Maybe Meeting A Man

[Guest amie]

Well let us see shall we,he knows I am a trans woman...check

He knows I am pre op...check. I don't care that he knows I am.

All I know is that he is friendly and willing to date me as I am.

Once I get to know him,that is all that will matter to me,he accepts

and treats me like the woman I am.And if it gets to the sex part,

well then good for the both of us.I am a big girl,and know what I

am going into.Annnnd,a man giving me quality attention,is very very

welcome,and is far better than being alone.

Angie

My heart's in the right place here, Darlin! Believe it.

[Guest ricka]

Angie--I am right with you. I also think there is something to be said for a women's intuition about a man. What I am reading in some of these posts seems to make guys who are attracted to transwomen as wierd and/or dangerous and I think that is as unfair as labeling us. Jeff is a professional man, divorced and raising his two young children. LOL, when he was leaving he _asked_ if he could see me again which felt really nice. And like you receiving attention from a handsome man and feeling attractive to him as a woman feels simply wonderful. That said, maybe we both have reasons to feel self-confident about being able to take care of ourselves.

ricka

[Guest krisspykriss]

I would be very cautious about this. Many of these guys prefer to chase girls like us cause they know many (not all, by any means) t-girls are easy sex.

From what I've seen, they'll often keep a genetic girl as a somewhat exclusive, while holding on to the t-girl for sexual gratification and fetish fulfillment.

Guys like this often look upon the t-girl as a convenient sex-ready backup that can serve in lieu of the GG in times when she's not down with it.

They call 'em Trannychasers.

My last boyfriend was almost exclusive to me, though he would occasionally see this one GG. It created a lot of resentment. I don't like sharing my man with another woman (or anyone for that matter). He doesn't like sharing his woman. I never did understand why he wouldn't become exclusive to me. We went everywhere together. All his friends know and like me. He hardly ever saw her anyway. I don't understand it. I wouldn't call him a crossdresser chaser though. I would call him an eternal bachelor. I think after being single for 45 out of 52 years, he really doesnt have it in him to settle down with one woman, GG or TG.

I do know the type of man you refer to though. I wont date them. I generally wont even speak to them once I figure out what they are. However, not all men who like tgirls are "crossdresser chasers". There are lots of good reasons to date a tgirl and I honestly think that tgirls who want to label every guy who is interested in them as crossdresser chasers needs to search inside themselves and find out why. Maybe it is a few bad experiences. Maybe it is low selfesteam. Maybe it is they are overly scared by hearing horror stories about crossdresser chasers. Whatever the case, if every man who is interested in you gets a crossdresser chaser label, you have an issue to face.

I personally feel like the crossdresser chasers are given more attention than need be. If you dont do the following things and make that fairy clear, then the crossdresser chasers get filtered out anyway. So don't: do sex only relationships, date people who give you the creeps, date people who are married or in committed relationships, or have sex with someone within hours of meeting them in person. Almost every crossdresser chaser I have met, failed most or all those filters. They are usually married, looking for sex NOW, wont take me out on a date, and give me the creeps.

Anyway, that is my take on crossdresser chasers.

Hugz,

Chrissy

[Guest amie]

My post was motivated by concern, I'd like all to know.

I want everyone here to know (or at least be reminded) that those guys are out there.

I consider them sexual predators to a degree, I rilly do.

I'd never try to intentionally discourage you, Angie. Never. You're a sweetheart and you've always had a kind word for me.

I'm just not one to pull punches when it comes to tellin' it like it is. It comes naturally. Sorry if that's sometimes abrasive. I mean well though, I swear.

Lotz n' lotsa hugz!

[Guest mia 1]

It is tough meeting a guy who asks you out.out of the clear blue..next time you see him tell him yes meet me at Pub***** at 7:00 and I'll be thee. Have friends scattered around the bar..have a couple of drinks..if he seems O.K. get his phone# and tell him "I'll call you."

See if he wants to double date next time or just go to another public and open place. Find out from one of your police buddies if this guy has a record..if things seem cool..go and have fun on your third date,,and open up to his admiration..but as far as anything intimate.use extreme caution and protection.

Mia

[Guest amie]

My last boyfriend was almost exclusive to me, though he would occasionally see this one GG. It created a lot of resentment. I don't like sharing my man with another woman (or anyone for that matter). He doesn't like sharing his woman. I never did understand why he wouldn't become exclusive to me. We went everywhere together. All his friends know and like me. He hardly ever saw her anyway. I don't understand it. I wouldn't call him a crossdresser chaser though. I would call him an eternal bachelor. I think after being single for 45 out of 52 years, he really doesnt have it in him to settle down with one woman, GG or TG.

I do know the type of man you refer to though. I wont date them. I generally wont even speak to them once I figure out what they are. However, not all men who like tgirls are "crossdresser chasers". There are lots of good reasons to date a tgirl and I honestly think that tgirls who want to label every guy who is interested in them as crossdresser chasers needs to search inside themselves and find out why. Maybe it is a few bad experiences. Maybe it is low selfesteam. Maybe it is they are overly scared by hearing horror stories about crossdresser chasers. Whatever the case, if every man who is interested in you gets a crossdresser chaser label, you have an issue to face.

I personally feel like the crossdresser chasers are given more attention than need be. If you dont do the following things and make that fairy clear, then the crossdresser chasers get filtered out anyway. So don't: do sex only relationships, date people who give you the creeps, date people who are married or in committed relationships, or have sex with someone within hours of meeting them in person. Almost every crossdresser chaser I have met, failed most or all those filters. They are usually married, looking for sex NOW, wont take me out on a date, and give me the creeps.

Anyway, that is my take on crossdresser chasers.

Hugz,

Chrissy

You're right to a great extent.

I just hate the thought of a decent girl bein' used, that's all.

I know a t-girl that's very dear to me that dated one of these guys (or so that was what I gathered from it all) and that was my primary concern.

I hated the thought of her bein' used.

It angered me a great deal sometimes.

Trust me, I love guys and I'd love to find one that was down with me feelin' and actin' like a chic.

Everytime I meet a sweet guy I find myself afraid to mention it for fear I'll scare 'eem off.

[Guest krisspykriss]

Umm there was some editing and my words were not "crossdresser chasers". This doesn't represent entire group I intended to represent. So to make it a little more politically correct, it should have been edited as "t-girl chasers" or "CD/TG chasers" or transvestite/transsexual chasers". To say crossdressers leaves out a significant group. I am not a crossdresser, I am an anatomically challenged woman that is commonly refered to as a MTF transsexual. I was speaking of my experiences and therefore this editing is significant to me. Can a mod please reedit my post to properly cover myself?

Hugz,

Chrissy

[Guest Donna Jean]

Dang, it's me again......

I'm sorry, Chrissy....

The Admins have included that word into the word filter that changes objectable words to something less...

I know that sometimes it tends to change the meaning of a post....

Many in the community take offense to the term Trannyy (mis-spelled on purpose) so the filter changes it...

So in this case it changes it to the less offensive "Cross Dresser".......

And I realize that it doesn't cover all that you intended to say....

Please bear with us...we try to make the site readable for ages 12-100...........

It's very hard to not offend someone...

Thanks for your understanding, Sweetheart....

HUGGS!

Donna Jean

[Guest ricka]

Some random thoughts--and i don't mean to offend anyone who has posted on this thread. Angie, I can really relate to you as a woman who wants to date men and someday be in a relationship with a man. Sometimes I wonder if we are in the minority as far as women who post here---my perception,which could be totally off. I relate my own current experience hoping it would be a support to where you seem to be coming from. I met Jeff on Sunday and we just talked for several hours. Seemed to be some great chemistry there between us. He let me know he finds me attractive but getting to know each other is clearly his priority. We have been emailing back and forth and talked on the phone again for a long time tonight. Tomorrow we are going hiking together. It's very clear that "rush" of connecting goes both ways. Interesting that hiking tomorrow I will not be "en femme"----don't have the clothes for it. (yeah, like I am going hiking in a skirt and heels!) Makes me a little nervous and I told him so and he was really sweet about it. Frankly when I am dressed as a woman I feel a lot more self-confident. Isn't that ironic when you think about it! Well we are all waiting on the edge of our seats to find out if you do see Mark again and go out with him! I sure know what you are feeling when you talk about getting male attention. Ain't it Grand!!

Hugs--Ricka

[Guest angie]

Tomorrow we are going hiking together. It's very clear that "rush" of connecting goes both ways. Interesting that hiking tomorrow I will not be "en femme"----don't have the clothes for it. (yeah, like I am going hiking in a skirt and heels!) Makes me a little nervous and I told him so and he was really sweet about it.

Hugs--Ricka

Hey girlfriend,

Women wear hiking clothing all the time.I myself am an athletic type of girl.

So as long as you are always Ricka the woman,it really doesn't make a difference

what outfit you are wearing.Now it is my turn to say,You have fun my sister.

Hugs Back Attcha,

Angie

[Guest ricka]

Thanks Angie! We actually had a great time hiking on Wednesday. It was raining lightly. We hiked around Smith Rock---people come from all over the world to rock climb. The views are stunning (especially in the summer watching guys rock climb with their shirts off Jeff and I seem to talk non-stop. I do enjoy his company. I feel very open and safe with him and seems like I can talk to him about anything---feels like a nice friendship developing. He is very accepting and validating of me as a woman----and amazingly insightful. I joked about my attire and his only comment was that I needed a new hat and he offered to go shopping with me to pick one out that was "me." It came up in our conversation that I didn't have any pics of myself en femme and he offered to bring his camera next time and do a photo shoot. So maybe will have a pic or two to share with you all. His parting comment to me was, "You know you really are a voluptuous, sensual woman. I would love to photograph you."

Hugs--Ricka