The Difference

[Guest angie]

I decided to share an experience from last evening.

I was out riding and on the way back,during the cool down phase...

This pair of fools in a Malibu,with sunroof,drove by,with one hanging

out the passenger door checking me out.Excuse my grammer ladies,

but he hollered out,"It's only a sweetheart on a bicycle!" grrrrrrrrrrr

It phased me not at all.Was riding upright,hands free.I hollered back,

"WRONG!" waving my two index fingers in the negative.He kept up the

BS,popping out the sunroof,with the driver hitting his breaks constantly.

While I, kept on waving my fingers in the negative,smile on my face,until

I reached my turnoff and peeled off.By not freaking out and becoming all

upset,letting those stupid men get the upper hand,I know I made them think.

This encounter didn't get me down,or eat at me like it once would have,or

causing damage to my psyche...I have grown beyond that.Been made,stared

at,outed,hit on and propositioned too many times for one incident to hurt me

anylonger.Showed me just how far I have come living life female.There are

many many stupid people(not just men) and we only get tough by negativity.

And I am one tough woman.

Hugs Ladies,

Angelique Michelle

[Guest angie]

Sweetheart?????????? LOL not exactly what I wrote,his comment was

far more degrogatory than that,but that is Laura's and the word police

doing their,it's job.As long as the story went through and the point made,

that is all that matters.

Ang

[Guest mynw]

Sweetheart?????????? LOL not exactly what I wrote,his comment was

far more degrogatory than that,but that is Laura's and the word police

doing their,it's job.As long as the story went through and the point made,

that is all that matters.

Ang

aaahh

Ang.

new pains experience you have that time,,

sorry for you,,

that really daily happening ,,when we going outside

if not reach to more than monkeys jumping around you,from people what they not understanding

beautiful of life,,

you can only ignore that as nothing,

only before 2 days at one mall ,4 singing loudly by bad words when I am walking

to purchase camera that will help me to contact here.

best wishes for you honey.

[Guest AllisonD]

we only get tough by negativity.

And I am one tough woman.

Hugs Ladies,

Angelique Michelle

Doesn't have to be.

One can also become tough and invulnerable to such insults with sweetness and light.

I prefer to be a lady, responding (or actually not responding) with both dignity and decorum.

Girls were actually harder on me than boys when I was young. And we (girls) are MUCH more skilled with acid tongues.

But then, we are better at defense then boys are too.

Back when I needed it, my shields were bulletproof. Thankfully, that is no longer necessary. But I still remember those younger years.

Allison

[Sally]

I ignore what anyone shouts at me from a car, I always have even when presenting male.

The fact is, I don't care what they have to say - I don't base my life changing decissions on what some jerks yell out of a moving car.

Love ya,

sally

[Guest julia_d]

I put an idiot in hospital on Thursday.. said the wrong thing across a crowded shop then pushed it.. so I hit him.. very hard and just one. I have 4 teeth as a momento.. he left them on the floor after his moronic friends picked him up..

I hope he likes hospital food up his nose for a month or so.. because that's what he's enjoying now.... I think I will go visit the idiot.. yeah.. Paula used to be a rock club bouncer and premarin or not sometimes a line gets crossed... Police charged him with a section4 public order and didn't say anything to me about punching his lights out.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Good for you, Angie.....Nicely done....

I may be a little more hardened to it than many, myself...

I grew up a (Very) long haired rock-n-roll musician and took a lot of guff over the years...

Sometimes at redneck bars before the gig I heard taunts...

After I played the dickens out of some Zeppelin on my Strat ....I'd go on break and they'd buy me drinks...it's all perception...

You'll also find that 99% of the time it's 2 or more people that do it...they have to have an audience!

Rarely will one lone person say anything to you!

As Allison says...it's best to let it play out nicely...don't be confrontational....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest AllisonD]

Angie makes rude gestures to passersby that insult her and DJ says, "Good for you."

Julia puts a man in the hospital for something he said, and no one comments.

Sally says she ignores the ill-behaved that she encounters, which, I think, is MYNW's sentiments (I am not quite sure there). DJ seems to agree, but still likes that Angie returned rudeness in kind.

Ladies, Sally is on the right track here. We do not demonstrate our best behavior with rude gestures and violence. When it is really important that a point be made, there are other ways, such as the police that arrested the miscreant in Julia's story. When it is not important, remember just that: is it not important.

Allison

[Guest julia_d]

Exactly.. I was subjected to nasty sexually abusive comments and then threatened with physical violence in a public place. There is a time to turn the other cheek.. but this gang of yobs have made my life a misery for over 5 years. I got to deal with the main perp.. and I dealt with him properly in the only way this scum understands.. a good punch in his offensive mouth. I don't do violence.. but I have to admit it felt great to finally shut his foul mouth. Payback will probably come when he gets out of the hospital.. I'm almost looking forward to beating some sense into him again... For 7 years I have been the target for the hate of this conformist uneducated scum.. only in Wigan too.. Salford, Liverpool, London, Bolton, York.. anywhere no problem.. Wigan.. abuse.. why??

Today his "friends" didn't say boo to me.. just shows what this feral garbage we have made understands... and he's a laughing stock.. hospitalised by a girl and banned from the town center.. LMAO!!

Life on the frontline in probably one of the most backward parts of the UK ..Ashton in Makerfield - Wigan.. (Haydock racecourse) avoid

[Guest AshleyRF]

I left the fighting to the men... and I have plenty of them that are more than willing to do it if someone were to ever be rude to me. Thankfully, I've never had to call one of them. I pray that it stays like that. If someone were to be rude to me, I'd probably just get upset and cry about it now. I LOVE ESTROGEN.

[Guest Evan_J]

I believe in being peaceful. I believe that most buttholes are best dealt with ignoring. I believe that to walk away is a sign of intelligence. HOWEVER. I also believe that if threatened or put in a situation where all avenues fail then go to kill. There is a time for ALL things. Peace. And knocking the absolute hell out of someone.

[Guest Donna Jean]

Angie makes rude gestures to passersby that insult her and DJ says, "Good for you."

Julia puts a man in the hospital for something he said, and no one comments.

Sally says she ignores the ill-behaved that she encounters, which, I think, is MYNW's sentiments (I am not quite sure there). DJ seems to agree, but still likes that Angie returned rudeness in kind.

Ladies, Sally is on the right track here. We do not demonstrate our best behavior with rude gestures and violence. When it is really important that a point be made, there are other ways, such as the police that arrested the miscreant in Julia's story. When it is not important, remember just that: is it not important.

Allison

Allison......

Please excuse me...

But I didn't understand it as "Rude gestures.....

waving my two index fingers in the negative

While I, kept on waving my fingers in the negative,smile on my face

The index finger, (also referred to as, pointer finger, forefinger, trigger finger, digitus secundus, or digitus II)

Where do you get rude gesture out of that???

I did NOT perceive Angie to have been rude at all....

I DO NOT condone returning rudeness with rudeness!

I smile and always avoid confrontation!

I did not read Angie's post to indicate any rudeness at all.

Donna Jean

[Guest angie]

Thank You Donna Jean,

For being rude was not my intention,nor was I being confrontational.

When that awfully stupid man called me a gay man in such a

derogatory fashion...Not being gay,or a man,I was setting him

straight on that fact.I always had a smile while I was shaking my

head and hands,saying over and over," no no no wrong again boy."

The whole point of this post was to demonstrate how far past negativity,

in any form,no longer can set me back.I am my own woman,strong willed,

self assured,and when the circumstance is right,willing to say what is on my mind.

My old roomie was/is majorily confrontational.Takes crud from no man or woman.

Then again,she has only been living as a woman for the last twenty six years,

lived on the streets,worked as a sex worker,has seen it all.Being able to

standup for yourself and back people down,can save your life.Being able to bounce

back,or blow off,a potentially damaging circumstance,only shows personal growth

and confidence.

Hugs,

Angelique

[Guest AllisonD]

Apologies to DJ, I seem to have completely misunderstood.

I hate that, when I'm being stupid. I feel like that woman reporter on Saturday Night Live in the 70's.

Allison

[Guest Jean Davis]

I believe in being peaceful. I believe that most buttholes are best dealt with ignoring. I believe that to walk away is a sign of intelligence. HOWEVER. I also believe that if threatened or put in a situation where all avenues fail then go to kill. There is a time for ALL things. Peace. And knocking the absolute hell out of someone.

Very well said Evan

I also don't like to give idiots of the world the satifaction of being recognized for their stupidity.

And if it does come down to defending yourself do try to put them down like forever. There has been way to many incidents where people have put down their assailants only to be killed while trying to leave.

Be Safe

Jean Davis

[Paula ult]

I guess i am hardened from years of ignoring people that would stare, point and say things because of all my visible piercings and i learned to just ignore them unless they came up and asked an intelligent question or two, now that i am a ways into transition my hair pretty much covers all but my 1" stretched lobe and it seems nobody does any of those things anymore but if they did i would just ignore them, get in my face and threaten me and the gloves come off.

Paula