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Carolyn Marie

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I've known the deputy director of my department's Human Resources Division for a long time, and figured

she would be understanding when I decided to come out to her. Although I thought it might be a little premature,

telling her now would give her time to do whatever research and planning she thought necessary.

What I didn't expect was that she had read a book on TG issues and was totally supportive. She seemed

genuinely excited for me and asked good questions. I told her about my planned approach, very much

in line with Paula Ult's gradual "baby steps" method. She agree with that and assured me that any help

or advice I needed along the way would be gladly provided.

It doesn't hurt that my local government has a very well defined policy against discrimination that specifically

includes transgendered people, and prohibits any and all types of harassment or retaliation. So whatever

my co-workers might be thinking, they won't be allowed to act in a negative way towards me without

consequences. I won't be telling the staff for more than 6 months, and probably closer to year from now,

so its not an immediate concern.

The HR Deputy and I will get together for a chat about my progress every 2-3 months and I'm looking

forward to those. When we parted company she gave me a big sisterly hug, and it felt great!

Carolyn Marie

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WOW!

Carolyn - you are leading a charmed life!

Does it have anything to do with you being the same size as a leprechaun?

Congratulations, Sweetie!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest NatalieRene

Thats great news.

I hope things go that well for me when I talk to HR in a few months.

Have you got a date in mind for when you are going to start your real life experience?

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Have you got a date in mind for when you are going to start your real life experience?

No, nothing specific. I figure at least 12 months, to give the HRT a good head start to work its magic.

Exciting to think about, though. :) I'm bound to make a splash at City Hall!

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Donna Jean

OK Carolyn! THAT'S IT!

Time to "fess up"....

Gimme a break! All of this wonderful stuff happening to you day after day???

I don't think so!

Hon, I was born at night...BUT, NOT LAST NIGHT!!!

Why, I'll bet that you're writing this stuff from your mom's basement ...getting us all worked up about your "So called" good fortune...

Well, you're not fooling anyone one bit! It just don't happen like this...everyone knows it!

So, quit trying to pull the wool over our eyes...We don't buy it!

(Wow, Carolyn...A Hugg?...cool...)

Donna Jean

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Babygirl Carolyn Marie,

Well, you're a rotten little #%*! I am Sooooo jealous of you. I hope you get sunburned in your little sun dress.... (Wow, that was a rather spiteful outburst...) :lol:

Seriously, that's just wonderful. It's really amazing the highs and lows we experience. Just a short time ago, you were lower than a snake in snowshoes and now you're orbiting with Astro_Liz. :D

Well, girlfriend, ride it high and proud. I hope this streak continues for you for a long time.

Your little girlfriend and playmate,

Babygirl,

Yvonne

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Guest sarah f

That is wonderful news Carolyn. I am so happy for you. It must make you feel really good to have such an understanding HR person and they even read a book on TG issues. I wonder why she read a book like that? Not many are open to our situations and don't want to know. Anyway, you are definatley living a charmed life right now and I hope it continues for a very long time.

Love,

Sarah F

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Guest ChloëC

Hi Carolyn,

What a great moment, among the many other ones. And what is also nice is to see that there are caring officials that do try to keep up on what's going on, so they can understand the different people that will have to deal with, and know how do it in an intelligent and open and supportive manner.

Just as many here are working on baby steps, it's also happening on a larger scale. Any single day may have some bad news, but overall, acceptance is progressing. And that's good. We all have this dream, and someday it will be true.

Hugs

Chloë

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Carolyn hon,

I am happy for you, your Hr person sounds like a wonderful person and likes staying up to date on potential issues in the workplace.

As you may have read i contacted my HR department in December 2008 then again in August 2009, and like yours they were ok with me transitioning, what i did not find out till a month ago from my manager is that i was not the first to transition at the company i work for, something i suspected and he confirmed.

Sounds like you have things well under control, but you can contact me anytime if you have any questions.

HUGS!!

Paula

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