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DeeDee

It can be so hard to get out the house, but when the weather is this nice I managed to get motivated to go for a jog by rewarding myself with a swim afterwards,  I am aiming to go out 3 times a week. Did 2.3 miles along he beach and then a wee ocean swim to cool off... easy when it's nice but how do people stay motivated in winter when it is dark and wet?

 

 

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AnnaD

nice picture (jt might be removed soon im not sure if its allowed to do that)

i think that you have to realise that it does you good to go out in the winter, and you could probably reward yourself more when you do it

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DeeDee

Thanks Anna, the picture is small enough to not break any site rules as far as I can tell but I am always happy if the mods decide to edit my posts as they know more than I do about what is allowed ;)  I know the exercise does me good but I am quite emotionally led when it comes to going out in the cold, wet darkness specifically to run.  I actually love walking in the rain as I tend to get the world to myself :) 

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MaryEllen

The picture is fine.  Very scenic. :)

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Alex C

wow. If I leave that close to beauty I would jog come rain or come sun...Why to amazing not to enjoy it.

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Charlize

Lovely picture of a beautiful place.  I guess i'm fortunate because while i don't jog or go to the gym my work on the farm continues year long.  Sometimes it is quite vigorous.  Unfortunately while we have a pond it isn't great for swimming and certainly isn't as scenic as your "swimming hole".

 

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Charlize

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tracy_j

Lovely picture, and the beach pretty much to yourself 😊. In Scotland though, I suppose it does get bleaker in the winter. Actually one thing I love is to walk through the frozen snow in the countryside in the winter. I find it a very good workout as hard work. Driving tends to be fun too although the risks outweigh that - give me a rally car lol. These days with the global warming it is a few years now since I have a a good walk like that though. One advantage is that it is far drier so can be very pleasant out walking in the cooler weather. Our side of the UK is probably the driest area. This year I managed to get out several times a week all through since Christmas until quite recently without encountering rain, and not too boggy either. In winters of old the ground used to be pretty much frozen for all of January but these days, seldom, so it can get rather soft. Although I prefer the warmer weather, I do look forward to wearing my winter outfits. To some extent it takes less thinking about than the skimpy clothes of the summer.

 

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AnnaD
On 8/26/2019 at 10:06 PM, DeeDee said:

Thanks Anna, the picture is small enough to not break any site rules as far as I can tell but I am always happy if the mods decide to edit my posts as they know more than I do about what is allowed ;)  I know the exercise does me good but I am quite emotionally led when it comes to going out in the cold, wet darkness specifically to run.  I actually love walking in the rain as I tend to get the world to myself :) 

sorry for the very late reply, but i like the rain too. makes a nice sound, especially on an umbrella 🙂

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DeeDee

No worries Anna, you are going to need that brolly now we are into winter! I have not been keeping well recently, but am starting to feel better so I intend to start going back out again next week - I have actually missed my morning jogs, and mens running tights are just socially acceptable leggings so it feels nice wearing them out in public too. 😉

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tracy_j

It's interesting you say that DeeDee. I remember a year or two back when in my work clothes (so male) buying some more sporty womens leggings from Topshop and asking the assistant about sizing. She said that quite a few men bought them. It seems to work both ways.

 

Tracy

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Charlize

When i was racing bikes i loved the look and feel of lycra.  The sport also gave me an excuse for shaving my legs.

 

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Charlize

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