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Regretted the SRS?


HollyNoel

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HollyNoel

Has anyone ever regretted getting to bottom surgery? My ultimate goal is to be rid of what is I hope the last part of my old male life. So has any of us women ever regretted having it done? I really want it but not if it's going to end up being an unholy nightmare. What can I expect afterwords? Anything really awful about this. I have a really long time before I can even consider this, but I really need to know. Hugs Girls Holly.

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I think there have been other threads that asked this question.  I don't think anyone here has any regrets, other than they wished they could have done  it sooner.  

 

Bottom surgery is not something that solves all or any problems.  It just changes your anatomy.  It should stop any anxiety you may have about your current makeup.  Some women find dilation to be a pain and annoying, others not so.  Electrolysis to remove pubic hair is potentially embarrassing and expensive, but no more painful that facial hair removal. Healing will take some time and it is not reversible for all practical intent.  You will forever sit to pee!  I cannot think of any aspect that I would call awful or even bad.  

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HollyNoel

Hi Jani. lol. Something on my side isn't letting me search for topics, so If I asked a question that was already asked, I'm so sorry. Any who, I wasn't expecting SRS to radically change my life so completely that I would be a completely different person. I just wanted to know if having it done mas made some women regret getting it. I read some women hate dilation, I think I'm going to hate it also but who knows I might even learn to love it. lol. I'm already searching for a reasonable place to get lazer hair removal or electrolysis, yes I know it hurts, but there is a price for beauty. As far as sitting to pee, I started to do that about 6 months ago to get used to having to do it. Now it just seems natural. Though it is kind of disgusting how guys cant seem to lift the seat to pee and when they do lift, they never put it back down. I'm finding the male things I used to do as repulsive now. Is that wrong of me? Hugs Holly

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Some do not like that the WPATH protocols and look at them as gatekeeping.  But the time required to get approval is done to ensure you are ready and fully understand the change.  As I told my therapist, I knew it would only change what's below my belt and that only I would know.  (unlike electrolysis or body changes from HRT).  Its doesn't change how you react to others, or any other "issues" one might have.  Those that regret surgery IMO are those who have not prepared and been honest with themselves.  Obviously living as a woman has its good and bad sides.  After all we live in a male dominated society.  That said, I don't believe anyone here has any regrets!  I certainly don't.

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HollyNoel

I had my first gender therapy session last Tuesday. I told her thatb I've always known that I was a girl fron the youngest age and that I wished I could have switched places with my sister. I told her that when I finally told my mom I felt like a giant crushing weight had been lifted off my chest. At this point in my life I feel I'm ready to have the surgery but I know they want to make sure I'm sure thats what I really want. I feel that that is the best course of action. I may feel I'm ready but I haven't even lived as a woman yet. Though I still feel I'm ready. I wont regret having it. Been a dream of mine since I was 12.

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My only regret is that I married him twice 

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MaryMary

My 2 cents : When I had the surgery a friend (who is trans and had the surgery too) came to visit. We were talking about having the bottom surgery and we shared the same feeling (maybe others here share it to?). The feeling is the following : you wake up and you don't feel you gained anything really and you don't feel you lost anything either. You just feel normal. (that's the best case scenario because we are trans woman and not cis male at all, lol) Like you wake up and everything is finally normal. To me it's a very personnal decision. The main thing for me is that any trans woman must know that if you don't have this surgery you are 1000% valid and fine. It can be underwhelming I guess because you are not gaining anything outside of how you feel because nobody see this except yourself.

 

That being said for me it's the best decision of my life probably. I have a lot of dysphoria and it helped me a lot. I have nothing but good memories of the procedure and the healing. I had a little complication and of course it hurts but I was waiting for that for so long without even knowing it was really it the realm of possibility. For someone like me, with a lot of dysphoria, who will not know a normal sex life without this, it,s an amazing surgery. It's been 4 years now? No regrets, it's still just as normal and underwhelming as it was the very first day after I woke up. The best part about this is that now I can make what I call "trans jokes" about it. For example, I was playing the board game "pandemic" with friends the other day. There's a city in africa that is called "TheBalls" if you read it in french. I said : "personnaly, I would use your power to remove "the balls"." get it? looolllllzzz It's not really funny but it is when you are with cis males that are very attatched to their genitals and sometimes even link their self worth to it...

 

so that's it, my honest 2 cents about this.

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