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Forced To Wear A Dress


Guest Keiichi-kun

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Guest Ryles_D
So in the end we're all satisfied and I can get away wearing slacks and a nice shirt (and I'd rather wear a girls pants outfit than a dress) also the sisters and I went dressing shopping today and I actually had fun. I just got to sit there and look at these pretty girls try on some cute dresses :P (straw inhaler thoughts they'll be my "sisters" soon :lol: ) Anyways thanks for all the support guys hugs to you all.

Why you should always believe someone that tells you they're FTM: Do you really want to find out you let a guy anywhere near the dressing room? :lol: I think if I were FTM, straight, and annoyed that some female friends of mine wouldn't believe me, I'd suggest lingerie shopping... Heck, even if I wasn't annoyed. You're going to get dragged there by some non-believer anyways, might as well enjoy it. (No, I wouldn't do that. But in this strange world where I'm a straight, sexual boy, well, I might just be an extroverted perv, too.)

Have fun at the wedding! :D I hate them, myself, but maybe their's'll be better. ^^ Congrats to you and them!

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  • 1 year later...
So I told my brother why I didn't want the dress and that I feel like a boy. I still have to wear it though :( Annd we're also gonna have to get pictures taken and I don't want to look at any pictures of me in a dress. They think I'm so unsupportive and I hate it. I wish they could feel how I feel just for one day, then they wouldn't be so mean about this.

Ni-paa~

Well maybe your brother should put on the dress and have his picture taken with it on and then he would know how you feel. They say you must walk a mile in someones shoes to get to know them.

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That is such good news, now you might be able to enjoy the wedding.

It is so hard for people to understand if they don't feel like this.

I don't know what it feels like to have body and mind match so I can't tell you how they feel.

We can only try to explain and rejoice in our 'little victories'.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest MrAwesome
Well Michelle the thing is that I really want to go. I love my brother to death but I would love to just wear a nice pants suit and be an usher or something. I want to go just not in a dress.

Ni-paa~

Here's what you do, you show up, with them expecting to see you in the dress, and wear a suit instead. :) Dress up like a really nice man, cut your hair really nice. Bind your chest, pack, EVERYTHING. and just tell them when they confront you how bad the dress makes you feel and how much more comfortable you are like this. If you go wearing a dress, you'll regret it. You won't be able to feel comfortable and happy at their wedding. And there will be pictures, that you'll have as a reminder. It's better just not to go than to wear a dress. You are a man, and you shouldn't be forced to do something like that.
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Guest AshleyLauren

ow how i wish someone would ask me to be a bridesmaid ....i can only dream

So I was just going through old post of mine and I found this. Guys. I was a bridesmaid at my sisters wedding in June this year <3 Never Give Up!

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Oh wow!! Dreams really do come true!!!

Congrats Ashley. That is so awesome. Maybe if I post on here that I wish someone would make me a beautiful bride in a sexy white lacy dress, it will come true too. :D

God bless

Ashley

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Guest musicismylife

Unfortunately I know all too well the agony of dresses. I have always hated wearing them or even skirts but have done it many times. In high school orchestra they kinda didn't give an option (especially in the 90s). To this day everyone who knows me has come to expect my idea of dressed up as dress pants and a nice shirt. Only time I make myself wear one is for special occasions (Christmas Eve, weddings etc).

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