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Guest MissAmy

I was playing Halo 3 earlier and my armor was pink. My gamertag doesn't reveal my girly habits, and I didn't have headset, but these Latino guys kept calling me a gay slur that starts with F and rhymes with bag. I didn't take it personally (one of them wasn't sure if I was a male or female), but I was wondering if anyone has experience rude people online calling you names for something personal instead of some random kid calling everyone a bad name because he can regardless of who or what they were.

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I've come to expect that on Xbox LIVE and especially on Halo 3.

Heck, even back in the Halo 3 Beta somebody called me what they called you because my armor was an off pink.

Playing as a male, regardless of your GT or armor color, you're going to get called stuff like that. In fact, the only thing I can even think of that would prevent them from doing that is having a girlie GT, so you shouldn't dwell on it too much. Seriously, homophobic remarks and slurs should almost be expected when you go online these days.

However, if they make it personal, then just do your best to beat 'em. That's what I always do, and, usually, I walk away as the winner.

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I've come to expect that on Xbox LIVE and especially on Halo 3.

Heck, even back in the Halo 3 Beta somebody called me what they called you because my armor was an off pink.

Playing as a male, regardless of your GT or armor color, you're going to get called stuff like that. In fact, the only thing I can even think of that would prevent them from doing that is having a girlie GT, so you shouldn't dwell on it too much. Seriously, homophobic remarks and slurs should almost be expected when you go online these days.

However, if they make it personal, then just do your best to beat 'em. That's what I always do, and, usually, I walk away as the winner.

That's why I'm pink, because nothing's worse than being beat by the guy in the light red armor.

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Guest jessica-

tbh this has never happened to me... ive actually come out to most of my friends on xbox live.. and 90% of my guild on rappelz and they(for lack of a better word) dont care... they are ok with it

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It's how these kids are these days. Every other word either starts with Q and ends sounding like steer, of the F bag. Heck, I turn off the sound and only play with people I know. Cause have the time I don't talk anyway, unless I know the person.

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Guest childofwinter

Like others have said, the Internet is a huge magnets for homophobes and homophobic language is common. It's due to the anonymity that the Internet can give you. There's also this disgusting little saying, "no homo", which some people use when they say/do something that could be seen as homosexual.

As for pink, it used to be a boys colour and was up until fairly recently. Blue was seen as the calm, docile colour of femininity. Ideally, society should not attach masculine or feminine qualities to something like colour that should never have such qualities associated with them in the first place.

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Guest AshleeB

Oh man i hate this >_< i dont use headsets coz i dont like talking to people when im in the zone (HA!) but recently i was playing Modern Warfare 2 online and i was seriously kickin' butt. i got the 25 killstreak reward (the nuke) and bombed everyone. in the lobby afterwards, some guy yelled into his headset:

"MUTHER F'ER! IM GONNA F'ING KILL YOU ASHYPANTS! YOUR F-bomb A-word is DEAD!"

and throughout the night, i was a "derogatory word used to insult gays" and a... well im not sure of a nice way to say it so i wont.

Moral of the story? Dont be a god at games that attract the emotionally unstable XD

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someone once showed me a link where this guy was talking thought a multiplayer game on Hole 3 once, just talking about nothing I think, but he rambled on for like 10 minutes about nothing. I had to keep skipping ahead, but it was just funny that all he did was talk.

Thats why I like Halo, but to do the multiplayer Campaign, or Left 4 dead, at least then you need to talk to keep alive.

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Guest Superrad

On Halo 3, my armor is purple. It's a very pleasant light purple because purple is my favorite color, and it's a nice contrast against the grays. People insult you regularly and I just laugh and say, "So what?"

"You're gay."

"Yes, and?"

"Gay."

"I heard you the first time."

Children and overgrown children do that, and it's sad but I guess you've got to have tougher skin to go online. I doubt they'd say similar things to your face. I suppose people are pumped, impatient, and quite willing to let loose in a way that can't be judged... Unless you're talking about rep.

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Guest Jesskit

Its funny, when people are like, are you a girl (my online names are mostly girlish) and im like yeah then other times i have a girls name a guys character and get told Sweetie and im like no im not, they they start trying to find some way of teasing and its just funny

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my gf and I play online together every night. Usually we're in a private chat and don't hear whatever people are saying. However, when we do go to game chat there is always someone being a jerk.

Neither of us are safe from it. And its most common in Halo 3. When its her its some jerk saying she has to be a guy, and when I stand up for her I must be gay. When its me its because of my GT (which I won't post if anyone wants to know send a PM) apparently my GT is feminine so again I'm called gay.

People online are jerks. There is no getting around that. You just have to get a group of friends to play with to avoid it as best you can.

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Guest Sunshine

A couple of reasons that it doesn't bother me:

1) Nobody ever believes that there are women playing. (Stevie Case has apparently been forgotten)

2) Name calling is a standard tactic in any FPS. People taunt to get you worked up and stupid so that you are easier to kill.

3) Name calling from guildies is like an initiation thing. If they start being PC, um... wait I've never experienced that so not sure what happens.

4) PWNAGE makes up for most anything. I have been known to be very lovey-dovey with people before and during kill-shots.

5) the ULTIMATE revenge. Iff it is really bothering you, get more friends on the voice thing and start talking about either dates or surgical procedures in intimate detail. Against guys, describing the details of penile inversion is priceless.

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Guest ametur_poet

I was playing Halo 3 earlier and my armor was pink. My gamertag doesn't reveal my girly habits, and I didn't have headset, but these Latino guys kept calling me a gay slur that starts with F and rhymes with bag. I didn't take it personally (one of them wasn't sure if I was a male or female), but I was wondering if anyone has experience rude people online calling you names for something personal instead of some random kid calling everyone a bad name because he can regardless of who or what they were.

Welcome to the Internet. :lol:

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Guest 91curiouskitten

I'm beginnign to think I'm not as nice as I thought I was o.o" I always play girl chars if the game allows, and when they find out, hey I have a thingy ma bobber, the insults come, and, I cant repate what I say, but they stop insulting me >.> mess with the best, die like the rest! Muahahaha!

Mature thing, ignore it, AND report it, I'm pretty sure you can reoprt someones Gamer ID/Tag, they can ban the IP adress for violating the Terms and Conditions, or, Rules, or whatever it is!!! IDK! >.<

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Guest LuRay

I love the way people turn into keyboard warriors of the the internet, it's funny how big people act behind a screen

Anyway, crack off a head shot and give them a cheeky wink. If it was FEAR 2 online, I'd nail them to the wall. Then lul.

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I played the camppaign on Reach as a guest... beyond that I refuse to play a Halo game because everyone who is an obvious fan with spartan and elite in the gamer tags are generally unsavory people I don't care to know who like that on every game they play. Once I was playing PvP on James Camerons Avatar with a prepubescent kid who played Halo and he had a mouth on him that would make a sailor blush and all he wanted to know how to do was t-bag. Didn't care to learn anything beyond that.

That said, people always run their mouths on online games, especially if you're better than they are. Just ignore it and don't take it personally. The only thing people like that find unfair in video games is that they don't always win and so they have to run their mouths to try and insult you to make up for their lack of skill. Avoid them and move along. No sweat off your back.

As far as personal attacks about being TS, no. But I don't advertise that I am in any obvious form but I wouldn't deny it if someone asked. I don't think it is something to be ashamed of and if others have a problem with it well, that's their problem and you don't need to worry about it. Blist them, avoid them and forget them.

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Guest SuperKali

Awhile ago my mic broke and I just haven't bothered to get a new one. I get treated pretty much the same either way on XBL. No mic = booted as soon as possible. Mic = I talk, get called names, then booted as soon as possible.

At least with most of the games I play there isn't a boot function, but people still get frustrated and start yelling when the "chick doesn't respond"

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Guest Aries

LoL it was fun reading these posts. You all seem to take care of yourselves just fine online (GITTEM!). We internet gamers can be a rude bunch, but there's always cool people out there who like to have fun too, and it's always nice meeting new friends to game with!

:)

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Guest quiet amber

Thats the net for ya. Ventrilo is great for it too :) hell I go to a certain forum where the word you were called is a generic name for newbies

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