thank you - I just received answer on hold up from my NP - she says my doctor indicates it takes up to 2 weeks to transfer records but they are trying to push tohe transfer - at least now I know - I'll try to keep my mind off it and continue with my lady'fing activities and maybe write another song or three.
I am not a therapist, but to me the label guy you keep using, sounds to me like you are either struggling with self acceptance, or you are likely not a trans woman. There are still an infinite of options on the scale from cis male to trans woman, and it is possible you land somewhere in between. Labels do not mean a whole lot, as everyone puts their own interpretation on the labels; however, they can help to sort of guide you to areas of further self-exploration.
Again there is nothing wrong with being a cis guy who just likes things that our current culture has deemed feminine. If you look through history, there is constant change as to what is male or feminine, sometimes flip flopping, sometimes it's more blurred.
The only requirement to be transgender is to identify as anything of than the what you were assigned at birth. If you are more comfortable being a guy than being anything other than a guy, you are not trans. Hope this helps some.
what tips besides doing my voice exercises, walking, make up and clothing and music....to help reduce anxiety and disphoria? My NP at consulr a week ago thursday said when test results and records were complete i could start hrt and it would be this past week. i checked to make sure everything i needed to do was done and that was complete. Friday no call from pharmacy and will check again today. I do have an issue with anticipation and i have all weekend to wait... and it is driving me nuts....waiting is not something to happen
Hi, Charlotte. I agree with the others: it sounds like you could be transgender. Only you can decide that, preferably with the help of a gender therapist.
As for what to call yourself, assuming you are trans, you would be a trans woman. If you are not comfortable using the word "woman", you could call yourself transfeminine. You aren't a "transgender guy". That is going the other direction.
Oh I love Alicia. She recently was on NPRs Tiny Desk on YouTube. Her set was emotional and so beautiful.
If you haven’t heard of Tiny Desk, I recommend you go check it out on YouTube or NPRs website, they feature bands and artists from all genres, from all over the world. They usually do a short 3 or 4 song set, but the venue is so informal, small and intimate that you really get a great feel for the music and the people behind it.
There is something called screen fatigue that is being studied. From what I’ve read, people are burning out emotively as a result of over emoting on video calls to try and make up for the loss of fidelity through screens and lack of some non-verbal cues that cannot be captured through screens. Maybe this could explain some of the things you saw from the therapist.
Maybe they were tired or they were thinking or it could be one of a million other things. It takes awhile to learn everyone’s communication idiosyncrasies. We all communicate slightly differently than each other, both verbally and non-verbally. This is why my training as an investigator taught me to first work on establishing a rapport, then start with simple unrelated and innocuous questions and study how your subject responds. The more time spent in this stage, the better you will be at identifying their responses when you get to tougher topics and they begin deception or try to guard. There is more to it than that, but what I’m trying to say is, one brief session is not enough to begin to be able interpret someone’s behaviour and the motives behind them.
Then we have or own biases that we can project onto the other person and end up misreading their cues.
Time and bilateral trust are what build rapports. Give it a few honest sessions. If you have trouble with trust, start small with a few of the smaller things to test the waters.
Also, licensed therapists are required to keep your trust unless you pose immediate harm to yourself or others. Failing to keep your trust will result in them losing their ability to practice. Pretty strong motivation to keep your trust.
I hope your next session goes better. Don’t be afraid to talk to your therapist about how you thought your therapist was responding to you. It is valuable to both you and your therapist to know how you each are reading each other.