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Kia ora all,

:rolleyes: Just thought those of you who are still questioning your gender identity [or just interested] might like to read this study carried out in south Auckland Aotearoa[NZ] back in 2001 on the fa'fafine community-fa'fafine is a Samoan word[Auckland's got a very large Samoan population] roughly translated means 'the way of a woman'-In the west we would use the term 'transgender'. YOU might find it interesting...Just google 'BAD ASSED HONEY WITH A DIFFERENCE'[Yes...that really is the title]...I hate to asked this favour again but if Z [or any other computor wiz]who happens to be floating around in laura's cyber space-perhaps she [you] could be a sweety and cut and paste the address. Thanks...

Metta Jendar :)

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Kia Ora Seren and Z,

Many thanks for that... :rolleyes: Seren I can cut and paste simple text but find it 'difficult' when I try to cut and paste a website address. Perhaps I'm dyslexic when it comes to doing certain computor/internet things ;) ...my kids seem to think I am :lol:

Metta Jendar :)

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