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Dinaki

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I want to read books , romance, drama , about a woman post op. Are there any books you may recommend to me?  (preferably at Apple books so I can read them from my iPad).

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Hi Dinaki, I enjoyed this book that was written in 2000, the woman does have the operation and lives happily ever after in,

 

Trans-Sister Radio by Chris Bohjalian

 

C

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Omg I loved that book and refer to it periodically...another similarity...omg I never knew anyone else who knew of the book. Yes Dina it is well worth the read.

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Thank you all for the recommendation. 

 

I was thinking that many others were also referring to me about other books, perhaps they are none of them  written.

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there are but Trans Sister Radio is the only one that comes to mind. A couple movies have been ok but nothing that I'd recommend that I've seen that I think you might like. Transamerica and Normal were ok but not very real in regard to the facts.

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Hi Dina, of course moving forward to 2003 is Jenny Boylan's classic (imho) "She's not there", Jenny describes her life in a family setting as a post op woman, teacher, and musician, and how she got through her surgery. I cried reading that book, she writes so well. I had the pleasure of meeting Jenny and hearing her do a live book reading in front of our group one night in Seattle....I am sure are others out there, just takes a little digging.

 

Cyndi

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Jenny is Amazing and I too cried.....

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Sarah McBride's book is autobiographical, not fiction, but there's some romance and drama in it.  "Tomorrow Will Be Different"

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Don't know that one...something to look?forward to reading.

Thank you

Heather Shay

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On 8/27/2020 at 2:09 PM, Cyndee said:

Hi Dina, of course moving forward to 2003 is Jenny Boylan's classic (imho) "She's not there", Jenny describes her life in a family setting as a post op woman, teacher, and musician, and how she got through her surgery. I cried reading that book, she writes so well. 

I'm finally reading this and it's quite good so far. 

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@RhondaS. I think you will like it it is a classic. Another book I found quite good is "My brother, My sister" I forgot the authors name but we'll written also "My Husband Betty"

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@Dinaki @Cyndee @RhondaS 

 

I was reading a post about 2 of our membrs who are ex-military and the common thread with trans who join the military tends to be trying to over compensate thinking being mucho will help. And it reminded me of another very good book I read by an ex-Navy Seal - Kristen Beck. The booked is called Warrior Princess and is very good. I highly recommend it and watching some of the videos where she still shows ladies how to protect themselves and for SEAL training.

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