 

It can be very confusing. But I think the answer to why I croasdress is because why not if it makes me feel happy and more whole.

[Michelle38]

Yea I know wat you mean I love wear tight dresses I absolutely love wearing leather mini skirts well any leather skirts or leggings but I mainly wear dresses coz they make me feel so comfortable about who I am and that’s Michelle not Michael 

Edited April 20, 2023 by VickySGV
Dress a little too tight for our rules.