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Dinaki

I there a way to edit a post after been posted?

 

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Jackie C.
29 minutes ago, Dinaki said:

I there a way to edit a post after been posted?

 

 

Yes. Send a PM to a mod or admin that's online. Tell them which post you'd like edited and how.

 

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Dinaki

aren't you a mod yourself dear? Under your name, it states Forum Moderator. (that's in red letters)

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Jackie C.

Well sure, but you didn't tell me what you needed to edit. 😘

 

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Dinaki

(I reported myself to delete a post of mine. it was Gianna Nannini I Maschi)

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Jackie C.

All done. I deleted the one with the link that went back to the site instead of the youtube video.

 

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Carrie
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Hi I was wondering if it has been considered to make it possible for those that put the posts in to edit them themselves. Just thought it might be a nice feature to incorporate in the site.

Many thanks to a wonderful site

wish I had found it earlier

With love and respect 

Carrie

Edited by Jackie C.
Hey, Carrie asked in the next post. ;>

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Carrie

See what I mean I meant to say wish not with. lol

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VickySGV
31 minutes ago, Carrie said:

Hi I was wondering if it has been considered to make it possible for those that put the posts in to edit them

 

It has been considered from the beginning of the site and rejected by the Owner / Admin/ Moderator staff.  We have rules to keep the site safe in a way that no other site does, and we want to keep it safe that way.  The site was begun in 2007 and we have not had the problems other sites do that allow edits at will. We want to keep it that way, and Moderators are chosen from members who show wisdom and reliability of judgment and helpfulness to the members.  The little mistake you made above is one we can easily fix if you tell us about it.  Just PM one of the Staff, Moderator or Admin's if one of us is here and we will make the change for you without charge.

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Carrie

Hi Vicky

It is such a small thing that I mostly would not worry about it.  It just seemed like something we could do for ourselves. I like this site very much and if that keeps it safe then so be it.  I really need to proofread before I post.  Also sometimes put more thought in as well.  Before we had word processors I learned to type on an electric typewriter which I still have and proofreading was essential on that.  I need to pay more attention when posting. 

Will do so from now on. 🙂

Hugs 

Carrie

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VickySGV
2 hours ago, Carrie said:

I need to pay more attention when posting. 

Will do so from now on. 🙂

 

If you need some help, don't be afraid to ask for it and if you see something you think should not be please let us know.  The site does look good, but its the result of staff catching things I am sure you could believe but would not want to have around. 

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Carrie

Hi Vicky

You all do such a great job!  I have been on other sites and it can be pretty bad. 

Thank you for everything

Carrie

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Petra Jane

I use a little bit of FREE software called Grammarly which helps me by checking spelling and grammar as I type. I've found it excellent and very helpful, gives my sites a touch of professionalism as when I use it, my spelling improves which always looks good to readers.

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