Finally Telling The Truth.

[Guest CJwar]

Hey I just wanted to tell you guys that this past Sunday I came out to my older sister. I was really nervous, but she is really a great listener, and I can usually come to her about everything else, so I figured why not this.

It happened while she was driving, we were going to the grocery store, and I basically just came out with it. And once I started talking, the more I spoke the more confident I became. She listened, and said that she knew, and she understood. She said she wanted me to be happy ultimately, and that she supported whatever decision I decided to make about transitioning. Me and my sister have had plenty of serious conversation, but I believe this is the first most open and honest concentration, we had ever had...and it felt so good. It felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. We talked about tell tale signs of when I was younger, and she told me she was comfortable with it. I explained to her my name, she said she already knew about that because of a letter she had found to a girlfriend I had written a couple valentines' day ago.

She did say that we should wait to tell my mother, because apparently my mother flipped out over the "suggestion" that I might be gay. But because back then I was still in hiding, I said I wasn't, my mom let it go and moved on with her life. My family has had a tough year, I lost my grandmother earlier this year, and then my father this past summer. So my sister says she just wants to be there when she reads the letter, to help her through it. She also wants me to graduate first, I have a lot of stress without worrying about how my mom feels about me, and I do want her to be at my graduation. But after that, we'll tell my mom.

Just thinking about this past Sunday makes me smile, because it was just so great to finally connect to someone I really care about.

[Guest again]

Great news CJ! The new beginning---all will work out fine---your mother will be shocked and bewildered (as I was with my son) but she loves you and will support you---your sister is a great ally and you are lucky to have her as I'm sure you know---she has given you some great advice! All the best.

[Carolyn Marie]

CJ I'm proud of you and happy for you. You did good not only in telling your sister but the way in which you did it.

You are lucky to have such a supportive sibling, and you need to tell her often how much you appreciate her support. But I'm sure

you already knew that, didn't you?

I agree that its best to wait to tell your mom. She needs time to get over her grief and stress for losing your father and grandmother. She doesn't

need your transition on her mind right now too.

You are a thoughtful guy, and a wise one. You should be proud of yourself.

Carolyn Marie

[Guest rachael1]

Well done CJ.

It is such a relief to be able to come out to a loved one and be accepted.

You are doing the right thing not telling your mother just yet; there is plenty of time.

Make sure when you tell her she isn't driving at the time, you are lucky your sister didn't crash.

Rachael

[Guest CJwar]

lol. Yes it feels like a major weight has been lifted, and I can finally sleep better at night knowing someone in my immediate family knows.

And as far as the crashing deal, me and my sister are 10 years apart, so I've been riding with her since she first got her liscense. So know she's really good with that, and wasn't surprised at all. Thanks for listening guys.