The # 1 Thing To Help Me Pass

[MaryEllen]

From Kiera

Oh dear, If I have given the impression that appearance is everything in passing and actions count nothing, I am deeply sorry. As another woman once told me, please have a seat, I’ll serve the tea and lets’ you and I have a chat.

Passing is so much more than just appearances; there must be an overall congruency to the image you are presenting. To start, let me share a favorite quote: “All women are female impersonators”.

It seems that the best way to learn the role you are trying to portray is to watch other women. In general, that is where all women learned to be a woman… They pay attention to other women’s actions, makeup, hair, shoes, style, movements, interactions with others and on and on… Keeping that in mind girlfriend, go ahead, pay attention to the other women; it is fine, and if they look back, smile a friendly smile, it seems to be a common ritual of femininity.

“And don’t underestimate the importance of Body Language.” – Ursala from Disney’s The Little Mermaid

I find myself often mimicking Ariel from the movie The Little Mermaid, who becomes a mute to follow her dreams. The one thing that seems to give me away these days is my voice. I fear I have a tendency lately to smile at people and nod my head yes or no, or almost whisper the words thank you at checkout stands etc.

I am finally reaching that level of discomfort that is moving me to action in actually practicing and working on my voice. Who knows maybe in a few months I will be able to check this off the list of urgent things to take care of.

For me, passing seems to be a lesson of trial and error, but it is fine to make mistakes; believe you me, I make a TON of those, yet the cumulative effect of all that effort seems worth the struggles. Acceptance; like when someone close to you asks if you have a spare tampon… *smiles* .

May your road be full of happiness,

Huggles and loves,

Kiera

[Guest o0tg0o]

hehe, thank you for the advices. I would have to agree with gestures and such...I'm really worried about my voice too once I try the RLT too. Hope you get through the voice training!

[Guest Anna]

Thanks for the advice, I will remember that. You are completely right and I agree with you, If you don't work on anything but appearance it would be a dead give away. I'm gonna start watching what females do now more closely so I will be able to pass better when I start working on it and maybe tell my family someday.

[Guest Joanna Phipps]

CONFIDENCE that is one of the keys, especially if you need to use the ladies room. If you act nervous or in any way like you dont belong you will be spotted and hauled out to the manager's office.. or have to deal with security... either is a problem when all you really wanted to do was pee.

My voice is, shall we say, a work in progress.

[Guest andreahilton]

Wow, that's really good advices! I agree with you about the gestures and voice. Appearance can be 100% passing if you stand there like a stone, when you move or speak, if you act like a guy or have deep voice, you'll be noticed as a guy! So Appearance is like improved if you move/speak like a proper female but it can be destroyed when moving/speaking like a man!

[Guest AshleyRF]

Honestly, I think most people are to wrapped up in their own world and life to worry to much about anyone else. The average person usually doesn't think about someone not being what they present. They usually take a quick glance and if it looks remotely one way or the other, they just go with that. Now in true interaction with others, there in lies the problem and the simple things can give you away quicker than your appearance here. Just keep one thing in mind when conversing with others.... They really don't want to believe you are anything but what you present. Don't give them reason to doubt it.