i dont have a gender therapist

[Jasprosesprite]

so ive been going to a therapist (not a gender therapist, just a standerd one) for a while and rather recently told her that ive been sure of having gender dysphoria for a little over a year and she was supportive but didnt really know anything about being trans and transitioning (she didnt even know what hrt is until i told her) and im not sure what to really do to start transitioning and nither does she. i know i have to get estrogen and such but i dont know how or where to get it. i also have a problem of kinda avoiding talking about my emotions with her and i seem to automatically become completely logical once i step into her office even if what im talking about didnt have any logical reasons behind it. im not really sure what to do about this. im not sure if i should get a specialised gender therapist instead of my current one because she seems to know less than me concerning the topic of being trans.

 

p.s: sorry for kinda rambling for this entire thing also im sure i have a typo or grammatical error somewhere in here so sorry about that

[Carolyn Marie]

Hello, hon, and welcome to Trans Pulse.  I see that this is your first post, and you ask some important questions.  What I don't know is where you live, which is kinda important to answer your questions.

 

I agree with you that your current therapist, as good as she may be, is not going to be able to help regarding dealing with your dysphoria or with transitioning.  Most medium to large cities should have a G.T., unless you live in the deep South or some places in the Midwest where they are harder to find.  We have a list of qualified therapists, and you can start your search Here. 

 

An experienced G.T. will be able to guide you to the resources you need, and know the transition process very well.  They should know of endocrinologists and other support staff who you'll need along the way.  But we also have info on some of those folks here also.

 

This is a long process, so don't get too far ahead of yourself. Transition is a complex, lengthy process with lots of things to consider before you take steps along that path.  One of the first things to figure out is whether you are, in fact, transgender, and if so, what are your options.  There are, in fact, many options.   But step one is finding that G.T..

 

Please do post an intro in the, what else, Introductions Forum, so we can learn a little more about you and your situation.  That will help us to provide the best answers for you.  Good luck, hon.

 

HUGS

 

Carolyn Maire

[Kirsten]

Well one place you can start looking for help with the medical portion of transition is with your g.p.  That was where I started. (Although I had already talked to some people here that had pointed me in a direction).

I spent most of my life now in and out of therapy. Since the 1980s actually. And none of my therapists were “gender” therapists. But they all did help me to understand things about myself that ultimately ended in me transitioning. I think that’s the most important part of the therapy. Is that they help you discover the things about yourself you have trouble discovering alone. 

It is important to be open and honest with the therapist though. You can’t get more out of it than you put in. The more honest and true you can be, the better they can see who you really are. That’s really something you’re gonna have to work towards though. I’d start by telling them the same thing you told us. ?

But your regular doc should be able to at least point you to a clinic or doctor that can help you with your meds if you are sure transition is what’s right for you. My doc actually sent me to the same place as my friends here tol me about.  But be sure transition is what you need. It’s not something to jump into. Not all gender dysphoric people need transition. And it’s really hard too. Just be sure before you start anything.