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hmillerrr

Hey so I'm pretty sure I would consider myself gender queer but I definitely fall towards ftm more.. Idk my gender expression and my gender identity are not aligned and it confuses me. I'm pretty sure I would still like to start HRT regardless..is this okay? have any of u still medically transitioned? Idk I don't feel like my dsyphoria is that bad to start HRT. And as bad as this soinds , I wish for more dsyphoria just so I could have an "excuse" to transition (which I've come to find is a form of dysphoria in itself I think) but i just I don't know.. a m i valid? Have any of u experienced this? 

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MaryMary

Each of our experience is unique. Yours in most certainly very valid. I have a lot of dysphoria and I certainly see why medical transition can be intriguing. If you haven't done so yet I suggest a gender therapist and maybe even talk with an endocrinologist and generally gather as much information as possible to at least have all the information before you take a decision.

 

when you say : "I don't feel like my dysphoria is that bad" what I understand (tell me if I'm wrong) is that you are quite confortable with your body? Because HRT aleviate some dysphoria but not all anyway. There's health risks associated with HRT and also it kind of trigger another puberty and an emotional roller coaster (IME).

 

My very personnal impression and my very own "moto" to make decisions for medical transition is to do as little as possible to have a shot at being happy and functionnal.

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hmillerrr

Mmm I don't know if id say I'm COMFORTABLE with my body( I wansmt before my gender identity thing even ) but I agree with u as far as doing the least possible but at the same type I can't see myself looking the way I do now. idk I really wish I could understand myself more and explain it better @MaryMary I really appreciate the comment back

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MarcieMarie12

With my girlfriend, she has great coping mechanism to the such that while she does feel dysphoria she does not get depressed by it.....at least that is what she says. She still transitioned to the point of HRT and going full time. Myself it did and I have had bottom surgery. A gender therapist might be of great help to you at this point. I found mine very helpful as I sorted my feelings out and learned to be honest with myself.

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hmillerrr
11 hours ago, MarcieMarie12 said:

With my girlfriend, she has great coping mechanism to the such that while she does feel dysphoria she does not get depressed by it.....at least that is what she says. She still transitioned to the point of HRT and going full time. Myself it did and I have had bottom surgery. A gender therapist might be of great help to you at this point. I found mine very helpful as I sorted my feelings out and learned to be honest with myself.

Thank you @MarcieMarie12 this is really comforting to me to feel valid

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Lorraine
On 9/30/2018 at 10:11 PM, hmillerrr said:

Hey so I'm pretty sure I would consider myself gender queer but I definitely fall towards ftm more.. Idk my gender expression and my gender identity are not aligned and it confuses me. I'm pretty sure I would still like to start HRT regardless..is this okay? have any of u still medically transitioned? Idk I don't feel like my dsyphoria is that bad to start HRT. And as bad as this soinds , I wish for more dsyphoria just so I could have an "excuse" to transition (which I've come to find is a form of dysphoria in itself I think) but i just I don't know.. a m i valid? Have any of u experienced this? 

Personally, l think the whole idea of gender identity is seriously over rated. It is further complicated by compounding it with gender expression. 

Maybe l am just old and boring but l am perfectly comfortable wearing what l want, when l want. I also express myself how, when and where l want.

Wanting or wishing to be more "dysphoric" (unhappy / uncomfortable), in order to justify hrt/transition, just does not seem right to me.

I tend to agree with others who have suggested professional help.

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hmillerrr
Just now, Lorraine said:

Personally, l think the whole idea of gender identity is seriously over rated. It is further complicated by compounding it with gender expression. 

Maybe l am just old and boring but l am perfectly comfortable wearing what l want, when l want. I also express myself how, when and where l want.

Wanting or wishing to be more "dysphoric" (unhappy / uncomfortable), in order to justify hrt/transition, just does not seem right to me.

I tend to agree with others who have suggested professional help.

So basically, I don't have to fit any certain type of mold for hrt or that u think it's unnecessary given my post? @Lorraine

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Lorraine

I think hrt has some very serious,  potentially life altering, and in many cases, permanent side effects.

Personally, l think you should think long and hard about who you are and whom you wish to become before engaging in such a serious undertaking. 

 

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Lorraine

Gender expression is totally fungible.  In other words, it can be whatever you want, whenever you want. 

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VickySGV

I have Transitioned as far as I want to go.  Hormones & GCS but no face or boob work, and I have not had beard removal.  (My beard never was much and while not gone is now white and hairs are fine.)  I will not recommend any  procedure to anybody, but will give accurate information about MY experience when and if asked.  I will tell you if your ideas are dangerous, but I will not always start laughing at you if they are just silly.  

 

There are a wide range of possibilities for what you can do.  There is much more that you can do than cannot but based on your life and where you live.  With proper medical care from professionals it is possible to do a trial run on HRT for long enough to find out if it is right for you -- in most but not all places.  For some people, HRT is NOT the answer and they know it soon enough to go back.  A lot of good stuff has happened in the last 10 years since I did decide I was Trans and going to live it.  Its fun but tiring to me today.  Wow what a life.

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hmillerrr
11 hours ago, VickySGV said:

I have Transitioned as far as I want to go.  Hormones & GCS but no face or boob work, and I have not had beard removal.  (My beard never was much and while not gone is now white and hairs are fine.)  I will not recommend any  procedure to anybody, but will give accurate information about MY experience when and if asked.  I will tell you if your ideas are dangerous, but I will not always start laughing at you if they are just silly.  

 

There are a wide range of possibilities for what you can do.  There is much more that you can do than cannot but based on your life and where you live.  With proper medical care from professionals it is possible to do a trial run on HRT for long enough to find out if it is right for you -- in most but not all places.  For some people, HRT is NOT the answer and they know it soon enough to go back.  A lot of good stuff has happened in the last 10 years since I did decide I was Trans and going to live it.  Its fun but tiring to me today.  Wow what a life.

Thank you @VickySGV I think after reading people's comments I think I know I want hormones it's just the fear of it all ya know? Bc I'm a hypochondriac and have been for as long as I can remember so im already thinking worse. N I would definitely try a trial period. Also I hope your day gets better Vicky. Stay positive, you've made it far

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MaryMary
44 minutes ago, hmillerrr said:

@VickySGVBc I'm a hypochondriac

 OMG, same 🙋‍♀️

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Kirsten

The important thing is to do what’s right for you. There’s no such thing as too much or not enough dysphoria/trans. Everyone is unique. 

Do what keeps you happy and proud of yourself whatever it may be. That’s all. Be happy with you and you’ll figure it out. 

 

I will say the hormone route is seriously something else though. Be prepared. It can be an amazing journey full of excitement and joy. But it’s a process that’s life altering and not easily, if at all, reversible. Once that cats out of the bag it’s hard to get it back in. 

 

Slow steady and on YOUR path. 

 

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hmillerrr
5 hours ago, MaryMary said:

 OMG, same 🙋‍♀️

Hahaha I'll pray for us lmaooo

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hmillerrr
5 hours ago, Kirsten said:

The important thing is to do what’s right for you. There’s no such thing as too much or not enough dysphoria/trans. Everyone is unique. 

Do what keeps you happy and proud of yourself whatever it may be. That’s all. Be happy with you and you’ll figure it out. 

 

I will say the hormone route is seriously something else though. Be prepared. It can be an amazing journey full of excitement and joy. But it’s a process that’s life altering and not easily, if at all, reversible. Once that cats out of the bag it’s hard to get it back in. 

 

Slow steady and on YOUR path. 

 

Thank you for being kind n understand ing @Kirsten

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